how can we reduce the stress of ur life...........?????

You can reduce stress by hearing some classical music or by doing mediation.We can only control our body,But,how to control is the main problem.Stress is created by our way of living and day to day activities.

As a therpaist I practice and teach other how to use meditation as form of stress management.

It needs to be understood that stress is a part of life. We have negative stress and we have positive stress. We may worry about what is going to be bad and be excited about what is going to be good.

Meditation isn't something that is a "quick-fix" as it needs to be practiced on a day-to-day basis and the mind will to a degree, resist the discipline, but with practice one learns to develop patience, which will gradually reduce the negative effects of stress significantly. I have written an Article on my website titled "Why Meditate" which provides a deeper explanation of meditation and the difficulties one may find. If you are interested in reading it, please leave a me a message and I will give you the URL.

Identifying unrelieved stress and being aware of its effect on our lives is not sufficient for reducing its harmful effects. Just as there are many sources of stress, there are many possibilities for its management. However, all require work toward change: changing the source of stress and/or changing your reaction to it. How do you proceed?

1. Become aware of your stressors and your emotional and physical reactions.
Notice your distress. Don't ignore it. Don't gloss over your problems.
Determine what events distress you. What are you telling yourself about meaning of these events?
Determine how your body responds to the stress. Do you become nervous or physically upset? If so, in what specific ways?

2. Recognize what you can change.
Can you change your stressors by avoiding or eliminating them completely?
Can you reduce their intensity (manage them over a period of time instead of on a daily or weekly basis)?
Can you shorten your exposure to stress (take a break, leave the physical premises)?
Can you devote the time and energy necessary to making a change (goal setting, time management techniques, and delayed gratification strategies may be helpful here)?

3. Reduce the intensity of your emotional reactions to stress.
The stress reaction is triggered by your perception of danger...physical danger and/or emotional danger. Are you viewing your stressors in exaggerated terms and/or taking a difficult situation and making it a disaster?
Are you expecting to please everyone?
Are you overreacting and viewing things as absolutely critical and urgent? Do you feel you must always prevail in every situation?
Work at adopting more moderate views; try to see the stress as something you can cope with rather than something that overpowers you.
Try to temper your excess emotions. Put the situation in perspective. Do not labor on the negative aspects and the "what if's."

4. Learn to moderate your physical reactions to stress.
Slow, deep breathing will bring your heart rate and respiration back to normal.
Relaxation techniques can reduce muscle tension. Electronic biofeedback can help you gain voluntary control over such things as muscle tension, heart reate, and blood pressure.
Medications, when prescribed by a physician, can help in the short term in moderating your physical reactions. However, they alone are not the answer. Learning to moderate these reactions on your own is a preferable long-term solution.

5. Build your physical reserves.
Exercise for cardiovascular fitness three to four times a week (moderate, prolonged rhythmic exercise is best, such as walking, swimming, cycling, or jogging).
Eat well-balanced, nutritious meals.
Maintain your ideal weight.
Avoid nicotine, excessive caffeine, and other stimulants.
Mix leisure with work. Take breaks and get away when you can.
Get enough sleep. Be as consistent with your sleep schedule as possible.

6. Maintain your emotional reserves.
Develop some mutually supportive friendships/relationships.
Pursue realistic goals which are meaningful to you, rather than goals others have for you that you do not share.
Expect some frustrations, failures, and sorrows.
Always be kind and gentle with yourself -- be a friend to yourself.

Hello there. Here are some very simple ways on how to relieve stress. I hope they work for you!

1. Learn to relax. Try deep-breathing exercises during which you close your eyes, consciously relax your body and focus on your breathing for 5 to 20 minutes each day. Try to breathe deeply and remove all other thoughts from your mind.

2. Try an audio-tape progressive relaxation exercise. Look in your local bookshop for ideas. These tapes usually have pleasant background music or sounds from nature and they lead you through relaxation exercises.

3. Banish bad thoughts from your mind. Try placing a rubber band loosely on your wrist. Every time you have a negative thought, snap the rubber band. This will remind you to think positively.

4. Exercise. Daily exercise not only helps control blood sugar, it also works to reduce stress. Try a daily 15- to 20-minute walk to clear your head. Focus on positive thoughts during your exercise time. If you can't get out to take a walk, try stretching in your shower or walking stairs. Do what you can, but try to commit to 15 to 20 minutes of some movement per day. You deserve it.

5. As for comfort food, make yourself goodie bags. Regarding the snacking on 'comfort foods', accept that you can't go back on what you have already consumed, but know that you can take it one step at a time, one day at a time. Try to make a commitment to yourself that you will prepare the next day's snacks the night before. That way, you'll have healthy food already prepared which you can carry with you throughout the day. Your goodie bags can include:
# a hard-boiled egg, red-pepper strips and four to six whole-grain crackers
# one cup lite soy milk or skim milk and one English muffin topped with a smear of peanut butter or all-fruit spread
# three graham crackers and an orange half a peanut-butter-and-jam sandwich on whole-wheat bread
# apple slices and one small sugar-free yogurt.

6. Most importantly, don't give up! If you try one of these ideas and it doesn't seem to work, don't put the blame on yourself. Try another approach, find a different support group or talk with a different health-care consultant. You're too important to not give yourself every possible chance.

Good luck and I wish you all the best!
-Cara

One of my friend says that whenever you are in anger or deep stress, just go outside and take a deep breath and he says within minutes it will come down.