I found my half-sister!

@Trace86 (5034)
United States
April 10, 2007 1:29pm CST
I took inspiration from another mylotter and looked on Myspace for my half-sister and I found her. Now I don't know what to say to her, or even if I should say anything. I don't even know if she knows she has two older sisters. She is 25 and still lives with her parents. They moved to a different state several years ago. I am not expecting a sister connection with her. I just want her to know we exist. How do I tell her? "Hi I think you are my half-sister." I just don't know. My other sister thinks I should leave it alone. Help me make the right decision please.
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8 responses
• United States
10 Apr 07
Had the two of you met before? Was this a reunion of sorts? I have a half-brother out there, somewhere, that I've been trying to find for half my life.
@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I have never seen her, except a picture at my Grandma's house 20 years ago. She was born to my biological father and step-mother after he chose not to see me and my other sister anymore. Check out myspace. I just popped her name in and poof, there she was.
@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
10 Apr 07
i think you should do what your heart says. if it was me (the younger one) i would sure know if i had other sisters in the world. maybeyou can ask someone inyour family if she knows anything from you. if not, try to tell her honestly that you think you are half-sisters. maybe in several emails or whatever you need there. ifyou dont do anything your gonna regret it your whole life. i wish you good luck with your decision
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
10 Apr 07
I think you should do whatever is best for you. I can surely understand that your other sister wants you to just leave it alone also. I think it is totally up to you as to what to whether or not you want to let your sister know that you all are related. All you can do, is hope for the best outcome from it. If you have doubt that there may be rejection then I would avoid confronting her with it. I suggest you do whatever is best to protect your feelings and your half-sisters feelings. It may cause alot of trouble in the family so make sure you are prepared to deal with that also. I have family like that and I try to avoid the things that may cause more trouble for me. Good luck and just follow your heart and do whatever you think is best for you.
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@brendalee (6083)
• United States
12 Apr 07
If you saw pictures of her at your grandmothers house, then maybe she saw pictures of you too. Maybe she already knows you exist. But anyway, I see that you have sent her a message. I hope this turns out well for you. Please let us know. I think if I was in your situation, I would at least want to try to have communication with her. I think you did the right thing.
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@brendalee (6083)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Ok, the suspense is killing me. Have you heard anything from her yet?
@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I just looked at her profile. She hasn't logged in since the 10th. I am so nervous. She is a college student and may have a big test to study for. I hope she logs in soon. I am getting a stomach ache wondering.
@Bev1986 (1427)
• United States
11 Apr 07
So she has no idea that her dad had another family??? At 25, she's old enough to handle it. I would probably contact her. I would want to know if I had other siblings.
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@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I just want to be friends with her. I don't want anything to do with her (our) father.
@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Personally, if it was me (the 25 year old) I think I'd want to know that I have siblings out there. Whatever you do, do it with poise and caring. I think I would say that I was doing some internet research on the _______ side of the family and I wondered if we might possibly have a connection and if she'd care to write you. I'm assuming that either your Mom (or probably your Dad) is the girls parent that they share with you. Or...How about looking up the family's address on the internet and writing it addressed to your parent asking if they would mind if you made contact with her? If you haven't seen your mutual parent, or even heard from them, I'd bypass that and maybe write directly to her. Or, leave a note on her space saying you visited and believe that you are related on the _________side of the family and that you'd like to email her (and tell her what the subject line of the email will read so she doesn't think it's spam from a genealogy site or something.) Whatever you do, good luck! Family ties are important, but at least this way you've put the ball in her court and see if she's willing to respond to your letter/email.
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@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I am totally on pins and needles to see if she is going to respond to my message on myspace.
12 Apr 07
Hi I lost connection with my half sisters 13 years ago it wasn't until last year that I saw her on "genesreunited" and I was having the same dilema as I didn't know whether or not to contact her and what should I say if i decided to. I ended up sending her a message just saying "Hi" and explaining whole I was and if she'd like to keep in contact then she was to send me a message back. She did and I've never regretted making that decision! The decision is entirely yours, you should do whatever your heart feel right to do.
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@Joslyn77 (374)
• United States
14 Apr 07
Hay Trac You need to make the right choice for you. How badly are you wanting her to know your around? If your heart is telling to make a connection then I would listen to it. What's the worst that could happen? She won't contact you or respond to you if she's not interested.
@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
16 Apr 07
She finally responded. Now I don't know what to do. I wrote" I think you are my half-sister. Is your father named Dennis?" She responded today with "Yes he is." Now what do I do? Try to start a conversation?
@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
17 Apr 07
So, I sent her another message asking what she plans to do with her major in Criminal Justice and telling her that I am a nurse. I guess if she doesn't want to chat or get to know me, I will be content that I tried and have my other sisters, real and adopted, to love me.
@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I am so happy! I just opened my myspace and she sent me a message. She seems willing to chat. Maybe we can be friends.