I need good thoughts and prayers from my friends, please...
By cjsmom
@cjsmom (1423)
United States
February 13, 2007 2:15pm CST
My stepmother has had diabetes for years and she is now in her 70's...Within the last year her health has been worsening. We had finally started to become close the last 10 years; I used to hate her for breaking up my mom and dad.
She has had surgery on one of her eyes; they put silicone in her eye to protect it until it healed. They took it out a little while ago and found that one edge of her cornea hadn't healed; it was thin as paper, so they had to trim it and replace the silicone.
She has to have drops put in several times a day; having to set alarm to wake up to do it and my dad does it for her. He's such a wonderful man. I'm proud to have him as my father.
He called last week and told me that she got up to turn off the alarm at 3 a.m. to go to bathroom, etc. She resets it so dad can get up to go to work (he's semi-retired)...
Dad told me that he felt her get out of bed, heard her turn off the alarm and then, he felt a heavy weight land on the foot of the bed. He opened his eyes and saw her laying on her back. He ran around to face her and she was catatonic; her eyes were open, glazed over, looking at the ceiling.
She didn't blink at all and he thought she was dead. He was in her face calling out her name and tapping her face. She finally started blinking and saw his face in hers and said, "What?" She's always been a feisty lady.
He said, "You passed out, that's what!"
Well to make this long story short, she ended up going to hospital because she passed out several more times after that; even when my dad was at work...the doctors still can't figure out what's going on but they decided to put a pace maker in her day before yesterday.
I have the feeling that she won't be long for this world and it will just wreck my dad...
Please, everyone...Good thoughts for me and my family and for those who pray, that will be most appreciative as well.
Thank you
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19 responses
@earth2jacq (1502)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
I got sad after reading this story. Prayers are powerful. Try to put your intentions here www.littleflower.org .
When I am experiencing hardships in my life I always ask for the inctercession of St. Therese as she never fails to assist us in our prayers. You will know that she listens because a rose will always be sent to you in whatever form in the most uncommon places. I am wishing all the best for your stepmom.
@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
your dad is a great man. i wont blame you if you hated her first bec its your mom and dad. but at least now eventually u realize that everything happens for a reason. it was your mom and dad decision they know whats best for them both. and i happy to know that you have a nice stepmom, for sure she is coz your dad wont love her if shes not. i just hope she will be fine. just make sure that you are that everytime they need you your there, i know your making the the best time as possible. be ready and i hope your dad too, coz its a fact that each one of us will face judgement day and come to rest with the LORD. i just hope everything will be fine to you and most specially to your dad and your stepmom..dont worry i will pray that she will be given more time so that they can still express their love toward each other. godbless you and to your family.
@ElusiveButterfly (45939)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Hey, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Huggers.
@GardenGerty (157722)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Think hopeful thoughts when you think of her. The closeness you have developed should help. Pacemakers are often very effective. We will pray for you, and her, and your dad.
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Thank you, Heather...I'm glad you're one of my friends. I just wish I didn't live so far away from them; they live in Calif. and I'm only able to see them once a year, if I'm lucky. Most of the time we just don't have the funds needed; that's why I've been trying so hard to make money on the net...
But I'm sure if she ends up getting worse my husband will find a way to get the money for me and CJ to go.
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@deberooney (418)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I will keep her and your family in my thoughts and prayers!
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@fatal_ivory (238)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
I'm sad because of what you've told. It is really a sad feeling when you know that someone is leaving you in some point in your life. I hate goodbyes and leaving. But reality bites, it is really happening. Just have the courage to carry it all is, for me, an important tool for you and your family to move on. Just think that she will just go because she choose to be with the Lord. Having that thinking will make you at peace because you know that it is a better, much better place than here.
While she's here, let her feel the love from you, her family. Forgive her for all her short comings and mistakes. Spend more time with her. Make every single moment in the time before she left a memorable one. Encourage her and make her spirit lift for she needs it the most. Don't show to her that her days are counted. Enjoy every single day that you are with her.
