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| but at the same time I am so very thankful. I know God was watching over my youngest son last night. First let me share my day with you. It was an absolutely glorious spring day in Michigan; just a slight breeze, temperatures in the 70s, and the sun shining all day. I decided it was time to get outside and a good time to start cleaning up the yard. I got addicted to this and started with burning tree branches - the lawn was covered with them from winter storms. By late afternoon I was physically exhausted, not finished but just couldn't do anymore. I retired to my bed and laptop to rest and relax planning to get to sleep early which I was sure would happen after all the exercise and fresh air. Around 7 my youngest son, 16 next week, banged into my room "Mom you gotta see this" and sticking his horribly skinned up arm in my face. From there he dropped his pants enough to expose the abrasions on his hip then hiked up his pant leg to show me the rare meat of his knee... He was a mess but announced it wasn't bad, the only thing that hurt was his hand on the opposite side of his body. He quickly explained he had wiped out on his skateboard and before I could say anything headed out the back door where a small group of friends were waiting and off they went - all on skateboards. About 9:30 when I was barely keeping my eyes open (I'd been up since 4:30 a.m.) he comes in again this time announcing he needs to go to the emergency room.... A friend's mother is a nurse and she looked at his hand and said it should be x-rayed as it might be broken... Off we went, knowing it was going to be some time before I got to bed even if there was nothing wrong. It is broken and we didn't get home until nearly 2 a.m. and was after 3 before I got to sleep... The stupid idiot was holding onto the back of a friend's truck and although proudly announced they were doing 25 miles per hour before he wiped out he does admit it was stupid. I also have to give him credit for the fact that he did pretty good for him at the hospital - he is ADHD and ODD so if your familiar with these disorders you can imagine what it's like being in a waiting room or examining room for this long of a time. He also apologized several times for my having to be up so late, knowing I was tired and had done a lot of work. So, I know this was long but if you've stuck with me this long. I have told him a million times not to do what he did, I've bought I don't know how many sets of knee and elbow pads which he refuses to wear, and I am extremely tired so I just want to scream and strangle him. But I do know it could have ended much worse and am thankful it wasn't. Have you ever felt this way - so angry at a loved one you want to strangle them but thankful at the same time? I would love to hear other stories:) Please don't leave me hanging out here feeling like the only one that has ever done this... p.s. this picture is old but a small example of what I deal with raising this child alone. | | Boy & Mud | | | | |
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byfaithonly (6284)
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5 years ago
| | LOL - not really looking for help just support and you certainly did that = having a daughter with the same 'problems' and 'boys will be boys'... We got a good laugh last night. Since I get blamed for anything and everything I told him I was sure this was my fault - I should have left him alone a few years ago when he was skateboarding behind the self-propelled lawnmower. When I informed him the lawnmower belonged on the lawn, not the road he went and got his snowboard and was riding that behind the mower... Never a dull moment with this one around. | | | |
Impervious (714)
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5 years ago
| | Oh don't I know it, Right now my daughter is on 30 days of lock down ( grounded with NOOOO priveledges) And of course it is my fault. Never mind the umpteen warnings she had. | | | |
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2. rodeotexas (1055)
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5 years ago
| | I don't have any stories but I'm glad to hear that your son is okay. I would have been so mad if it were my kid but like you I would have been thankful at the same time. | | | | | | |
byfaithonly (6284)
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5 years ago
| | Yes, very thankful when thinking how it could have turned out. | | | |
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3. lordwarwizard (10625)
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5 years ago
| | What a... brave "kid". I have no stories to share, Faith since I haven't really felt the way you felt. But just thought I would drop a note to say that I hope you didn't get too worried. He's a fine, brave lad. :P | | | | | | |
byfaithonly (6284)
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5 years ago
| | LOL Wizard you do have a way with words - I certainly never would have discribed him as 'a fine brave lad' but it has me laughing so hard I'm crying right now. Laugh in the face of adversity :) | | | |
lordwarwizard (10625)
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5 years ago
| | Well he is. And that's the way, Faith. LAUGH. ;-) | | | |
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4. mjsdls (1284)
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5 years ago
| | Praise God he is alright except for the broken hand. No I have not went through any of this, my son is only 4 going on 6 in June. He is the only child I have. I pray he never does anything like this. I pray you get some much needed rest, your in my prayers. | | | | | | |
byfaithonly (6284)
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5 years ago
| | I will join you in prayers for your son and thank you for your prayers for me. I need them, son's father called and insurance may have expired so have that stress, went to pharmacy and got script for pain pills for son, got home daughter called, forgot I promised my 4 year old grandson he could spend the night tonight, have to pick my son up at school in less than an hour now... Prayer request - that son takes pills when he gets home and falls asleep (in his room not on sofa), that grandson will be the doll he is and watch cartoons for an hour or so while I take a nap, and that the insurance will cover all the expenses involved with this latest mess. Thank you in advance :) | | | |
