Don't bad mouth me

@winterose (39918)
Canada
March 22, 2007 2:15pm CST
Years ago my best friend at the time would come to me what all these stories about what people were saying about me. It was a community of people who gossiped a lot. When day I told her that I didn't care what those people said they did not know me, but she did, and I was very hurt that she did not defend my honour and let them know that I was not the type of person they thought I was. If somebody was bad mouthing your friend, would you stick up for your friend, or would you believe the gossipers?
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I would definitely take up for my friend. i have always done that. No one would ever take up for me though. I never really had any close friends because they all backstabbed me from the start. I always did everything that I could for them but they never returned the favor. I would never believe a gossiper. I can't stand gossipers anyway. I would definitely stand up for my friend if someone was talking about them. I just wish they would do the same thing for me.
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
It really hurts when your own friends do not stick up for your when somebody says bad things. This particular person in my life was not a good friend and in the end we did part ways.
• Singapore
22 Mar 07
With no additional information, I would first defend my friend if I believe her. Then I would seek to clarify with her what really happened. Rumors are terrible.. never endeavor to spread them if possible. ;-)
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@RonAdi (5)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I would defintely stick up with my friend and just ignore the gossipers, because gossipers is a type of person that nothing to do but criticize the people, and they don't have any mirror in thier houses because they don't want to be criticized. I don't blame my friend for not defending me, because is thier choice to tell us what they heard. Because they care for us, they are our friends maybe me and my friend would fought the gossipers after i heard what they been gossiping around. Stick to your friend.
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• Philippines
23 Mar 07
i agree with you. i would stick with my friend. i respect my friend for his or her decision if she didnt response or defend me. she has her own decision for herself.
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• Canada
23 Mar 07
I believe a true friend would defend.. goodness i have defended many of mine and vice versa. It does not matter to them you could be the sweetest person in the room and they woiuld still find a fault and usually if they they will make on up.. dont worry be happy life is too short to dwell my dear
• United States
23 Mar 07
I will always stick up for my friends. I think gosspiers are some of the most hateful people on Earth. Idon't understand why people can't just mind their own business. If you really want to know the truth, you need to ask that person about it. 99% of the time you'll end up looking like an a** because 99% of the time gossip isn't true or has been blown way out of proportion.
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@EvanHunter (4028)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Any friend would stick up for their friend in a situation like this, unless they believed their friend to be in the wrong. I think your friend might love the gossip and probly is a bit of an instigator and was hoping to get you worked up too.
@txwoman36 (173)
• United States
23 Mar 07
if i knew this person i would defend them. i had a friend now an ex friend and she wouldnt defend me when her parents talked bad about me but if someone did that to her i would defend her. it upset me knowing she didnt defend me. i have a friend i have known for 11 yrs and if someone talked bad about him i would tell that person off in a heart beat and he would do the same for me. hes told someone off in front of me that was talking bad about me. to me that is a true freiend that would do that for you.
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@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
23 Mar 07
I would definitely try to stop the bad mouthing. There is nothing to believe, you already named them gossipers. If I don't think I want to stop them talking, I will just change the topic or walk away if the conversation is going to be stuck there. Its just a waste of time.
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• Philippines
23 Mar 07
for my friend, i will defend her. it is my obligation to defend him or her. dont feel bad if ur friend didnt defend u, she or he must have a reason for it. maybe she didnt defend you so that she could spy them to know more about what their talking about you. it is some way of tactics.
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• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I will save the honour of my friend especially if the words that they are talking about are not true and is not good to hear. It also happen to me before. I have a close friend in college and some people talk a lot about me and make bad comments. She did tell me that these people say this and that thing to you but she did not even save of confront to them why they say such words to me. Actually I hate her but because we have friendship memories I still forgive her.
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@cherinai (65)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
if i do heard a gossip about my friend..ill defend her to the end..ill chose my friend over anybody else esp.to those who have itchy mouths..i love my friends, they are one of my rare treasures. (",)
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@aprilsong (1886)
• China
23 Mar 07
i feel sorry for what u said,i think i true friend should understand well his or her friends and defend their honour when others distort truth,if she or he can't do this, i think she or he is not true friend
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@DeaXyza (577)
• United States
23 Mar 07
If it were my friend all the gossipers would have gotten an earful and so much so they would never had the guts to bad mouth my friend in front of me. I know my friends very well to protect them! Secondly my friend would have never known hat there was any gossip about her or him, 'cos taking a bad publicity to a dear friend will only hurt her. But in case I am not able to shut up the bad mouthers, then I will arrange a secret tete-a-tete and expose their meanness to her/him so that she/ he can set them right once and for all! what do you say to that, mean people ought to be treated with equal amount of deviousness just to put them in place! hee hee hee I am the devil itself
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@mizkha (7)
• United States
23 Mar 07
well, i know my "friends" better for as far as i am concerned. if that happened to me, i would listen to what they say, but i would also definitely protest and correct the things that they are saying against my friends. i know them better and they're my friends. i believe that no matter what the reputation of your friends are , they have all the rights of keeping their personhood clean to all people. i don't wanna to become another "judas", you know :)
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• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I'll stick with my friend if I know the truth. Sometimes our friends also lie to us so it really depends with the situation.
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@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I would defend a friend - and have. I would also defend myself if they were lying about me.
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@angel_690 (209)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I consider myself a very loyal friend and I have always stuck up for my best friends even if sometimes my best friend may be a little bold when speaking to others. My friends are as important to me as my family I only have a few that I feel that close to but the ones I do, I am definately in their corner if someone else was to bad mouth them. I feel that they should also show me the same loyalty as well.
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@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
I have and I will always defend my friends because I do pick good friends. I have usually had the same positive response from my friends which is a good thing. I say that because today was a terrible day for me. Please read my new thread, it'll explain it there. I'd at least like to know what the heck I did wrong ???? Take Care...
• United States
22 Mar 07
I don't believe anything about a person that I haven't learned for myself. And I would defend my friend's name if what was being said about him/her was untrue.
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@muzimumm (27)
• Estonia
22 Mar 07
I guess it is not a real friend who does so. You should always defend your friend, well, when all this gossip is really wrong. It is always sad to hear some bad things told about yourself but we should not worry about it too much.
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