my mom is forcing us to have a church wedding 2 months after our civil marriage!

If you are legally married, your mom can't force you to do anything. If you want a church wedding, invite a few close friends and have a ceremony in the church. A small bouquet of flowers purchased at the supermarket for less than $10 should be all you need. There is nothing that says a church wedding has to have all kinds of fancy decorations, expensive dresses, and a reception afterwards. You don't even need bridesmaids, groomsmen, or ushers. Talk to your priest and see what he says. I think he will agree that it isn't the wedding that is the important thing. It is the marriage. If you have a good marriage, that is what really matters.

It is normal for parents to see their daughters walking down the isle. However, with your situation and the short period for preparation, in my own opinion I guess your rushing things too much. This may turn into a disaster wedding. I am not discouraging you. This still depends on you and your partner. It is best that you get a wedding planner for the things that are not yet done to lessen stress on your part because your pregnant.

If your mom is going to pay for it then I would do it and enjoy!!! If she is not paying for it, then you don't have to do it if you don't want to, she can't force you. If you are already legally married and you want the blessing of the church you can get a marriage blessing from the church without having another 'wedding'.

I say you are adults, your mom can't force anything. You're just choosing to obey her wishes if you go through with this (which is fine if it's also what you want).

civil wedding at that time (1995) was only 500 bucks. the next year the church wedding & everything, almost 60,000 bucks. how about now? it's too expensive even the simplest wedding. (but it turned out to be null & void) i understand your mom. mom was like her. she wanted a church wedding for me. let's understand her since i think she grew up with a VERY CONSERVATIVE family. just explain to her that you & your husband need to save so much for your delivery (nobody can tell if it's CS or normal), for a simple baptism & baby's needs. at least you're legally married even if just in a civil wedding. consider your baby a legitimate. don't think too much of it. you're right, it can affect the baby in your womb. just let your mom understand your situation. i know she only wants the best for you & for her soon to be grandchild. & i know she'll understand you.

actually, have you guys even looked into this yet? from what i understand, ( i have only heard it from one church though) if you get married any other way first, then it takes a few years to get the paperwork straightened out and fixed so that you can do it properly thru the church. me and my husband wanted to get married in vegas first, and then have a church wedding during the summer so that we could have all of our family and friends there with us. but we decided against it. thats when it was explained to us from our Father, that we would have had to wait a few years before getting married in church because of all of the paperwork. look into it. i hope this works out in your favor, and dont let her force you to do what you dont want to do. you are an adult. good luck with all of this.

My son had a civil wedding in Dec 2005 and I would also like him to have a Church wedding. However, I am leaving it up to him as I don't feel I have the right to interfere in his married life. If he eventually agrees, it will be just a simple wedding with brothers and sisters in attendance with none of the unneccessary frills. You too have the right to decide for yourself as regards what you would like. I am prepared to pay any expensed involved for my sons wedding so maybe if you mum is in a position to do so, she might do the same. Congratulations and your wedding and I hope everything will have a happy ending for you and your new baby. Best wishes.