My 2 year old picked up a phrase I'm not too happy about!

United States
March 28, 2007 11:02am CST
My daughter turned 2 in November. She is the youngest of 5 children. She's pretty much spoiled because my other kids are older. (20,18,15,12) Besides being spoiled, she has a pretty good vocabulary and repeats everything around her. I'm a little concerned because she keeps saying "Oh my God". She picked up from her Dad. I'm upset because in my eyes, she using God's name in vain. My husband disagrees. It's been a long time since Catechism but I'm pretty unless you praying or speaking about God any other usage of God is considered using his name in vain. I haven't disciplined her about it. I just keep saying OH my Goodness or Oh my gosh!
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@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
28 Mar 07
To me it is using the name in vain. It was one of those things you never did around my parents and I guess I just grew accustome to it and always told my children to not do it. Maybe if youu ignore it or let her know it's not a nice word she will stop. It's hard at that age because they just think everything is so neet exspecially if they can get a reaction out of you.
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• United States
28 Mar 07
Oh my, if I ever said something like that around my Mom I could certainly expected to be backhanded. My Mom is very religious.
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@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Your reaction is DEFINATELY a factor...good point limosonia1....that being said, when you correct her, do it in a calm voice or even with a "well thats not very lady like I think saying oh my gosh is much nicer" or somethign along those lines (You get what I mean I'm sure)
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• United States
28 Mar 07
It's hard not to react because she says it with such emotion. But I do remain neutral and calmly correct her. She's in parrot mode so to speak.
• Canada
15 Apr 07
Honestly hun I think your doing the right thing by correcting her and getting her to say "Oh my gosh or goodness." She will catch on I think! Good luck!
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• United States
16 May 07
I'm happy to report she's over that phrase..but my older kids are rattling my nerves with the words they are teaching her. No cuss words but still inapproaiate....you're stupid, retard, ugly, you stink.. I don't understand why kids have to say these things.
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• Canada
16 May 07
I'm glad to hear that she is past that phase, but am sorry to hear she's in a new one. Saying the things she is saying now isn't good, hopefully your other kids will realize that small children are copy cats weither it's good or bad language.
@Bee1955 (3886)
• United States
16 Apr 07
You should encourage her to say what you say instead. When she goes out and says this, a lot of people might be offended, too, as you thought.
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• United States
16 May 07
I'm think it's more about my upbringing vs. what other people think. She's not saying it as much but my older kids...ughhhh make my job difficult.
• United States
10 Apr 07
I agree with you that it is using His name in vain. However, I have to admit that I struggle with saying it myself sometimes. I'd recommend that you not discipline her for what she's saying. I doubt a 2 year old can fully understand what's right and wrong. You know, this is really silly, but I can actually remember back to one of my Sunday school teachers who always told us that saying God's name in vain was like calling him on the phone and then hanging up. For some reason, that stuck with me. It was easier for me to relate to that as a kid rather than the big theoretical religious conotation!! And now when I slip up, I instantly feel guilty. Don't you love how Sunday school can do that to you all these years later? So maybe trying to have a discussion with her on that level might help. You don't want to be prank calling God!! :-)
• United States
16 May 07
I say it myself on ocassion but usually if I have been around someone who uses it frequently. You are right in saying Sunday school sticks with you forever.
@cipher2004 (1183)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I baby sit a girl who just turned 3.She used to say "oh,my God" also.I did the same thing with her.I just keep correcting her.I also say "thats not nice".When she would ask why I say "how would you like people saying "Oh my Carrie" all day." Then she would stop for awhile.But when she says it again I start saying "Oh my Carrie" and it gets on her nerves.She hasn't said it in a while.I hope I cured her.I don't like that she uses the lords name in vain.I think you are right to correct her.When she gets a little older you can tell her why it is not nice to say that.
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• United States
11 Apr 07
LOL, that's funny. My 15 year old daughter has been telling my little one one to say OH MY! Cherry PIE! It's working for now. She's still saying "oh my god" but but not as much and not everday.
@Stephanie5 (2947)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I have the same problem with my 2 year old and also my 5 year old. I keep correcting them, but it's not working very well. I guess if I can't get them to stop QUICKLY, I'm going to have to start punishing them for it somehow. Good Luck!
• Canada
1 Apr 07
I have an idea. As well as correcting them, try correcting adult offenders, who curse in their presence!!!! Kids will not fix a behavour that they think others get away with.
