When are your kids to old to bathe together?

@soccermom (3200)
United States
February 7, 2007 9:35pm CST
I have a 4 year old girl and a 16 month boy. (An 11 year old girl too, but obviously this post doesn't apply to her.) I have been letting the two little ones bathe together(with my supervision) for about a year. They really enjoy it and I can't even mention "bath" to one without them both running in there. My daughter has noticed the physical diffferences between them but really hasn't made an issue out of it, and my 16 month old just looks at it as his big sister is coming in to play. When did you put a stop to your kids taking baths together? It's convenient for me, as I work full time, coach soccer, etc..but I also know it has to end sometime. The question is..when?
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• United States
8 Feb 07
when the oldest one, the 4 year old starts asking questions. My five year old girl and 3 year old boy still take a bath together from time to time just to play. When either one take a bath without the other they get upset. My five year old doesn't even ask why my son is different. She doesn't care that he's different. I also have an eight year old boy and ten year old girl. They take one by themselves on the count of them wanting to keep their bodies private. I think usually when they reach first grade things start to change. In my situation anyway, the youngest two are not easily seperated.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
8 Feb 07
That's how it is with my two little ones, they can't breathe without each other. I'm grateful for that, all my kids are close, but it does get to be trying sometimes. Especially when it will get to the point when I have to explain to them they can't be in the bathroom together anymore.
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8 Feb 07
I think your 4 year old will probably tell you when she feels she is too old to bathe with her baby brother. I'm sure it will be a few years yet though. My 2 girls bath together and they are 5 and 2 and they have no problem with it, but of course being both girls they will probably carry on longer.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I think I'm going to stop worrying about it. Surely no damage is being done to either of them. I remeber when my oldest informed me she didn't need me hovering around her in the bathroom, and she also let me know when she didn't want her little sister in there with her anymore either. Thanks for the response!
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@gigisexy (220)
• Philippines
8 Feb 07
Well,i used to have nanis to bathe them when they were little and as soon as they started school they used to do it like one by one to make it more fast and easy.I did not notice when they started to be alone taking shower any way i have all girls and thier age gap is just a year..for you maybe you have to let them get used now bathing alone by themselves.if you have no other choices then maybe time will come when the older sis will decide to bathe alone esp. when she will start schooling ...
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
8 Feb 07
You were so lucky to have nannys! Especially with only a year between each child. I'm fortunate my oldest is like a "mini me" and helps out whenever possible. I would've ripped my hair out by now without her!
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• Canada
8 Feb 07
most parents i know end the siblings bath time together at age five. i also know parents who take baths with their kids and they stopped at age 5. i figured once their in school they aren't babies and toddlers anymore so they should have their seperate baths.
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• United States
8 Feb 07
My 3 still bathe together (as hard as I try to keep them from doing it because they get water everywhere). My girls are 6 1/2 and 4 and my son is 5. It doesn't matter what I do all 3 always end up in the tub together. I have no problem with them bathing together except when there is that many kids in the tub the water goes everywhere and I hate the mess in the bathroom. So I try to have my son go second after his sisters to keep the mess down. But they would rather be together. I know my oldest will tell me when she no longer wants to bathe with her brother and sister. She is starting to show signs of not wanting her brother in there. She gets mad when he watches her change (he is always in their room) and gets really mad if he goes in the bathroom while she is using it. So I'm sure it will be soon that she says no more brother in the bath with her.
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@michele609 (1687)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Well I have 5 year old twins and once they had turn 5 years old I stopped them from bathing together. But I really think that it is up to you. Cause you have a baby and a toddler. I think once the baby gets a little bit older then you should stop.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
8 Feb 07
Twins, god bless you, I don't know if I could handle that!
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@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
9 Feb 07
My daughter is fixing to turn 6 and my son will be 2 soon and they take a bath together all the time. I told my daughter when she wants to take a bath by herself to just let me know and every now and then she will take a shower by herself, or stay in the tub after I get her brother out. But for the most part they enjoy having someone to play with. I don't think there is anything wrong with it.