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5. tammyr (3462)
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5 years ago
| | I hope you have gotten some sleep deary. I know how it is to raise a wild child bot in his teenage years!LOL. Lots of worrying and lots of band-aids! I hope you took the skate board away for awhile though. I know the broken hand was a good lesson, but i would still put it up for awhile to show him your disappointment in his lack of better judgment. I pray he heals quickly! I would hate to be laid up in a cast during the summer fun! | | | | | | |
byfaithonly (6284)
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5 years ago
| | Nope no sleep yet and actually no haven't taken the skateboard away - I have learned with all the 'problems' with my "Gift from God" it's best to chose my battles wisely. He's learned an important though expensive lession and has vowed never to do that again (and I believe him). If I did take it away he would just borrow from friends. Thank you for the prayers - LOL he's already figuring when he'll get the cast off, he's going to Colorado for the summer to work with/for my oldest son. Big brother is NOT going to be happy about this scrawny little arm fresh from a cast doing construction work. | | | |
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6. maribea (1161)
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5 years ago
| | oh my dear faith..sure..you're not the only one..this is how mothers feel like when their children end up doing something very forbidden and very dangerous.i can remember my mother feeling the same..so angry with my brother who had his mouth seriously injured after playing football with his friends on a ground that was not meant for be a play ground..he was there all covered in blood and before even bringing him to the emergency room she slapped him on his arm and then brought him to the emergency room..he need to be sutured and need lots of day to recover and he is still there with his mouth a bit strange after this bad accident..but in the evening I could listen to my mother praying and thanking God that he was not even worsely injured!!! so see you are not the one and only!!! | | | | | | |
byfaithonly (6284)
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5 years ago
| | Oh my that is so funny, I can see your mother slapping your brother - I wish I had thought of that last night, I could have even left marks but who would know what I did and what his 'fall' did. My son was cute last night, one of his biggest problems in life he can be so cute and a pain at the same time. I made the comment that someone certainly was watching over him (meaning God). He laughed and said, "Hey your the one that has all the friends that prayed for an angel to watch over me." Which is true, and not only do I believe it but he has seen 'his angel'. He refuses to go to church but does believe. | | | |
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7. eeseharden (291)
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5 years ago
| | Oh my goodness!!! Thankfully his hand was the only thing broken. He could have been killed. I have a friend who has a 15-year-old son who is ADHD and she really has a time with him...and she is a single parent as well. The husband left when he was young because he couldn't "deal with all the drama." Don't think he'll be getting the "Father of the Year Award." Chris is always the one that will try anything and his friends know this and take advantage of it. I'll keep you in my prayers. | | | | | | |
byfaithonly (6284)
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5 years ago
| | Yes, Shane's friends are something like that - I've heard in less than 24 hours 3 of his friends admit they had wanted to do it but were scared to. Not my son, if someone else is afraid to do it he will do it. I would love to strangle fathers who don't take part in their children's lives, or any parent for that matter. My son's father lives less 7 miles from us and sees his son maybe once a year to drop off a Christmas or birthday card. I am blessed I guess though - he at least pays his child support faithfully which is better than some do. It's hard on the kids though - I know mine would love to have his father around and resents that he isn't, he in turn takes it out on me, the one that is here. | | | |
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8. gberlin (3165)
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5 years ago
| | You are not alone! My son also was into skateboarding as a teenager and he and his friends built a half pipe to skate on. One day he came home and wanted a camera so he could take pictures of his arm. Even with the elbow pads and knee pads the rest of his body was open for getting abrasions. He took a picture in the mirror of the back of his arm. He is 22 now and works on construction. Last week he slipped on some ice on the plywood floor of the building he was working on and stepped a a nail! I pray for him everyday! | | | | | | |
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9. ElusiveButterfly (9602)
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5 years ago
| | My twins were diagnosed with ADHD and the older one with ODD as well. My sympathies to you! You can talk until you are blue in the face. They seem to be convinced that what you are saying is truth, but it goes in one ear and out the other. You just breathe, say a prayer, and hope that when they go out the door that they come back in safely and unscathed. Unfortunately it doesn't always happen that way. My sons are now adults. I still worry. Never will stop. | | | | | | |
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10. wahmoftwo (1107)
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5 years ago
| | You may think this is harsh but if that were my child he would have no skateboard and I would watch him like a hawk. It is your responsibility to protect hime even from himself. I know it is hard and you have my sympathy. Good luck. | | | | | | |
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