@pangeacat (619)
• United States
29 Mar 07
You're already doing the right thing. I'm not Christian, but my father is and he spends a lot of time with my girls. My ex-husband had a habit of saying "Oh My God" all the time. This bothered my father greatly. I may not be Christian, but I do respect the religion (which is why I try to make sure I capitolize "God", "Christian", etc.). Out of respect for his beliefs and level of comfortability, I started saying "Oh my goodness" or "Oh gosh" everytime one of my girls said "oh my God." I didn't tell them that what they were doing was bad though, or discipline or punish them in any way for what they were saying (after all, even if I did consider it taking the Lords name in vain ~ they are children and it's not really they're fault. They are still learning the english language, and so it is a natural part of their development to repeat everything they hear. I can't fault them for being normal.). Within a few months, they started saying "oh gosh" (it was shorter than oh my goodness, and they appeared to prefer the "sh" sound.). So, just keep doing what you're doing. When she's older, you can always calmly explain to her why you believe this is wrong, and why it would make you more comfortable if she didn't say it.
• United States
4 Apr 07
My Mom would freak out if he heard my daughter saying OH MY GOD! It's kind of a good thing that we live far away.
29 Mar 07
you are doing the perfect thing... repeating what you'd rather she said is the best way to get them to stop... when my son turned 2 he started to call me teresa!! All i did was say 'Mummy' whenever he said teresa and eventually he got out of the habit!! Good luck to ya
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• United States
4 Apr 07
Yikes about your son, LOL I'm waiting for my daughter to start that one too! My older kids did it when they were younger too!
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
It's normal for children to repeat words and make a habit out of it. But if you explain why you don't want her to say that, I'm sure she'll try her best to stop that. I said 'TRY', because if the source of the expression, like in this case, your husband, keeps on doing that, it will be hard for the little one to forget. I had this problem with my daughter saying 'stupid' all the time. She got it from one of the cartoon shows she watches frequently. Without even knowing the meaning, she flaunts the new word by saying it often. I told her what it means and why she should not say it. So right now, I think it's working somehow as she is watching her every word. Hope it works too with your little girl. :)
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• United States
4 Apr 07
I hope so too! I'm glad your daughter can understand the power of words and decided to watch her every word.
• United States
29 Mar 07
I think if she will not hear the phrase anymore and she will discover another fascinating word, she will just forget the expression. At this age, their minds is like sponges so they can learn things easily and will move on to other fascinating things. Tell her calmly that the expression is not nice and if she still continue, show no reaction. Sooner or later, she will get tired of that expression and wil find a new one.
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• United States
4 Apr 07
She's already losing interest since I sat everyone down and explained how they really need to be careful what they say around her.
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
It's normal for children to repeat words and make a habit out of it. But if you explain why you don't want her to say that, I'm sure she'll try her best to stop that. I said 'TRY', because if the source of the expression, like in this case, your husband, keeps on doing that, it will be hard for the little one to forget. I had this problem with my daughter saying 'stupid' all the time. She got it from one of the cartoon shows she watches frequently. Without even knowing the meaning, she flaunts the new word by saying it often. I told her what it means and why she should not say it. So right now, I think it's working somehow as she is watching her every word. Hope it works too with your little girl. :)
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• United States
29 Mar 07
My older kids went thru the "stupid" word phase too! It drove me crazy. Now, my 12 year old has been coming home from school using some words I'm not happy to hear either.
@chertsy (3804)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I never thought of it as using the Lord's name in vain. I always thought it was in vain to put things after his name. Either way you are going to have a problem nipping this in the bud with hubby saying it all the time and thinking its not bad. You need to explain to him now is the time to really watch what you say. Since she's into repeating what she hears, one thing hubby doesn't want her repeating is a even dirtier word. My two kids, bless there hearts. My first when she was at that same age as your daughter would say s*it when she was trying to say sit. My youngest was trying to say witch, because it was on tv at the time, it didn't come out that way. All it takes is someone laughing or thinking it's funny especially a sibling, then if your not lucky, you will hear that word a lot.
• United States
29 Mar 07
I do agree the older siblings aren't making my job easier. My daughter has a little trouble pronouncing BEACH. It comes out sounding a lot like B*tch. Of course the older kids think this is a riot and keep asking her to say it and laughing about it. They do get in trouble. I try to do it on the down low but when I hear the laughter, I always check to see what they are up to.
