why are people afraid to admit they are still virgins?? tell me..

@liranlgo (5743)
Israel
March 24, 2007 7:39pm CST
i find it very strange that people are afraid to say that they are still virgins i know no one really wants to share their intimate world with anyone..but still when that question rises they are afraid saying that word: a virgin.. have you ever been in this situation you were asked that question and answered:NO..but you still were.. were you so affraid to be a virgin that you did the "thing" in order not to be ashamed.. when? where ? why?
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Being a virgin or not is not important at all,it is a fact only. I have not been asked something about this before, so i do not need to lie,but i also notice this phenomena. People think it will be embarassing to tell other they are virgins, because it just means they are being left over and no one take them. I totally disagree with it as everyone has their choices to who and when they want to have intimacy with, there is nothing ashamed to say you are a virgin. It seems that there is a speicfic age of losing virginity in different society, if someone is still a virgin after that age, and they will be labeled as losers.
@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
yes you are right easy, it is idiotic those labels. it is interesting to know ,now when you braught this topic up what is the age in each country that is common for losing the virginity. and yes i do agree with all you said.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
5 May 07
thank you for the best response.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
5 May 07
You are welcome dear easy:)
@xtedaxcvg (3191)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
Maybe it's because of the reaction or the responses the person might get from other people. Some will react negatively while others might find it humorous. Either way it's still not ethical to ask someone if he/she is still a virgin as it will definitely lead to something not good. Besides, why would you ask someone if they're still a virgin? Would it benefit you if you'd known that? What do you plan or intend to do next? What GOOD will it do if you've known that a person is still a virgin or not? Unless of course you want to get it on with him/her.
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@xtedaxcvg (3191)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
sorry for the double post..my ISP is acting up again.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
that is o.k. i am sure alote of us had our technical problems:)
@kamran12 (5556)
• Pakistan
25 Mar 07
firstly, it's a personal affair so people shy away from giving any answer at first place as they don't feel like sharing personal life with others. secondly the reaction or response also depnd on the society and environment, like in a us or europian environment where usually being vergin is translated as nobody likes you! so people don't want to be hurt by acceoting this fact, so either they tend to be liked on way or the other or they simply lie and say No when actually they are. i have sen an old lady here who told me that when she was asked this question she was surprised and confused about what to say. she said that she was a virgin but as almost all of her friends were not so she was like am i different!!
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
wow this is a tough situation but it is really needs to be taken care of by society if we would do things out of pressure and be ashamed of being ourselfs it can only lead to bad results. don't you think?
@kamran12 (5556)
• Pakistan
1 Apr 07
yeah, you are absolutely right. anything not true can't give good results. this was just to share what i see here and at different places. offcourse every society has it's strengths as well as weaknesses.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
5 May 07
I lost mine when I was 19, and I was never ashamed to be a virgin, and I have never been ashamed to have lost it. I do belive that things have changed in the last decade - it is just not as ok to be different these days... I am who I am and I am proud of it.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
5 May 07
I like what you wrote and how you think marie. Yes we are who we are and we should be proud of it.
@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
Me, i will not afraid to admit that i'm still a virgin. I will be proud of it and wanted to know all of the people that no body already taken my virginity.. And that's only before when i was in my high school years..lol But now, i'm not virgin anymore. I'm already a mother with one child. And still i'm not afraid to admit that i am not a virgin anymore..lol I dont know what's the reason of some girls afraid of admitting that they are still a virgin.. Be proud of it..
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
2 Apr 07
lol..a mother and still affraid to admit that that's a nice one cherriemae:)
@arvee17 (730)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
oh where i live, it is the other way around... if you are not a virgin and they found out, they think less of you. specially if you are a gal. but if the gal is so old and still a virgin we tend to make fun of her.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
27 Mar 07
that is sad..i wish you have treated this issue differently
@dpk262006 (55919)
• Delhi, India
26 Mar 07
Lirnlgo, before I could reply to your discussion, I would like one clarification from you, have you directed this discussion towards females only???? If it is for males also, then please let me know, so that I could share my thoughts. Because I feel that both male and female can be termed as 'virgin'
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
26 Mar 07
i have directed this discussion to both male and females dpk:)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
For us filipinos, we do value virginity..As much as possible we should remain to be virgin till we marry..that's the best gift we can give to our mate..Americans and Filipinos do have different culture, if Americans are afraid to admit that they are still virgins, we Filipinos are also afraid to admit that we are no longer virgins...see the difference?
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
26 Mar 07
yes the israelis are much like the americans with this issue..
