Part Two of My Boyfriend thing you may need to know

Well this certainly changes things- You cheated on him in the past- but he forgave you and took you back. Well that was great of him- Did he really forgive you?? If he is checking your every move? I don't know if he will ever totally trust you? That is something only he knows- Talk with him about it-- then you have to make your decision- Do you want to continue on in this relationship with him not trusting you? It cannot be healthy.. If you're serios and wouldn't cheat on him again- Tell him- show him-- maybe he'll regain the trust.

A man can say he forgives you but deep down inside I think the man always carries the fact that you cheated. It is harder for the man to get past it i think than a woman..I would just be upfront with him and tell him straight up that he said he forgave you and took you back and that if he keeps up with making you prove your every move and if he can't get past the past then it would be best for the both of you to move on. cause this is only going to keep causeing problems in your relationship.Or maybe if he isn't trusting you again still maybe he is not being truely faithful himself cause usually if you can you forgive someone and take them back you start over forget the past..maybe he thinks now cheating on you will make it even...I would just really ask him straight out where you stand and go from there, but this non trust is not going to make for a lasting healthy relationship.

Don't take this the wrong way as I don't mean to be cruel , but you have to wait and try and earn back his trust . The truth is this could take years as once trust is broken it is a very hard thing to earn back . He needs to know you won't do this again but fear is going to make this hard , even though he proabbly still loves you very much , at times this is going to creep back up , but if you do love him very much then you will have to try and be understanding of what he may be feeling and the hurt he is trying to get past . Best of luck !!

Well this is very different, he said he got past your indiscretion, but he obviously didn't. I would suggest that you 2 start with some counseling, he will have to learn to trust you and you will have to earn his trust. Since we don't know him, it is difficult for us to make such a call. I definitely suggest counseling if you guys are serious and want this to work.

Trust is so easily and quickly broken and so difficult and long to rebuild. You need to keep talking, to keep the communication open and honest. And you need to give him time. I know that when my first daughter became a teenager she broke the curfew. The first time I told her that she couldn't do that again. But she did. So I started checking on her and she complained "You don't trust me!" Well, she was right. She had broken the rules twice and how was I to know that she wouldn't do it again until she followed the rules for a long enough time for me to trust her? Relationships are built on trust. And once it is broken, it is very difficult to mend. It requires work on both of your parts. And you have to forgive him for not trusting you immediately, because it just doesn't work like that.

If you want to stick it out, then you should be prepared to prove your trustworthiness for a long time - that is, if he will ever get past the issue and let his love for you completely cover what you've done in the past. To be honest, I consider relationships stained by distrust as almost beyond repair. But your case might be the exception so give it a try for some time. However, if it's clear that he won't be able to fully heal from what happened, maybe you should consider giving both of you a fresh start apart from each other.

You are going to work extra hard to keep any trust with him after what you did in the past. As much as he loves you and wants to try to make it work he will never really forget. It will become easier as time goes by however things may never be as they were before you cheated. There is hope if your love is strong enough however understand he will need lots of time and you will have to be very careful that your actions don't so much as suggest that you could be cheating. I'm a military so I know. I don't go out when my husband is away, because even know I know he trusts me and I've never done anything for him not to it's still nessessary to be sure that he would never have any thoughts that I could be cheating on him. He calls me constantly when he can just to reassure me his heart is completely mine. You will need to work extra hard to keep making him feel special everyday. Otherwise if you so much as have a disagreement and you walk out the door he will think it's possible you will cheat again. Sorry that is the fact... but it your faith is strong enough it will work out, but it does take time.

I have to say that once you are cheated on itis hard getting over it. Belive me I have tried but in the end, even though i tried to forgive we had to split up. The memorie of the pain he caused me just wouldnt vanish. I know of people that successfully moved on after cheating, but to me it doesn´t sound as if he has forgiven u yet. Maybe u need some time apart?

Yes I do think that there is still hope for the both of you as long as you have had a proper discussion about your relationship then you can start again, but some men never forgive and keep on bringing it up that could cause a problem

Hi kitkat. Trust is probably the biggest issue of a relationship. and once broken, is in reality impossible to forget, I think the time has come for you to get him to sit down and ask some serious questions. I would start of with the fact, that he can not forget or appear to forgive you past indiscretion. Ask him "What will it take for him to feel comfortable again? What does he expect from you? Does he trust you even a little bit? If he can not or will not answer with straight forward answers, then it is time for you to make some serious decisions, Right now you are being pulled from pillar to post and going no where, You live in fear because you sense of direction has nothing to set your sights on. Is this working for you? Yes you have made a big mistake, but it is unsure as to weather he will ever get past that, and you need answers now. So sit down organize your thoughts, set goals, and when you have a clear idea of what YOU need, talk to him. other wise this could go on for ever. you both walking around tippy toe in fear. Not a good life.

He decided to forgive you and reconcile with you. He needs to stand by that decision. As long as he has no proof that you're still cheating it's not fair for him to doubt your every move. I understand it's difficult to trust a woman who has cheated before, but he needs to work on it. Otherwise your relationship will go nowhere.

Well, this is what I think....Ok, you cheated, and you guys broke up...But, if he knows what you did, and CHOOSES to get back together with you, he must accept that what you did, should not be brought up and he must deal with it on his own, however, knowing what you did you must gain back his trust. Until you can make him feel like you understand and are sorry for how you made him feel after what you did to him, and he can trust you again, by you showing him you have nothing to hide, only after that, only then can the relationship start to heal.

first of all make him read this discussion,i think u'll be honest to him ,but since u cheated on ce he can hv lil doubts and for sometime it can go on ,if it is taking on ur nerves then simply part ways ,becuse without trust no relation can work

i hate to say this to you but if you cheated on yur boyfriend once what makes him think tht you will not do it agian. like they say once a cheater always a cheater. so he may never trust you agian and he may trust you.he is the only one that can decide.

To have a healthy relationship both of you trust each other. From you discussion you still do not trust him as to whether you forgiven you or not. In case he does not accept the fact "that past in the past" you relationship with him would not have continuned. Therefore, remove that feeling that whether he trusts you or not. Have a positive thinking that he has trusted and accepted you.

I think that if you and your boyfriend really want to have a loving and trusting relationship then you need to get some couples counseling. Frankly, I can see where he wouldn't trust you. You didn't tell us (the readers) the whole story in the first post which is a lie of omission. Why should we trust you either? I'm not judging you, but do you see how he can't trust you?