Your myLot Friends - Do you form opinions on them?

myLotians at the Beach - Friends
United States
February 21, 2007 6:45am CST
During a conversation with a friend I mentioned something about one of my "myLot Friends" and my "real life friend" remarked it sounds as if your really knew them. To my surprise I realized I had subconsciously formed opinions on them. Examples: motherly, sweet, mean, intelligent, grouchy, entertaining, young, old, etc. Do you do this? If so what kind of labels do you give them.
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@Darkwing (21588)
21 Feb 07
Yes, I think it's a natural process to form opinions of people you meet on the internet, in the same way as you would your "real life friends". That's the way friendships are formed. Chat may be impersonal to start with, but you need to know to whom you're speaking on the net and whether you wish to continue speaking with them, and add them to your circle of friends. I've formed some very strong and trusting friendships online. There are friends who make me laugh, friends in whom I can confide, and they in me, friends who care and friends who will help me out with my computer work. I value these so very much, and look forward to seeing them just as much as I look forward to going out to meet my "real life friends". Thank you for this discussion, Whiteheather and Brightest Blessings.
@Thomas73 (1467)
• Switzerland
21 Feb 07
I can relate to what you just wrote, Whiteheather. I feel like I almost know my myLot friends personally. This is the beauty of having discussions here, as people tend to open up more -- or quicker -- than in real life.
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@deepuj (591)
• India
21 Feb 07
I agree with the point."People tend to open up more quickly than in real life". +
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• United States
21 Feb 07
I agree with you both as there is a kind of "safe" feeling in anonymity
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• Malaysia
22 Feb 07
i agree too
@lauriefnp (5112)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I find that I often mention my "MyLot friends" in conversations with friends and family. It is as if we know each other, to a point. There are some who are funny and entertaining, some are spiritual, kind, caring, thoughtful, serious, and quite intelligent. The problem with Internet friends is that you only know what is typed on the screen, however. You never really know the person for sure.
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• United States
21 Feb 07
Tee hee Thomas I did mention entertaining xxx (the dictator)
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@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
I only mention to my friends some of the new things that I've learned with my mylot friends, because I want to share it with them. I do give the usernames of my mylot friends to my friends who are curious to what information they shared, and what beautiful comments they are saying to such discussions. I even show them some of the discussions that I know I can share with them, to prove to them how I appreciate others views and it's relevance.
@deepuj (591)
• India
21 Feb 07
Hey i am not as experienced in mylot as u are, but still i have started to from opinion about some of my mylot friends, i feel as i go ahead using this i will get friendship with many more ppl. n it will be good.As of now i can say only about few guys in mylot, although i have about 200 friends in my friends list, i feel as i go on participation in these discussions i wud get to know many more ppl nicely. Thanks.
@classy56 (2883)
• United States
21 Feb 07
i quess i do form an opinion of my friends here on mylot.for instance you" i feel you are a respectable careing person with alot of knowledge an up to date on everything.an i have some friends i feel that are very lonely people.an i hope i can learn something from all of them.an im sure i will.
• United States
21 Feb 07
Thank you, what a nice opinion
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@palina77 (1178)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Real friend is "real friend" and cannot compare with mylot friends because mylot friends for getting response and for responding their postings. Read friend always available when in problem or when in happiness. Ofcourse exception is everywhere that is if mylot friends ca be closed too then he/she will be as real friend. I got one mylot freind as real friend with whom I met and done lot of fun, I got lot of cooperation and now he became as real friend. If I find time I meet him twice each week and talk over cell phone everyday many times. So mylot friends sometime can be real friend and best friends too as I can say from my own experience.
@GardenGerty (101616)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I do not think, for the most part, I make verbal images. Maybe for one or two. I do have feelings that surface when I think of them. Some of them almost feel like my family members. I get involved in their day to day struggles and triumphs. I do have an image of one in particular that is just the kitchen queen. I find that a good percentage of my friends remind me a lot of myself, just in other parts of the world.