@cjthedog64 (1554)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Most people who haven't been intimate haven't discussed many intimate things. They tend to keep it all inside. Once it's done, they don't feel so uncomfortable to talk about it. I don't think it's a matter of being ashamed, just not used to talking about it. That's the way it was for me at least.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
i do honor what you are saying and do understand that alote of people do not feel right, open or that it is anyone business sharing their intimate details. i ofcourse as always was the oppisite before i had my experiance i did not have any trouble hearing and talking about it. but once i went through my first experiance i do not tend to talk about details. even have a hard time speaking about it with my closest friends. i do think that this is usually somthing between me and the partner.
@lifetalk (681)
• Pakistan
25 Mar 07
Well, I am a virgin, and am not at all ashamed of it, or saying it if someone asks me. I know that people are ashamed. SOme of them are. Basically, losing your virginity in an early age is something that has become the 'in' thing now. People consider it the latest trend and all. And for people who are not into the latest trend, yet have frnds who are, feel that lying about it would be the best way to keep their 'respect' within the social circle. Now ofcourse that's something i think, and opinions are personal, and thus can differ ;)
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
i do feel the same as you:)
@aribaba (368)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 07
really? that's sounds fun to me because from the place where I came from people are afraid to admit they are not virgins! :D. it's the matter of culture I think!
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
different cultures different religions..amazing ah?:)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
just ME with a silly smile - Ever wondered how God distributed the goods?
I admit I am not anymore a virgin. How I wish I stil am. I think people, most especially boys, are afraid to say that they are still virgins because saying that you screwed up with somebody (better if you made it with a bunch) is somewhat an ego booster. Much like in a dormitory or in high school, sticking it up with anybody is a ticket to being popular.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
thanks for this response abs you are right about this popularity issue..
• Portugal
25 Mar 07
I don't think this is really true. I know some people that are really proud of being virgins and are saving their virginity to the honey moon. It's all about culture where you are inserted. Some cultures think of it as something that we should be proud and others just think that we should lose it right when we can.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
i think you did described it accurate. it usually motivated by our culture and it's beliefs:)
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I feel that we don't need to rush into anything in life.Waiting for that right person is more important than jumping in bed with just anybody. Following the crowd does not lead you to positive things in life. There is no need for anyone to be ashamed of being a virgin.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
i do feel the same as you:)
@xtedaxcvg (3191)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
Maybe it's because of the reaction or the responses the person might get from other people. Some will react negatively while others might find it humorous. Either way it's still not ethical to ask someone if he/she is still a virgin as it will definitely lead to something not good. Besides, why would you ask someone if they're still a virgin? Would it benefit you if you'd known that? What do you plan or intend to do next? What GOOD will it do if you've known that a person is still a virgin or not? Unless of course you want to get it on with him/her.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
i was not talking about is it right or wrong to ask a person if he or she is a virgin. i was talking about a fact. about a problem. that do exists. and how to deal with it. if it is polite or not is another question ..maybe i'll open a new topic about that..:)
@missybal (4492)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Shot... I was proud to say I was when I was. Every other girl I knew was telling me they lost theirs at age 13 or 14 and they had already been with 5-10 guys. They made fun of me and looked at me like I was some kind of freak to have not lost mine at age 17. I'm not ugly or anything, infact I use to model a little so they told me I had to be lying. I didn't do it for anyone but myself when I finally did.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
that is beautiful what you just said right now. and i am very happy knowing that you could be honest and yourself even when the people around you used so much pressure. you are the example i was talking about in this topic:)
@dr_sadiq (94)
• India
25 Mar 07
virginity directly concerned to ur social behaviour.it makes a lot difference when ur virgin.if u frankly speaks that i m not virgin,then their might be chances of some pples avoid u for their marriage. so many of afraids to say that they are not virgin.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
i think that you are talking about how the religion and religious people are seeing that. and i do respect it.
@sshazie (253)
• Singapore
25 Mar 07
i would think this happens mostly to guys. the issue abt losing their virginity seem to be related to how capable they are as a MAN. something to do with ego and guts. like ive heard a guy commenting on his fren ...waa.. still a virgin? no guts issit?
@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
yes but most of the time it does effect the young girls who adore the guys. especially when we are talking about teenagers..
@omerta (90)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
no im not,,, i have been ask one time.. i answer honestly.. i think some of the people theyre afraid because of the discrimination... but for me i feel proud that im a virgin... i believe that being a virgin is the greatest gift you can offer to your husband..:)
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
that is nice. i am happy you think that way:)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
no, im not afraid to admit. why the hell should women be afraid to admit that? i don't think it's a trend now to not be a virgin. duh. you can always lose your virginity anytime to anyone. but you can never get it back. so lucky are the guys who catch a virgin, they'll have fun during honeymoon. lol! XD
@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
25 Mar 07
well i am not that sure about having the time of their life..if their first try is at the honeymoon..lol..but i do respect it.