Does your child interrupts when you are busy with a phone call?

@Melody1 (968)
India
March 17, 2007 2:09pm CST
Whenever I am busy talking on phone,my younger daughter keeps interrupting with her cute and silly questions making it very difficult to continue my conversation on phone. It is embarrasing particularly when it's your senior colleagues call. I have explained her that it's not proper to disturb and that she should wait till the call is through. She very obediently nods her head but does the same again.Lol. Most of the time that I am home ,I spend with her,listening and attending to her needs. Do you think you can help me by suggesting what I should do?
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@bluewings (3857)
17 Mar 07
I don't know how young is your daughter ,but here's what to do,lol.When she is chatting with her friends on phone ,ask her a recipe or some of those really meaningful questions.If she doesn't talk much on phone ,then do it while she is chatting on net with someone who is important to her.If she doesn't chat on net ,then try having a long conversation with her friend when one visits your place.I am sure she'd request you to stop at some stage and when she does, you barter :-P . I know you might think this is mean,but hey, it's only for a short time and it will solve your problem,lol.
@Melody1 (968)
• India
17 Mar 07
My younger one is eight years old.Sometimes when she watches her favourite TV channel,I disturb her then by asking too many questions,lol,and when she gets very agitated,I tell her that is exactly how I feel.So far it has worked for a short while. The only person she always obeys is my elder daughter who mostly comes to my rescue.:-)
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@bluewings (3857)
17 Mar 07
Ah,then letting her to do it for you is a better gamble,lol.
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
17 Mar 07
I know it is certainly.:-) Problem arises whenever she is not at home.She is a teenager and has her own life too.:-)
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• United States
17 Mar 07
We used to tell our kids not to interrupt us unless they or the house were on fire. It didn't work LOL. My suggestion to you would be get something a toy, coloring book, something that she can ONLY play with when you are on the phone. But tell her that if she interupts she will lose the privledge of using that item for a while. It should get thru pretty quickly. Good luck
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
Thanks maildumpster for the good suggestion.
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I am firm with my kids that there are two times to not make noise or interrupt. While on the phone or in the shower. They have been good since it was not worthwhile for them when they did offend. Being consistent and having the penalty fit this 'crime' they quickly learn to not interrupt. Find out what will be painful for her and do that so that she will not during those times when you need to be on the phone. (I didn't necessarily mean physical painful!) Good luck.
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
17 Mar 07
I understand what you mean willowlady and I appreciate your good suggestion.I think its high time I got strict as this is the only thing that i haven't resorted to and i feel that the answer most likely lies in this. In a year or two I feel good sense will prevail and she too will become an adorable child like my elder one.:-) Thanks for your reply.
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@kittyme (27)
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
my kids do it all the time.maybe you should go to a place far from them like locking your self in your room while you talk over the mobile phone or if not ghive her something like toyz to keep her busy.
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
17 Mar 07
She does it because she considers herself the only important person in your life, more important than anyone you might talk to on the phone or in person. I'd suggest you try getting angry with her when she dos it. its just rude to interrupt someone unless its an emergency. I'll bet she does the same thing when you are having a conversation with another adult as well. Simply tell her its rude and if she does it again, you will have no alternative but to punish her, then do so. Give her a time out for each time she does it, and guaranteed, she will learn that she is not the centre of your universe.
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
17 Mar 07
Are you in the same boat too?Its amazing how well you have figured it out.This is exactly how she behaves. I have tried the time out option.It works for a couple of days but again its the same story.Seeing her cry makes me miserable.I know I am hopeless when it comes to treating kids sternly. What you have suggested can prove effective.I'll see up to what extent I can follow.
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
18 Mar 07
I have 3 kids and4 grandkids so far, and have been babysitting for more than 40 years, All kids are like that if they get too much attention from one parent. They begin to believe that the parent is there to do everything they want only.
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
You have a very valid point there.Thanks.:-)
@tsgirl01 (900)
• United States
18 Mar 07
Well, there are no suggestions that I can make. I do understand why children do this. I am 49 years old and can remember quite clearly interrupting my Mother's phone calls. My children did it to me and my grandchildren do it to me and their parents. It is just a part of life. My Mom summed it up, "Children seem to sense that you are not paying them the full attention because you are on the phone with someone else." That is all I can contribute. Your daughter is not embarrasing you, callers should realize that you are so important to her that she wants your attention. I think it is fine. My granddaughter that lives with me is 12 and she does it.
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
Yes tsgirl01,what you say is also very true.Thanks.:-)
• Canada
18 Mar 07
She's 8, let her call one of her friends and interrupt her constantly, let her know what it really feels like to be having a conversation and be interrupted. I would personally send mine to her room, and tell her that it is an important call and she has to spend time in her room until it is done. If she comes out and proceeds to bother you , then I would make some concequences, something she likes looks forward too being taken away. Or tell her as soon as I am off the phone with this call then we can do something together, but if she interupts you let her know that you will not be spending one on one time with her.
@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
Thankyou proudmamabear,I'll do that.:-)
@Lxandra79 (1536)
• United States
17 Mar 07
All children do that, mines just talks and talks, and I cant scream at him because the person on the phone is gonna say that im rude or a bad mommy, and it gets on my nerves! what do u do in this situation? do u hush them or do u let them do what they want?
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
I am also trying to find an answer.You could take suggestions provided by people here.