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@blueskies (1186)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Oh absolutely. I find myself forming a mental picture of each of my mylot friends typing away at the computer. Sometimes, they will later post an actual picture of themselves and it's quite funny to see how far off my mental picture was. I think it's a natural thing to form friendships online. People feel a connection and start to chat through private messages, that progresses to instant messenger and emails. Eventually, many online friends meet in person; it's usually a very positive experience.
• United States
21 Feb 07
Yes, I have formed opinions of my MyLot friends. They are sweet, thoughtful, kind, and loving. If they aren't, then I don't keep them as friends on my list. I can tell a persons nature on their responses and emails. I'm glad that you are one of my friends.
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• United States
22 Feb 07
Thank you you are definitely one of the sweet ones.
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@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
21 Feb 07
That is not surprising, I am finding several people on here that I would love to know after hearing about their lives. I would like to consider them friend in the true sense of the word, not just i-friends. I don't label people, because labels are too limiting and we really don't know how someone means something when they are typing things on the internet.
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@irisheyes (4373)
• United States
21 Feb 07
It takes me a while to open up myself and a longer time to gauge other people. I think I'm just starting to get to know some of the people here. Until now, all I've been able to get a handle on is the obvious...eg. if someone seems really nice or if someone writes really well. All sorts of other things are just starting to emerge. Mostly they're pretty nice things so I'm settling in and enjoying it..
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@Ashida (1370)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I absoutely form opinions about people -- but not so much in what they say, but how they say it. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they write. Of course with a group of people as diverse as the myLot population, that can be tricky, but I tend to take that into consideration. I don't really have applicable labels though -- more like general tendencies like -- smart, funny, wise, smart-aleck (my favorite)and so forth...
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@avs189 (1030)
• India
21 Feb 07
Yea we get the nature of user of person from the kind of way he responds to the discussion...for example if the user replies very sharply then we can predict that he is a very rude user or someone who has very critic like attitude....ya we do tend to form opinions inwardly and mentally form a picutre of them in mind...
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Oh yes I do, and funny thing is I feel I can connect better with my virtual friends here than with my real ones on certain issues. I felt so happy when a friend here messaged me (Pups2Hug) and that's when I realised it is possible to become close to strangers. Most of my friends here are the sweet and concerned kind. When I tell my hubby he doesn't understand how I can be so close to them when I don't even know them that well! Hmm, that's the power of myLot I guess:) I have opinions about other users here, some are very mean and always hateful. I look at their profiles and think, man they are so young and so much hatred towards life so soon? That's beyond me to comprehend. But all in all, the ones on my friend's list are great and mean a lot to me:)
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@atrocious (209)
• Nepal
21 Feb 07
I have lots of friends in my real life and I also have made lots of friends over at the internet. I am kind of new to mylot so I do not have that many friends over here. But I do label my friends that I made on the internet. Some are nice, some are mean, some are kind, some are really sensitive etc etc. I guess everyone does this thing.
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@budsr03 (2354)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
Yes, i do that. I find myself laughing, feeling sad, worrying and caring for fellow mylotians. It's very similar to an extended family. Take care Whiteheather39.
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
21 Feb 07
Yes I do and have done all the time lol. Some of them and you are one of them I feel that I know them. But others I am still trying to figure lol. But yes I do make my own Opinions of them and funny enough I have just been on the Phone talking to my Friend who I met here on mylot about certain Friends lol.
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• Ireland
21 Feb 07
Yes, every evening when my husband returns from work, I give him an account of myLot friends and their latest topics. He now knows them as well as I do. If he asks which one I am talking about, I say "You know - the brainy one, or the one who posts litanies and the funny one who doesn't speak a lot of English but is very nice. I don't know if he's very interested but he usually hears me out.
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@Stiletto (4584)
21 Feb 07
Yes I definitely form opinions about them. As in "real life" I choose my myLot friends carefully and really apply the same criteria that I do to offline friends - shared interests, similar sense of humour, etc. And, again like "real life", they come into different categories - some talk more about fun stuff, some are more serious and thoughtful. I like them all though - I'm sure if I was to meet any of them we would get along.
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