Grownup... And I still want my Mommy!

@kbkbooks (7030)
Canada
April 5, 2007 10:21pm CST
It probably sounds really silly. I'm an adult with two teenage sons of my own and I miss my Mommy. She's gone to Japan and I miss her. We live 350 miles apart and I don't see her very often, but I do call her and she calls me so we talk a few times a week. Even though we have email, it's not quite the same. I know there are all kinds of ways to get cheap long distance but I'm not quite there technologically, believe it or not. Plus I have to convince hubby that it wouldn't make the house burn down if we changed phone companies or phone habits, even. He's just turned 60 and he feels "crotchety old man" stubborn about everything lately. She'll be home in a few weeks. She's there visiting her sisters whom she doesn't see very often, of course. I am sure they miss her too when she's not with them, even after almost 50 years of living that way. When you're close to your family, I guess you never get over missing them when they're far away. Even if you can chat or send email or talk on the phone, nothing is quite like a real live hug from Mom.
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• United States
6 Apr 07
My mom stopped walking the earth in her form when I was 35 and she was 53. I am now 59 and there has not been a day that I haven't missed her. She was at different times and depending on the situation: -my mother, -my friend, -my sister, and even -my daughter. Thoughts of her brighten each day of my life.~Donna
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• Philippines
6 Apr 07
You know, I am already 54 and my three kids are with me yet, I want to have my mom around. My eldest, Mary Anne, is 28; Mark Rodger comes next, 27; and, the youngest is Darwin, 19. They are all single as of this writing. Regardless of our ages and status in life, I rest assure you that there is nothing wrong about wanting to have our mother around. It simply means that we love her so much, we shall never grow out of that need to see her, hug and kiss her, and to be able to talk to her. It seems like they never run out of golden advises, of encouraging words and overflowing love for us and our kids. No matter how much and how many long distance calls we make, that will never make up for her absence. It is good that your mom will be coming home soon. That will end up that feeling of missing her so much. Nice hugs and kisses from mom when she comes home again.
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
Thank you. It's nice to have so much support from my friends.
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@nelly5 (1425)
• United States
6 Apr 07
You are not silly at all. I am an adult also and miss my mom too. I do get to see her much more than you and I miss her just after not seeing her for the week. I couldn't imagine if my mom was so far away as Japan!! I even want my mom so bad that when I am sick I still wish mom was by my side to take care of me..lol Nothing like a moms love!! I wish you the best and I hope you get to see your mom soon.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
She will be home in a few weeks.
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@birthlady (5613)
• United States
6 Apr 07
You're not silly! You're lucky! Guess what? I miss my mommy too! And I'm a grandma!
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
awww. Well I know my mom feels the same about her mom.
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@wachit14 (3601)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I don't think it's strange at all that you miss your mom. It just shows what a close relationship you have with her and how much she means to you. I miss my mom sometimes too and she will be 85 this year so I'm still happy to have her around.
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
My mother in law will be 85 on Sunday.
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
I agree with you;you're never too old to miss your parents or loved ones. It's a part of life. I miss my parents sometimes, even though we don't live that far apart, we don't see each other every day either, and sometimes i miss them, i miss the times where all of us lived together (with my sister and brother) before they separated...I miss my family. But, i have a new family of my own now, for now, just me, my hubby and our two dogs, but hopefully, soon, we'll add a little baby to our family!
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
Oh so cool. Congratulations on the coming new addition, whenever you should be so blessed.
• United States
7 Apr 07
I am 47 years old and I still miss my mom. She spends most of her time now in the UK which is where she was born and raised. I have Vonage phone service and a virtual phone number so I get to talk to her whenever I want but it just isn't the same. I miss her terribly. Nothing is quite as nice as a mothers hug.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
8 Apr 07
Thank you both very much for this special joint contribution to the discussion. Happy Easter to you both.