@14missy (3185)
• Australia
29 Mar 07
I agree with you. My youngest child is 5 and apart from a lor of things he has picked up around the place, he says this too. I tend to pick him up on this one more than anything else. He just says it's alright because he's saying God's name and that's OK. I guess when they are older they will realise it is not right to do. Just keep doing the right thing in front of her and she will pick up on it.
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• United States
29 Mar 07
Your son is cute in his beliefs. When I was little and learning about God I always expected him to appear just because I said his name. I remember all the adults telling him God is everywhere, he sees everything you do.
• United States
29 Mar 07
If your husband says it, it won't do any good to discipline her. I don't see the problem in her saying it unless you are a very religious woman, surrounded by other religious people. I myself wouldn't be offend if I say a young girl say that, its very common in our day and age for them to say things like that. I really do understand how you are upset, you and your husband need to let her know that its offensive to both of you for her to understand.
• United States
29 Mar 07
I wouldn't say I am a very religious person although my Mom raised me to be and using God's name in vain was considered worse than cussing. I remember I said God Bless You to a woman at the store who sneezed. I swear she looked like she was going to kill me. She went on a complete rant about how dare I impose my religion upon her.
@ryanphil01 (4186)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
my grand daughter who is 5 years old, she is in kindergarten now and i am very proud that she learns a lot from school. but one day, when she goes home, i heard her saying some words or phrases which made a little bit worried. i asked her where she heard those words (the words she uttered aren't good words for children of her age). she answered me that she heard her classmates. it alarmed me so i told her not say those words again. indeed, she followed me. i never heard her again uttering those naughty words.
• United States
29 Mar 07
I do think as my daughter gets older she will be able to understand her actions a little better. Right now, I think she's too young. Just wish Dad was on my side and would make more of an effort not to say it. I'm not perfect by all means. I have cussed in front of my daughter a few times and she happily repeated me. Made me feel like total crap. All I can do is try harder to set a better example for her. I can admit I am wrong. Dad can't.
• United States
29 Mar 07
Well she only two years old and she doesn't know that she's using gods name in vain. And all you have to do is keep on reminding her thats its not good for her to say it like that and correct her when that happens. But if she picked it up from her dad he should be the one correcting her when she say it. He needs to sit down with her and explain it to her that it's not good to say that. And explain why he says it and he's not going to ues that word any more. And she will get out of it.
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• United States
29 Mar 07
Well, sadly he isn't going to do that. He doesn't feel he is aying anything wrond and that it's okay for them to say it.
@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
29 Mar 07
It is time to have a sit down with your husband and explain to him that although it doesn't seem wrong to him, he needs to help correct it. It will offend others outside the home and starting children out right is the best way to teach them. Keep up the practice of using a different word or phrase each time to show her what is correct. I see how easy it is for kids of all ages to pick up annoying words and phrases. I have many pet peeves in that area. I even try working on my own mistakes that way. It is the ignorant and rude phrases that attack someone else's religion or race that bother me the most. Best wishes!
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
29 Mar 07
i agree with you... we are not allowed to use God's name in vain and it is considered as a sin to do so as stated in the Bible... it is also stated in the Ten Commandments in the very first commandment... so i think you have to tell your daughter not to say that phrase unneccessarily before it is too late and become like a habit to her... good luck...
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• United States
29 Mar 07
Thanks, I appreciate your vote of confidence. I'm kind of at the crossroads right now. After reading some of the responses here I'm not sure if I'm doing the right thing by saying oh my gosh or if I should ignore it.
@EvanHunter (4028)
• United States
29 Mar 07
Its not her fault children this age automatically pick up everything around them and I think if you keep on correcting her she will pick up on it. Maybe discipline your husband...lol. I know we all say things and sometimes it only takes saying them one time for the kids to pick up, after all kids say the darndest things. Wasnt long ago we got into it because my youngest boy said something about angels being evil and he was scared of them do to something I said about demons and the devil being fallen angels. They always are listening even when you think they arent.
• United States
29 Mar 07
LOL, yes my husband does need some discipline or at least sit down and read the 10 commandments. He refuses to believe he is setting a bad example. Right now, he think it's cute but I guarantee in a couple of years he will be telling her "Do as I say, not as I do".
@vanities (11387)
• Davao, Philippines
29 Mar 07
well if you heared her say that again then try telling her not to say that again in her young age she can understand if reworded according to her level and must be explained very well in such a manner her young mind could grasps all of it...and i think shes intelligent enough to understand..
• United States
29 Mar 07
I was trying not to draw attention to what she was saying but only trying to encourage her to say something else. I'm really at a loss of what to do now.