Husband who has moved out...take him back?

India
April 17, 2007 12:43am CST
My friend's husband, who admittedly has cheated on her and had another woman on the side for at least a year, has moved out of her home. He took all his clothes and toiletries. So this is not just some 'cooling off' weekend thing. He says he needs to think things through and decide what he wants to do (i.e., should they divorce; should he return). I think it's crazy she's giving him that much power. Why would you want to be with someone who isn't sure if he loves you enough to stay with you?
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
3 May 07
Some men don't want to change their behaviour, but there are others who do want to save their marriage after an affair. If you really think the relationship can be salvaged, don't walk away just yet - pride is a sad reason to call it quits. You can use this difficult time to move forward together. But don't play the victim - set out some ground rules. Demand that both go and talk with a psychologist or counsellor. It will awaken the relationship.
@missybal (4492)
• United States
2 May 07
He had a woman on the side for at least a year??? What is she stupid. What on earth would she want him for. It's not like one stupid mistake that happened one night. He felt content with himself to be with both woman. I'm sure that he was having sew with his wife also during this year he was fooling around with someone else. He shouldn't have the option to come back. I'm just confussed because he moved himself out. I would have kicked him out and for good.
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
17 Apr 07
Sounds to me like he's already made his mind up. So should your friend have made hers up.If a guy cheats on his wife for a year, or at all for that matter, the trust has been broken. It is the end of a relationship. She should be the one telling him that, not waiting for him to make the decision.