violance in the schools
By bicklelady
@bicklelady (1404)
United States
March 20, 2007 8:10pm CST
Back when I was going to school, there was fights but it was push and shove. Some time people used there fist. Now if you get into a fight in school you might get killed. It worries me so much for my son. I want him to experience life and public schools but I dont wont him to get hurt. My son is a Christian and he is really proud to stand up for his beliefs. He has never been in a fight but he will come home and tell me stories that really upset me. Why is there so much hate. They are just kids. They should not have all this anger in them. I think todays parents need to slow down and relise what is going on with there kids. Not all parents but some dont even need to be parents. I hope I dont offend anyone but I am so tired of seeing all these kids get into trouble and end up in prison or killed. Kids need to stay kids as long as they can. What do you thank?
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Unfortunately it is not just public schools anymore. At my girls school it's an atuomatic suspension, a visit with the police and a referral to juvey. Their school won't tolerate any kind of fighting or bullying. I think it has a lot to do with the lack of parenting and community support. People are afriad to disapline their kids and people in our communities are scared to say a kid is doing something wrong for fear of retaliation.
@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
21 Mar 07
If I heard that my son was being a bully or making fun of someone, I would go to school with him and hold his hand all day long just to show him that if he dont know how to act and how to treat other people, I guess he would need his mom to hold his hand.
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@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
21 Mar 07
yea you are right. I think if the bullying would stop, alot of the violance would stop.
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I think a lot of parents don't care or don't know how to parent. They were brought up to spank their children. BEAT is more like it. Now a days with child abuse laws so strict people are afraid to even discipline their child. That makes me so sad. Because you don't need to spank a child to discipline them. There are other ways and if you start when they are little they will respect you when they are teens. Another thing that is missing from alot of children's lives is love. Children learn what they live. If they have no love, they give no love. I feel that is why there is so much hate today because kids have no discipline. Because parents don't care or don't know the right way to do it.
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@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I agree and think it is so sad. I have learned that a child will act out, good or bad just to get some kind of attention.
@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
21 Mar 07
exactly, they will even make themselfs sick if they have to.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
21 Mar 07
you know what i do, i give my children the tools that they are going to need to be safe. i teach the the power of positive thinking and feeling. i teach them that you should be with people who are like you. the kids who like the things you like. i teach them that everyone is important and everyone is special. i teach them that you have brothers and sisters of many faces, and treat others as such. I am very blessed that my oldest has never had a fight in school or out of school. and my younger son who took just a bit longer to learn these lesson has become the model student doing just what his momma taught him. if you teach them well, then you don't worry. and i have no worries because i taught them not to worry
@keela_mark (128)
• United States
21 Mar 07
You are so very right. I believe that violence, abuse, and additions start at home. Like you, I was one who never encountered "real" violence in school. Back then, kids made appointments to have a fight i.e. "meet me at 3:00 on the playground". Now, it's straight up war! I am an elementary teacher and can already see which kids are on their way to becoming prison's finest. I hate to be so frank, but it's the truth.
@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I bet it is heart breaking to you. But you know there is only so much a teacher can do.
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@ramanis (5)
• Latvia
21 Mar 07
The reason for fights are that some kid thinks that he is so (cool) beating someone up. I personally think its stupid. and they have lived in bad families. so that he thinks its right to beat kids up.
thats my idea...
hope it helped a bit.
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I don't know what happened, but somewhere along the line, the school has lost their handle of discipline.And yes, some of the parents have lost their handle on discipline, but not all of us, my family has always maintained their concept of discipline,(and I don't mean military like discipline)I mean love discipline, that guides you,helps you,cares for you, and demands you respect right back, there is no need for physical punishment, its done with tough love!! My family has passed this on to me and my siblings and they carry it down to their families also,! A lot has to do with the parents, yes, But the school does nothing to help with this issue, and without them(they have the kids all day)I personally think the fight is useless, and overwhelming!!
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@primecrimson (1388)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I experienced many fights before especially during my teenage years. I am not a violent person and I really don't look for trouble. It is just that there are times that when somebody stepped down on your pride that I can't control myself. I jsut don't want to fight them but they provoke me. So I guess I have no choice but to accept the challenge.
It's really hard to escape from fight sometimes especially when you think that it's already too much.
@cjthedog64 (1552)
• United States
21 Mar 07
This is just another one of the many, many reasons why I hope to be able to homeschool DS when he gets older. All of the problems that are increasing in general society seem to be spiraling down towards the schools. Now they're even having problems in the grade schools. That used to be such a place of innocence and wonder. I want so much better for DS. I feel bad for all the kids who's parents DON'T care. :(
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I don't know Modestah, I think there would be too much of a contrast between,those families, and the families of today!! It's hard to come up with an easy solution,don't you think?
@neglitex (347)
• Latvia
21 Mar 07
We don't experience such problems in my school( which is in Latvia). Of course we have some fights which are usually not so bad and even lethal. And if we push and punch each other it is usually friendly punch :) I hope you will find solution to this problem....
@laltu86 (1249)
• India
21 Mar 07
Violance and 21st century are two amalgameted words , one can never seperate those two.
What i could say is that your kids belong to a reputable family and would surely not mingle with those nasty hoodlums,
thats for sure.
And i would also like to add a word for the police of the state that its there responsibility that they try to bring those way-words boys back into the system.
@moogiegirl (81)
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21 Mar 07
I believe that children have to grow up to young in this country. Most children have parents that are at work who come home tired and stressed out. I think that the government should be encouraging one parent to stay at home and count looking after their children as their job. I know that people can not afford to do this, but I believe that a better home life would keep children from getting into trouble and to learn better manners.
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Violence seems to be around every corner. We are exposed to it from every angle. I think kids need something positive to focus on. I agree, it is worse in schools today. But then again, there are a lot more schools and kids in the system. I agree that parents are just as confused about violence as the kids in some cases. I don't know how long kids should stay kids. But I do belive that as they grow up, they can still see the world from a "kids" point of view. And that is that it is a wonderous place where they can be anything they want.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I agree, kids need to be kids but we have to face the fact that more and more kids are growing up way too fast and they are missing out on being "children". In an ideal world everyone would slow down and enjoy the glorious things God has given us. But, that's not going to happen, the world will continue on this fast track to he!! All we can do is pray and continue to minister to as many as possible - Sharing God's love with all we come in contact with.
@mummymo (23706)
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21 Mar 07
I think here in the uk things are also getting worse! I worry about my son too, he is at high school, is quite sensitive and seems very confident but is in fact not at all confident! To add to this his grades are excellent and he is popular with teachers - not a grat combination when faced with some of the kids that are out there these days! Niall is also a christian and it can really upset about the things people say! All we can do is be there for them , give them encouragement and support!
@terilee79720 (3621)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I agree bicklelady.
Kids should be allowed to be kids.
You said your son is a Christian, then he (and you) know the anger and hatred are evidence of who and what is in control of these children's (and family's) lives. The only thing we can do is try to teach our children well. They might seperate themselves from our teaching as they search for their own identity in life, but will soon return to the truth. Send up some prayers for those who are controlled by fear, anger and hatred. It couldn't hurt, and be sure and teach your son to do the same and to keep his armor on.