I'll pray for her wellness and happiness.
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@money_maker01 (1097)
• Malaysia
14 Feb 07
hi CJ, i do understand how do you feel about it.i do understand why did you mad at her. well, i'm in the same situation of yours but you are a good person than me. till now on i still not like my step mom. but for what ever it is i still pray goodness of her. i do hope she'll be fine. i know, you guys must feel so upset in this time and if something happen to her it must be a big slap for you guys!! so for you guys happiness, i wish she'll be fine as soon as possible. hence, all of you will be in such smiles again. :)
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Thank you, money...I appreciate your kind words. It was hard for me to forgive my stepmom for taking my dad away from my mom so many years ago but I decided that it just wasn't right to hate her.
I wanted to be a good Christian and start to love her despite it all; it actually got easier as the years went on when I decided to do this.
You can do it; it won't happen overnite but you can feel love for your stepmom...just take it in little steps.
God Bless.
@suedarr (2382)
• Canada
14 Feb 07
I believe in the power of prayer and positive thinking. You and your family will definitely be in my thoughts. Take good care, and hopefully she will be much better with her pacemaker. My aunt lived more than a decade after she received hers and she also had other health issues to cope with. Try to stay positive and know that at times miracles can and do happen!!!
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@missmuffet (238)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I can understand your worry. I would be lost without my paprents. I will add them to prayer vigil and hope that God answers my prayers.
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@joodzki6 (596)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
ei...that's kinda sad story. but you know what, in this life, everyone has to go...and that's reality. We just have to learn accept things with all our hearts. if we have great faith in god...just leave it all to him.I'm sure he knows what's best for your stepmother. try to help your dad to accept reality of life. he needs you the most at this point of time. tell your dad to hang on, be strong and assure him that you will always there for him..no matter what. Hope i could help.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Dear Heavenly Father, You alone know all and have power over all the world. I ask you Father to comfort this family during these trying times. Please give this daughter strength to be there for her father and stepmother. Please Father put your hand on this father and comfort him as he faces these health problems of his wife. Father if it be your will please heal this stepmother from these health problems, guide the doctors as they work to help her, give strength to all who may be caring for her. I ask these things in the name of Jesus, amen.
@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
15 Feb 07
You are so kind...Thank you so very, very much for the prayer; it made me cry, it was so beautiful.
She made it through the pace maker surgery and dad says that she feels 100% better already...It's all because of everyone's kind thoughts and prayers and I thank you all.
Prayer does work, believe it everyone...
@smurfettewv (359)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Dear Lord what ever your will in this situation we ask that you comfort this woman and give her peace about her MIL illness and her own fears. Lord we ask that you comfort the whole family and let them get through this one day at a time Lord and not to forget tho thank you for athe time they have had or that is left.
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@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Thank you, ice...As long as your mom takes care of herself and follows her diet; not eating sweets or anything else that diabetics aren't suppose to eat, then she should be okay for a long time.
My stepmom didn't really take care of herself as she should have. She ate what she wanted, when she wanted including the candies. It's a wonder that she's lived this long.
Thank you for your prayers. Take care as well.
@rx4life (1930)
• United States
14 Feb 07
God Bless you all...and I will put your family on the prayer chain....I wish you could go see her...but I understand finances...I am so happy that you developed a good relationship in the last few years..that's so important..That she knows you love her is probably very comforting to her...The pacemaker may be a great thing for her condition...I have known those who get them and everything gets better because they have a normal heart rythym and better blood flow..it even helps with healing as the oxygen flows through the veins getting to all the areas that need healing..so I am praying that this is the case with her..Your dad is lucky to have 2 wonderful ladies that love him..you and her!!! Be well and have faith...
@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Thank you, 4life...I talked to my dad today and he said that the surgery went well. He's moved her into a rehab facility for a few days where they'll show her how to eat correctly and exercise.
He said that she is feeling so much better already; I almost cried over the phone. I told him that all my friends here at mylot had been praying for him and her; he was just tickled pink and thanks everyone.
