Can you have a good time at a party when you feel lousy?

United States
April 15, 2007 11:45am CST
Tonight we are attending a birthday party to celebrate my Uncle's 75th birthday. Many of my family members will be there. I am looking forward to seeing those that I haven't seen in years. The problem is that I have a nasty sinus infection. I can barely breath, am tired, cranky and want to sleep the day away. I could stay home, but know that I will feel even worse if I do. The plan is to go, stay long enough to be social, and leave before I get totally drained. I am not much of a partier even when I am feeling good so what the heck.
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@crazynurse (7510)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I love a good party and I am very social. Sometimes if I am feeling lousy, a party will actually help me take my mind of how I am feeling. Once at the party I am able to refocus and have a bit of a good time. As you say, I find that I can't stay as long as I get drained, but I try to go and have as good of time as possible. Now if I feel that what I have is contagious I don't go, that would be disrespectful to family/friends to give them my illness!
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@KarenO52 (2951)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I agree with you, sometimes I can end up feeling better, depending on the mood of the party, but if I have something contagious, I stay home.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
Yes the regret you will feel from not going will make you feel even worse. Go and do your best to get through it but explain that you may have to take your leave early people will understand and appreciate your effort in attending even though you are not feeling well. Also have you tried natural supplementation for your sinus problems? I have helped many with this problem. Let me know if you would like to learn more. Best wishes to your and your uncle.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
I do take herbal supplements. My problem is that I have allergies. My allergies have been acting up and it caused me to get an infection. I usually get this once or twice a year.
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@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
15 Apr 07
Going to the party may help you forget how bad you are feeling. Just don't try to be a party animal. Pick one or two people to talk to. (Maybe one of those you haven't seen for awhile.) Sit down, stay in one place as much as you can and let people come to you or not. You might even ask someone to bring you drinks, etc. Make them feel good about doing something for you!
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• United States
15 Apr 07
I have actually decided to pass on the party. I feel badly about not going, but know that I could spread the germs on to many people. I think they would appreciate not coming down with what I have.
@dfinster (3538)
• United States
15 Apr 07
That's really nice that you're going for your uncle's sake with being so sick and all. Maybe being up and out just for that lttle while will help you feel a little bit better because it will get your mind off the sinus infection and how lousy that feels. Try to have fun.
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• Kuwait
15 Apr 07
I think you should pull yourself together a little bit longer and come to the party and say your greetings and inform them about your little sinus and say you will not stay long because you could contaminate them so you better go to bed.thats the way you dont have to snob you uncle's birthday.
@kgwat70 (13398)
• United States
15 Apr 07
It is hard for me to have a good time at a party if I was not feeling well or was in a bad mood. It is hard to have fun when I am not feeling my best. I just over a sinus infection and may be coming down with it again. It is terrible when you get sick when a party comes up or an event that you are really looking forward to. Always seem to get sick at the worst times. Hope that you are able to have a good time at the party and hope that you are feeling better soon.
• India
15 Apr 07
Yes I feel it is good to attend to the family gaherings as it gives an opportunity to meet the family members and as human being is a social animal it is very important to keep in touch all family relatives.
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@ElicBxn (60391)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I went to a costume party once, sick. I had a miserable time, but I didn't get to go home as early as I wanted to because my roommate at the time didn't want to leave.
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• Singapore
15 Apr 07
I don't really like parties either unless I am with people really tuned in to my frequency. I will normally go with the flow. Even if I started out having a lousy frame of mind, I might get all wonked out and have a very happy evening.
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
15 Apr 07
Tis quite ok to make the appearance and make the connection and then politely excuse yourself. I hope they are reasonable people and you can get home and take care of yourself. You might get some positive energies that will enable you to get better also. Good luck in your endeavor to connect with family. Wish your Uncle a very Happy Birthday from Mylotians.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
OOOhhh...I feel for you. I have a sinus infection right now too and I feel terrible! Maybe by tonight you will feel a little better...are you on meds for the infection? If so, maybe the dose this morning will start making you feel better. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
15 Apr 07
I am the same way I will go for awhile but I don't care to stay to long. I hope you get to feeling better.
