I made up my mind and I'm sticking to it!

@soccermom (3200)
United States
March 16, 2007 7:29am CST
So I got up this morning, got my daughter off to school, got ready for work and have a few minutes to myself before I wake up the little ones. I have another full day at the office today and here's what I've decided. I AM NOT COOKING TONITE! I don't care if GOD appears and tells me I have to I AM NOT! I have gotten home from work at 5:30 every night this week and have cooked dinner and been stuck in the kitchen cleaning up until at least 8:00. Does anyone else out there hit the point where they say enough, I will not be a slave to my oven, tonite we order carry out!?
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@ricknkae (1726)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Oh I hear you ... and I would think most mothers would ... When you think about all the things to get done in a day ... especially when you have kids, suddenly time flies by ... So I have decided that I would keep cooking simple ... No more slaving in the kitchen peeling vegetables ! But I still can't buy already made food all the time - price + health ! - so I went for the hassle-free pot cooking What is it ? Well you take a pot, pour everything you got around the house in, cover with water and/or broth and let it cook ! ... I buy my vegetables frozen - I think they are healthier and taste better - so when I prepare dinner, I just pour some veggies in a pot, add some kind of meat - chicken and porc are really great for that - cover with water and let simmer for about an hour ... to enhance taste I just add some French herbs in the water and Voila ! ... no slaving ... and you have a delicious and healthy meal What do you think ?
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
16 Mar 07
My best friend was my crck pot for the longest time, then everyone in my house started complaining. My answer was "at least you have dinner." But I caved and started cooking again. Tonite we eat out, tomorrow I reintroduce that crock pot! LOL
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@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Sounds like a good idea to reintroduce that. I think we are using it tomorrow as well with the corned beef. Sometimes though you just have to find the easiest way to cook things. Fancy is nice but every day it's just too much work.
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@ricknkae (1726)
• United States
17 Mar 07
well if they are no happy about what you cook then tell them to cook dinner themselves!!! LOL they probably understand better what a hassle it can be! Good luck to you
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@cipher2004 (1183)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Wow I work at home and find it hard to keep up with things.I first shall give you the award as "Mom of the Year".Included with this first prize you will get your wish to do whatever you want tonight.You deserve it! The first thing my husband does when he comes home from work is look in all the pots and pans on the stove.If he see's nothing he goes to the stove.Then the refrigerator if there is nothing cooking.Then he say's "so what's up are we eating out"But I have to say one thing about him.He cleans all the dishes and mess when I cook.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
16 Mar 07
thanks for the award! LOL First I'd like to thank all my fellow MyLotters for their unending support...LOL Your hubby cleans up after dinner? I wonder what that would be like! my hubby is great about stuff, but never goes in the kitchen unless it's to see what he's being fed. He called on his lunch hour and asked what I was cooking tonite and I said carryout, he was like "are you serious?" I swear sometimes he's the biggest child I have!
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@jchampany (1131)
• United States
16 Mar 07
How many years did it take to get him to clean up after your done cooking?
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• United States
16 Mar 07
I am with you. I get so tired of spending half of my waking hours in the kitchen...and it isn't always just at the oven. How hard is it to make a sandwich or pour yourself something to drink? It sometimes, seems like I have Betty Crocker stamped on my forehead. I do not blame you at all for wanting some me time. I think that spouses and children sometimes take us for granted and just expect that we have super powers or something...work, cook, clean, take care of family, get very little sleep, and then do it again.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
16 Mar 07
The day in day out routine gets to the point where I almost feel like a robot. I get into my routine and if one thing screws it up I fly off the handle, and that's when I know it's time to step back and take a little break. Besides, my hubby has to work all day tomorrow so that means all the errands and stuff are up to me, with 3 kids in tow. I need to build up my strength for that! LOL
@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Not sure if it's Betty Crocker stamped there or just maid. I swear sometimes that's how it feels. When every time you turn around there is something to cook, clean or prepare you do feel like they take you for granted and don't realize what all you have to do. Why can't they do it themselves at least now and then? Would it kill them to?
@greengal (4288)
• United States
16 Mar 07
LOL the exact same thing happened with me last night, I was so fed up of cooking which is surprising because I love to cook, but yesterday I was in no mood whatsoever. I told my hubby and we ordered a take-out! I stay at home and still feel so bored at times, I wonder how you working moms do so. You go girl, enjoy your night out!:)
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
16 Mar 07
See, and I don't know how stay at home moms do it! I was home for a week with my kids once and thought by the time the week was over I'd have to be committed to the local looney bin!
@MsJessi (423)
• United States
16 Mar 07
AMEN! I am with you on that! I feel like I spend more time in the kitchen than anywhere else!!! Thank goodness I like my kitchen! :p But I agree with you! I do not feel like cooking tonite!!! I need a break. I got an idea, let's you and I go OUT to eat! LMAO!
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I read your profile, 3 toddlers huh? All of a sudden my life seems so much better! LOL A night out with no kids? I'm there MsJessi! :)
@MsJessi (423)
• United States
16 Mar 07
You know, one of my friends always says that...everytime she complains about her 2 kids driving her nuts, she always feels better after calling my house! lol!
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• United States
16 Mar 07
I hit that point every night. I am a single mom and every day I wake up get ready. Wake up my daughter and then we are off to the sitter. I work all day long then I pick her up and we go home or to the grocery store by the time we get home it is 6 most nights then I make dinner. Give her a bath read a book. once she is a sleep I clean the kitchen pick things up and make sure the house is clean. I sit down do the bills or make a menue for next week and then I am off to bed. I know the feeling and I say take out sounds great tonight can I come too?
