What do you do when you KNOW FOR SURE you are right??
By kbkbooks
@kbkbooks (7022)
Canada
March 31, 2007 5:34am CST
There are times when my husband and I disagree about something and I know for sure that I am right. I have learned over my short five years with him that I just have to let it go. It's easier to just say OK and walk away than it is to get upset. For example, when we started dating in 2000 he had a kitten here in the house that was only a few weeks old. That cat has been here all the time, which you know means its only about 7 years old. My husband INSISTS that this cat was born in 1995 but since I remember him as a baby, I know that can't be right. This subject comes up repeatedly, I try to explain to him that the cat can't possibly be 12 since we weren't going out at that time, but he just doesn't get it. I give up. *shrug*
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@claudia413 (4280)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I got a kick out of your discussion when I read it. When my husband and I disagree about something and I KNOW I'm right, I always tell him I'll bet him a million dollars. That's when he usually knows I'm right. If he thinks he's right, he'll tell me he'll put his paycheck up against mine. That's when I usually know he's right. We've gotten a lot of laughs out of this over our 28 years of marriage.
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@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
31 Mar 07
Well, this is the art of marriage or being together. I also have such problem with my hubby as he thought he was right for lots of things; but indeed I was the one right.
In dealing with this type of issue, if the matter is not important, I just igore or laugh about it in order not to ruin our relationship. Meanwhile, if there is a different case but same secenario, I will repeat what he said to make him realize I am the one right.
If it is a big issue (matter), I will talk to him to make him understand; otherwise i will talk to his mother or someone can convince him.
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@lvap0628 (731)
• Philippines
2 Apr 07
If it's not such a big issue and because I don't like creating friction between us, I just let it go. Anyway when it could be proven that I was right, he comes up to me and say "you were right, hon! don't know why i argued with you about this."
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@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Yeah, sometimes I have to give up too. But I discovered that if I just shut my mouth, he'll usually admit that I am right. If I keep shoving it in his face, he gets moe defensive. But if I just make my point, and smile, he usually comes around. Isn't marriage fun?
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@pinstikfartherin (75)
• United States
31 Mar 07
Honestly, I usually find it's easier to give up too. Do you have any pictures of the cat when you were dating to prove it was a kitten at the time? Is there anyone else that could testify to this?
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@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
It depends upon the situation. If it isn't a big deal for me, I just let it pass away. Like if it's not gonna affect our lives and if it won't affect us in a negative way and all I'll ever get if I win the argument is satisfaction, I just ignore it. I'll just say that "Okay, but I really think that, so on and so forth. Then, that will be the last thing that I'll say about it.
But if it's a really important thing, I tend to fight for it until the end. Especially when it involves our son and we spending quality time with him. I believe things like tht shouldn't be ignored when you know that you're right. And I know tht I'm right if I just can't give it up. If I think it's right I will fight for it no matter what.
@rubypatson (1841)
• India
1 Apr 07
I know I dont argue too, there is no point in arguing as it will not make any sense to them, so i just let it go
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@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
2 Apr 07
That is a funny story...I guess, when i know for sure, without the shadow of a doubt that i am right, i try my best to make him understand. Most of the time, i get my point across to him, but sometimes i don't and he starts getting mad cuz i'm insisting. When that happens i let it go...for the time being, until he's in a good mood, then i bring it back up, make him see that i was right...usually works!
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
1 Apr 07
LOL-- Oh this is so not me- When I know I'm right-- absolutley right- I will argue and argue my point- I don't let it up.. I can't stand it when someone tries to talk me out of it- But if I'm unsure then I'll just shut up. Usually my sig. other trusts me when I keep arguing- He knows me too well. I even do this at work. Not per say argue -- but make my point.