@xXmeganxX (4423)
17 Mar 07
hello there don't feel alone my daughter screams at the top of her lungs when im on the phone, LOL. i just tend to not use the phone when she's around me or you could try going into a different room while you take the call, that's what i do and it makes life alot easier and saves me f=getting a headache too! =)
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
17 Mar 07
It seems your daughter is very young.Mine is eight years old.So she follows wherever I go.It's surprising though that when i am free,doubts don't occur in her mind. That's why i feel she does it deliberately.:-)
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• United States
18 Mar 07
I don't have a child but one of my cats is worse than a child!! Whenever I am on the phone she jumps on my shoulder, circles around my neck, shimmys back to my shoulders then hangs over my shoulder purring while I try to do my company calls.. I am sure some folks think I have a funny rattle but it is my Missy purring away! She always bothers me when I am on the phone.
@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
Lol.Your cat seems to be very possessive,just like kids. Imagine what people might be making out from the sound that your missy makes.:-D
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• United States
19 Mar 07
Well what is worse ..my cats.particularyly missy..choose the most inopportune times to do this.. I work from home and it requires for me to be on the phone during the day.. This is when she likes to do here little neck visit;)
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
Aw....Well,if missy understands what you say,then maybe you could try the suggestions given here. Good Luck my friend.:-)
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
18 Mar 07
When my son was younger, he use to do that ALL the time, with time, it took discipling him, taking a toy away, or time out and a lot of consistency. Also, explaining to him it's not nice to interrupt people when they are talking. Today he is a 12 year old and very polite, you just have to stick with the no's and discipline and not stop. In time they will understand that if I speak out like this without saying excuse me, I will get a toy taken away or be put in time out.. Good luck to you
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
I hope my younger one too grows up to be a well behaved and polite person.Consistency is the key word . A very good reply.Thanks mzbubblie.
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Thank you for the best response and yes consistency. Thank you again, have a great evening and good luck to you
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• Philippines
19 Mar 07
my cute little niece - this is my niece shes 1 year and 5 months old
i dont have a child yet but i have my cute little niece with me. above you'll see her as a big chubby cute little gurl. everytime im busy something shes always there making some mess. she even go with me everytime i have some visitors at our house... funny isnt it but it didn't bother that much because i love taking good care of her...
@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
Your patience is admirable.
@coolchai (700)
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
its normal that children would interrupt you during calls. since they want more of your attention. i feel they are being envious when you have someone on the phone and they dont know the person whom you are talking to. sometimes they are curious.
@Melody1 (968)
• India
27 Mar 07
Yes,Curiosity might be one of the reasons.:-)
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
Though my kids are grown up now, I remember telling them, that a good girl or a good boy never interfere with the discussion of the old ones even on phones. So when one of them disobey, I give rewards to the ones that follow my instruction. Thus, the next time the same situation comes in, everybody is cooperative and never interrupts me again. But of course, every child is different. The method of disciplining them varies.
@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
This could be a very good idea indeed.Thanks.
• United States
18 Mar 07
lol...I know that feeling I was on phone interview for a job. My kids were in the other room watching tv didn't have boo to say to me untill I got on the call...I was talking to this person and it was going well untill my daughter came out and started talking to me and asking questions....I tried to excuse my self as much as I could and apoligize and tried to get her to go into the other room...I guess I just wasn't meant to get that job...lol...so yeah I've sat in your boat with my kids before... they all do it I think.
@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
Yes I understand how you feel indigorain666.I think time is the only answer.Children will grow up and then we would be able to do things at our own choice.:-)
@Marie2473 (8521)
• Sweden
18 Mar 07
I do not have any kids, however my freinds son is just like this, and the only thing that helps is for me to talk with him for a while first and after she can say - well u spoke and I was quiet - donĀ“t you think you should do the same now.. then he will be wuiet.. however this just works with friends =)
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
I'm sure it does Marie.Thanks.:-)
@the_vicar (1478)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I taught my kids not to interrupt me when I was on the phone unless it was an emergency. I do think people stay on the phone too long and make children wait to get assistance or answer a question. So ask yourself "how long have I made my child wait?" "Is this converstion really that important?" If not, then get off of the phone, tend to your child and then call your friend back, because it is annoying to wait on the phone while the eprson they are talking to talks to their kids or to someone else.
@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
Thats right.I usually try to keep the cinversation short because most of the calls are formal in nature. My friends don't live in the same city.I mostly communicate with them through the net at night past her bedtime.
• United Arab Emirates
18 Mar 07
My daughter (7) does it all the time, when we are having a discussion, when I am on the phone, when we have guests over and I am in a conversation, she always interrupts with something that according to her, is most important. I have tried to make her understand by interrupting her when she is watching her favourite cartoon, but it did not work, and ultimately I thought: She is anyway the most important person in my universe! My friends, colleagues, family all understand that and we are all happy!
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@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
Lol.Very nice.I think its best to let others understand and come to terms,if the child is not listening.
• United States
18 Mar 07
Sweetheart I wish I could. I have four children of my own. They are 12, 10, 3, and 10 months. They will spend a whole day with nothing to say to me, and my phone will not ring. The minute the phone rings everyone of them have evrything in the world to say to me. Trust me, you can teach them and teach them and it does not change a thing. If you find some kind of solution, please let me know. Lorreen
@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
I'm trying friend.You too can read the responses here and select whichever suits best.Good luck.:-)
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
We have the same concern. My youngest son he just doesn't interrupt me but he wants to get the phone and make different sounds so my caller or someone on the other line could hear him. When I'm not the one who's using the phone he doesn't want to bother at all. It would be nice to hear some advice regarding this.
@Melody1 (968)
• India
19 Mar 07
Yes friend,you can take some good advices given here.