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@kelly60 (4550)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I have a lot of sinus problems and get sinus infections regulary, so I can relate to what you are saying. Often when I'm not feeling well I really don't feel much like getting out and doing anything. Once I get out though, I usually feel a bit better as long as I don't overdo it. Make sure you take whatever medication is needed, but nothing that will make you drowsy unless absolutely necessary before going. If possible, take anything that will make you drowsy either earlier or later so that it won't make you drowsy during the party. When I'm feeling really bad, I try to sneak in a quick nap before I go out. It doesn't matter if I sleep, even if I can just close my eyes and rest for 20 minutes, it makes a big difference in recharging me just before I go. You are right though about leaving before you get totally drained. I'm sure that your uncle, and everyone else will appreciate that you attended his birthday party. They should also understand though that you aren't feeling well, so I doubt that anyone would be offended if you were to excuse yourself early.
• United States
15 Apr 07
I just found out that I am not the only one that isn't feeling well. My sister has the stomach bug and will not be going. My Aunt Patsy has the same thing and that is 2 down. The roads are getting slick too so that may cause others to rethink going. But, we can't use that excuse because the party is at a club that is only 10 minutes from us.
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@kelly60 (4550)
• United States
16 Apr 07
I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you get feeling better soon.
@GardenGerty (93498)
• Marion, Kansas
16 Apr 07
Hey, have we been around the same contagious people? This whole weekend has been shot because of illness. A little of that strong coffe should open you up. Actually, I keep forgetting, you are supposed to breathe the fumes of horseradish to clear up that kind of congestion. Maybe you will get a little adrenaline surge while you are at the party and the outing will do you good. He will only be seventy five one time, and I am sure you know that, and that is why you are going. I do not sound sympathetic, but really I am, I have had a temp all weekend, and it is miserable, and you do not really want to be social, you want to be alone. It will be important to family though that you were there.
@GardenGerty (93498)
• Marion, Kansas
16 Apr 07
I should add that sinus infections generally are not contagious, but limited to the person who has the blockages. If you have a fever, though, I would stay home, as then you would be contagious.
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@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
15 Apr 07
Oh dear I am sorry that you are not feeling well and you have a great celebration to look forward to so what are you going to do as I do not really think in this situation that you can stay home maybe it would be best if you rested for most of the day and then maybe you would feel a lot better and able to attend.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
Here I sit. My sinuses are pounding. My nose is dripping. I feel like crap. Better to stay home and not get everyone sick.
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
15 Apr 07
That is what I would do to I don't like going out much but when it is something like that I would make the effort but like you go home before I get to bad and tired as I would rip everyones head of I do hope that you will be better soon Elusive I am so sorry you are feeling like this Hugs to you
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• United States
15 Apr 07
If I could breathe out of my nose and not have to blow it every 5 minutes that would be a plus!
@dana234 (2126)
• Spain
15 Apr 07
I don´t enjoy parties when I don´t feel well, so I can relate to you. A sinus infection is a nasty thing, so I hope your family will understand that you´re not in the condition to dance the CanCan. I hope you can get away early to get some rest. Happy Birthday to your uncle!
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@dana234 (2126)
• Spain
15 Apr 07
I forgot to mention a few things in my first response, that´s why there are 2. Hope you don´t mind.
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• India
18 Apr 07
owe... hope you get well soon!!! i know this kind of situations! i think you should relax the whole day and then evening if still you feeling sour... you should just stay for a while and come back! this is what i do when i HAVE to attend some imp social!
• United States
17 Apr 07
By now the party is over and I hope you are feeling better! The next time you have a sinus infection may I suggest you look into trying a "nettie pot"? It may be a "netti pot". Do a search on the internet for one. They are fantastic! As far as being nice at parties - I can not give good advice, I hate party situations. Frankly I can't imagine you being cranky `Donna
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@lonewolfnan (4367)
• Canada
16 Apr 07
That makes sense to me.I would enjoy seeing family/friends but if I am not well,I want them to have a good time and leave them with a positive memory of me than ruin a bit of the festival celebration.I would make sure I have their contacts to keep up with them(ie,Net).