@monkeywriter (2004)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I'd just say give up and let them win. I hate fighting. If I know I am right (happens on occasion) I do TRY to proove it. Few weeks back it was the first day of Spring. My dad was like NO ITS NOT YOUR CALENDAR IS WRONG! I went online and prooved it by stating some years its on the 21st and some like this on the 20th. Makes me mad though when I have to fight my way to be right. I guess deep within I want to be right when I know I am. And sometimes NO matter what I cant be! *sigh*
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
1 Apr 07
I happen to know you are right that sometimes it is the 20th and somedays it is the 21st of March. My son was born on March 21 in 1992. I know that in 1992 the first day of spring was the 20th, because I remember being impressed how beautiful of a day it was. The sun was warm, the sky was blue, there was no wind and the frost was coming out of the driveway, so it was nice thick mud. My first son was 13 months old and teething fiercely. The only way to get him to stop fussing and screaming was to take him for a walk. I got the stroller stuck in the muddy driveway and worked and wiggled it out with the baby in it. Being 37 weeks pregnant, I caused myself to go into labor and my second son was born 3 weeks early on March 21, 1992, the day AFTER the first day of spring that year.
Sometimes, though, I agree, it's just easier to give up and let them be right, even if you know they are wrong.
@DecemberBreeze (215)
• United States
1 Apr 07
I have also went online and proved my husband wrong as well like one time he said that Vickie Lawrence on Mama's Family was Carol Burnet and he argued me down. I had to pull up Carol Burnet, Vickie Lawrence and Mama's family online and do you know he still said I was wrong. So I'm just gonna let the Captn have it hehe
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@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
31 Mar 07
If my partner and I disagree about something and I know for sure that I'm right - I HAVE to make him understand that lol.
Most of the time it's not worth it, but I get so frustrated with him. In trying to make him understand I get even more frustrated lol, which in turn makes HIM frustrated which in turn leads to us not speaking to one another - till one of us "suddenly" realizes that we were wrong all along. *rolls eyes*
I think guy are deliberately dense sometimes lol, just to wind us up.
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@kbkbooks (7022)
• Canada
31 Mar 07
After 4 years of marriage to David, I am still not sure when he is really dense and when he's doing it just to yank my chain. Sometimes I am SURE he is yanking my chain and then I find out he really doesn't know whatever it is. Sometimes I am sure he doesn't know, but then I find out he is yanking my chain.
@mindrich (183)
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
Sometimes it takes courage to give up and give way to the most important even if we know we're on the right and defensible decision. Why keeping arguing w/ someone you love and valued most while degrading the relationship. I remembered the saying "All good is right but not all good is right to say".
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@DecemberBreeze (215)
• United States
1 Apr 07
kbkbooks we have to just let them think they are right and know within ourselves we are right. My husband is the same way. The kids and I have gotten to where we just look at each other and laugh.
We saw and episode of Star Trek where they were aging rapidly and Capt Kirk was forgetting things because of the aging so he was relieved of his duties as Capt. Our little joke around the house now when he does it (forgets and insists he is right)we just say okay Captain.
We all get a kick out of it and it really keeps us from getting into a argument about something so small.
But it really did get frustrating before we found this little outlet.
(oh yeah he was watching the episode of Star Trek with us so he knows what we are referring to when we call him that) hehehe
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
31 Mar 07
well that was petty ones...we can just let go of that and shrugged ...but if it concerns big issues then you must make him understand coz your relationship with him is at stake....try resolving differences/misunderstanding on some issues in a nice and civil way as much as you can..
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I become the most unreasonable, stubborn person who ever existed (according to family and friends). I just can't let go. I will let it slide for a while and then when the other person thinks they have won and were right then I start it all all over again! I drive them nuts (hee hee).
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I have this philosophy in my marriage.."It doesn't matter if you think you're right because I know I'm right." Then I just ignore him and let him think he's right. Men can be so silly, but half the time the issues that come up aren't even worth argueing over.
@sassinqueen (710)
• United States
31 Mar 07
No reflection on your husband, but it's hard talking to a fool.
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@graciela (147)
• Canada
1 Apr 07
I think there's no point arguing to somebody who doesn't care about your opinion. There are people who really are close minded and it's hard proving your point for they will only believe what they know is right and will never listen. So as long as you know that you're right,I think it's better to just keep quiet and avoid further discussion that would lead to a big fight. Don't sweat that small stuff.