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8 Apr 07
No matter how old we get, there is nothing like the family that you grew up with. Ive been away from my mother now since I was 21,, I am now 44 coming up 45 and I still long to have contact with my mother,, it is that family love and connections that is so special. So dont feel it silly at all! What you are feeling is only natural, probebly when your kids are away from you with thier own families they will feel the same as you are doing right now. it is good to keep in touch and all that. Lynn-Marie
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
8 Apr 07
Thank you Lynn-Marie. It's nice to know there are families in this world who know what love is all about.
7 Apr 07
I don't think it is silly to miss your mum. My mum has failing health and I visit to help her but sometimes still need her to comfort me when I arrive. I feel silly but think that actually she likes to still have the protective role of mum and I can have the role of child for a while. It is great that you are still so close to your mum that you miss her so much when she is away. Some people do not seem to appreciate their parents enough. Thank you for sharing with us.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
8 Apr 07
I know that my mom likes to take care of me still and I am very thankful for this. It is a wonderful thing to know a mother's love.
• Philippines
7 Apr 07
I also have kids but I can't still live without my mom. I look up to her because she gives me the best advices I could get. She tells me everything even those that are hurting because she said that nobody would dare tell me those but her. Well, she's right and I wish to grow old the way she did. She's good in finances and that's one thing I hope to really learn from her.
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
7 Apr 07
It's good you can admire her that way. Always appreciate her, because she is the only mom you have.
@Mickie30 (2636)
6 Apr 07
It doesn't sound silly at all I am 30 years old and I love my mum to bits if I went away I would miss her very much. A mothers love is very dear and you cannot beat a hug from your mum.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
Hugs from anyone are great but hugs from mom are the best.
@swasti (1157)
• India
6 Apr 07
well i too miss my dad a lot .im married and my husband has a job profile where he has to travel a lot and sokmetimes be away from homeland for months/years.we r msrried for 4 yrs and i had to be abroad for few months..;.i really missed my parents and also i conceived during that time. i really wished my parents were there with me. my hus could not really spend time with me due to his office works....anyway now iam back to my home town and now i meet my parents often...anyway this will be till he gets his project again in some other country
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
My dad is passed away. I miss him in a different way. At least it's pretty likely I will see my mom on this earth again.
• United States
6 Apr 07
Its normal to miss your mother. She's usually the one who took care of you when you were young, and made you feel important when everyone else treated you badly.
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
Thanks for your response.
• United States
6 Apr 07
Being grown up has no bearing on how much you love your parents and it's quite normal, if you ask me, to miss her! I've debated moving to Alaska for years and at one point said yes and had a job lined up but then thought about the miles between me and my parents and knew I couldn't do it. I worried that they would age and need me and I couldn't be there and I also knew that I would miss them. I think it's wonderful that you miss your mom. We're lucky though that we have computers, chat programs (IM's) and free long distance with cells and VOIP phone systems to keep in touch!
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
Her relatives aren't quite up to using those yet. I have to settle for email.
@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
6 Apr 07
You don't sound silly at all! I think it sounds wonderful! You are a caring devoted daughter who happens to be close to her mom. I love it- It's me. I live less than 5 miles from my mom. I chose to stay in the area and raise my daughter- My brother is in Kansas (in Iraq right now).. I talk to my mom almost daily- She is my best friend! She actually just left here- We were supposed to go shopping in the city but my daughter got sick last night- So we are putting it off til tomorrow! Its great that you are close to your mom!
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
My sister still lives close to my mom, about an hour away. They spend alot of time together. That's good because my sis was always a mommas girl.
@BunGirl (2639)
• United States
6 Apr 07
I know the feeling. When I got married I moved from PA (where my family is) to TX. It's not as far as Japan, but it really feels like it is sometimes. I make every effort to go visit my Mom when I can, but that's usually only about once a year. She's come down here to visit a few times, but she can't travel too much, so that's even less frequent. There are those days (and weeks and months...) where I just feel like crying because I miss my Mommy! Still, she has decided that she will eventually be moving down here as well. It will probably be years from now, but I can't wait until that day arrives!!!
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@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
6 Apr 07
That will be nice for you and her.
• India
8 Apr 07
it's perfectly natural!! i love my mum too and i'm gonna miss her when ii go to college!! lol... and she keeps missing her mum!! and my mum happens to be 53 years old already!! ;)