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I remember when I was a single mom. My oldest daughter and I lived on take out because I was so wiped at the end of the day. You need a break too so of course you can come! LOL Just hope you don't mind the paper plates because I'm boycotting dishes tonight too! LOL Seriously, i feel for ya frogboots, I remember how hard it was to be a parent on my own, and I believe you'll be rewarded for doing a fine job one day. LOL
• India
16 Mar 07
sorry to say man this is ours dutu towads life that we have to carry out. dont forget when u were a child things similar to this were done by ur parents and that is one of the reasons that u r here in this great positon... do not take ur fear cover u instead fight it with the might that u have latent in u
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Mayan, my mother hardly ever cooked. It is a miracle I have turned into the mom I have with the way she was when we were growing up. maybe that's why I'm so good to my family. Dinner out once a week never hurt anybody, but if I had to go home and cook tonite..well...that might hurt somebody! LOL :)
@mobyfriend (1019)
• Netherlands
16 Mar 07
If you can afford it go for it. (I hit that point once week in which case my hub and I cook together or he bakes pancakes.) How about preparing one big meal one night (double portions) put the surplus in the freezer and serve that next friday? What will you order for your carry out? Pizza, Chinese whoo I'm getting hungry reading this post. Have a great meal.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I would love to have Chinese, but I'm allergic to MSg and last time we got it I specifically said NO MSG. Well, I ended up sick as a dog, so I'm a little leary on doing that again. I'd love to get some Thai food, but I'm the only one in the house that'll eat it. We'll probably end up with Italian. Who knows.
• United States
16 Mar 07
Good for you! I agree,and actaully I NEVER cook on Friday nights. We always go out or order. We all need a break after the long week and that's my treat for myself on Fridays. My husband loves it too.
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
16 Mar 07
New rule in the soccermom household..no cooking on Friday nights! I can't believe I never thought of it! My new weekly treat.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
16 Mar 07
LOL. I don't blame you one bit. I work at home online and while I'm doing that, I am also running around the house doing laundry, cleaning and you name it. I work on the internet off and on all day from about 6:00 a.m. until 5:00 p.m. daily. After 5:00 p.m., it is time to cook supper and get my shower. Summer is coming up and I will also have the yard work to keep up with. I do the bills and all in my family. My husband works outside the home and does alot of overtime. We do share some responsibilities around here when it is possible to do so. Alot of times, I don't feel like cooking either and I will have him pick something up on his way home from work. I get tired of trying to figure out what we are going to eat and then having to stand there and cook it. It takes up the rest of the time that I have left in the evenings. By the time I do all of that stuff, I am ready for bed. There just ins't enough time in a day and I use my energy up every day from daylight to dark.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Thanks for reminding me about the upcoming joy of yardwork. We bought our house in September from a professional landscaper, totally dumb on our part since I don't even like to weed, I have no clue on how I'm gonna maintain all the bushes and stuff. It looked good when we bought it though. And my hubby was just talking last night about what we'll need to buy to maintain it, he says he doesn't want to be "THAT" house with the cruddy looking yard this year. Maybe we'll eat takeout all weekend. LOL
@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I like your idea. We can't do the carry out right now but I have said enough and tonight it's "Fend for yourself" whatever you can find you can eat but I'm not cooking anything for anyone. They can figure something out that's easy and fast. Sandwich if nothing else if not left overs. It usually happens about once a month and they have learned to accept it. If not oh well I don't care. We all need a day off now and then.
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• United States
17 Mar 07
I can't believe you're not cooking! Am I hearing right?! You are going to order a take away? NOOOO! If you were my wife/girlfriend, I'd instantly divorce/breakup with you.
• United States
17 Mar 07
I truly understand your pain and the stress you're going through. Sometimes people do need a break or when to say "Enough is enough!". Just take it easy and one day at a time. That usually works for me.
@shevamp (120)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
oh cooking was never my area! just thinking about what to cook is already a pain...and actually doing it 3-4 times a day is just too much...go celebrate your freedom...eat out!
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• United States
17 Mar 07
I feel what you are saying. I do that about once a week, usually on weekends. Some times we even have a easy to cook meal such as hotdogs and fries, soup and grilled cheese things like that. It's ok to have a day off.
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@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
16 Mar 07
I think there is nothing wrong with ordering in sometimes, especially on a Friday night! Good for you for deciding to give yourself a break.
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• United States
16 Mar 07
Not anymore as I'm retired but I used to and when I had had it ..I had had it!!! They family either ate pizza or carryout. If not they could go hungry or fix somethings themselves!
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• United States
16 Mar 07
Right on, Sister! I don't even have children (a real incentive to rattle those pots and pans), and even I get fed up with the cooking thing. It's way overrated, except that I do like to eat and can't afford to go out much. Even using all the available shortcuts, like cooking one or two really big dishes and freezing the extra for future meals, doesn't always cut it. There's nothing like being waited on and then being able to walk away from the mess!!
@Anixie (89)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
I always order takeouts when I come home late or come home too tired to cook. My family understands when I don't feel like cooking. They don't force me to cook when I don't want to.
• Romania
16 Mar 07
u go girl! i think is the best option when the tie is pressureing u and beside that u have children too. i don't think God will punish u