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@camar_lyn (1028)
• Singapore
9 Feb 07
This is great! I've been asking myself the same thing. However the difference is that i have 2 boys aged 5 and 3. I think things will start to change when my elder son goes to grade2 and the younder one goes to kindergarten as their schedules change, so will some other things i guess.
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@superbren (859)
8 Feb 07
i honestly think they are ok for a while. my son always begged his big sister to come in and play with him in the bath and she did until she was about 9. they had great fun and he still remembers the fun they had.i realise everyone has different views on this but my kids were fine and when my daughter started getting towards 10 she wanted to bathe alone.
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@warn810 (494)
• United States
8 Feb 07
I think I was too old when my mom placed me in the tub with my friend, she even took pictures, I have to find them and rip them up...
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• United States
8 Feb 07
I think it's fine for them to bathe together. Now if either makes a big deal about the differences, such as touching then I think it be appropriate to seperate them for baths. They are just babies though and I think you probably have a few more years before having to seriously worry.
@sylvia13 (1851)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
8 Feb 07
I wouldnt worry too much about it. I also have a girl and a boy, with one and a half year difference between them. They also used to bathe together when they were small and the girl loved to play the big sister/mother role with her brother! I think they kept on bathing together until they started going to school, which is usually around 6. The one starting school has to worry about other things, so that could be a good time to change things, without having to force anything. Enjoy your kids while they are young, as that stage is soon over. My kids are nearly 14 and 15.
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@XxAngelxX (2833)
• Canada
8 Feb 07
It is so much more convenient when we can put them in the tub together. I have 3 children, 12 (girl), 8 (boy) and 7 (girl). The twelve year old never bathed with the other two, however I use to put the two youngest in the tub together until they were probably 5 and 6. I use to wonder too about when was the right time to stop. Really it got to the point there wasn't really enough room for them to get cleaned properly and that's when I stopped. Neither of them ever commented on the differences in their bodies. I don't know if this is because they didn't notice, or if it was because they didn't care. But that's when I stopped, when they were big enough that they really needed more room in the tub for themselves.
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@charms88 (7543)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
I started training my eldest daughter when she turns 5. Right now, she's 8 and able to bathe herself. Even my youngest one who is 6 also bathe on her own. I think it is just a matter of discipline and giving your kids time to do things on their own. I tell you, it is a relief for me.
@charms88 (7543)
• Philippines
9 Feb 07
I started training my eldest daughter when she turns 5. Right now, she's 8 and able to bathe herself. Even my youngest one who is 6 also bathe on her own. I think it is just a matter of discipline and giving your kids time to do things on their own. I tell you, it is a relief for me.
• United States
9 Feb 07
I DONT know how we were doing it, but I believe I was still taking baths with my sister when I was like 11 yrs old! *L* I'm thinking now, how did we both fit in the tub? She would have been like 8 at the time we are 3 years apart. heehee. Oh well. Maybe I was 10 and she was 7? It was pretty old though and I dont know why we kept going for so long. *L*
• United States
8 Feb 07
I don't have a reason but I think its time...especially since the little girl has noticed. Better to stop it now before she in school. Sometimes little kids say things that get turned around and you don't want to have to deal with that when she goes to school.
• United States
8 Feb 07
well i think i bathed with my sister untill i was like 5 or 6. but it wasnt like everytime. more like if we were in a hurry and we had to go somewhere important that night. but i think maybe 3-4 years old should be the mark. not older then that, even if they have a younger sib. but hey, its up to you, so do what you wanna do.
• Canada
8 Feb 07
I read somewhere that it was OK until the older child starts to protest. They hit an age where nakendness becomes 'embarassing'. This ia all part of their development, and they say that we need to respect them when they go through it, even if we don't want to teach tham tha nakedness is embarrasing. It's the same with them seeing you naked - it's not a big deal until they start to tell you it makes them upset. That's how we did it with our boys - my son at abotu 7 started to protest nakendess, so no more shring baths, no more runing from the shower to the bedroom wrapped in a towel ... LOL.