How Easy Is It To Live A Lie?  

Well I think you know the answer to that one from me - I couldn't do it - no way! No matter how much I hated the other person involved, I would have to talk to them face to face and tell them the truth, and if that made things uncomfortable, then I would have to take the consequences of making the decisions I had made. Living a lie puts added stress onto the person living it - not on anyone else, and I think it is bad karma. Just my views anyway - probably not in line with most of your other friends but you know I cannot tell a lie!!

Honey, I couldn't do it. I can always be polite to someone I do not care for. I don't think I could act like nothing is wrong for that length of time. You are a strong person Wolfie.
I feel sorry for your housemate. He must be a very unhappy person. I wish he would get some help.
You just keep going forward Sweets and take care of yourself.
Hugs Buddy
R

You are right that is sad that not even his family could send him a card on his birthday. I do not know how you do it really, pretending like that. I am way too much of a blunt person and could not think of wearing myself out with keeping up a lie.

I have been in situations where I have been places where I do not want to be but am there for the support or the asking from someone. I can pretend for a few hours that I want to be somewhere I do not really want to be. I can even keep my big mouth shut, in short amounts of time, when I am around someone I do not like but I always make sure that I can get out before I tell the person to "shove it."

I have never been in this position pal , and I hope to God I never am , Yes I feel sory for this guy , but I immagine that he has made HIMSELF billy no mates , You have made your decision pal and stick to it or you could become so depressed you won't want any friends , stick it out pal you don't have long to go , God Bless xxxx

Yep, I have a few times in my life I have had to live a lie. Believe me, if you had talked to him prior and had to still live together for financial or for reasons that your new residence is not ready to move it, it does not make it easier. When I was living with someone a few years ago I talked it over with him and told him it was just not working out yet I had to stay with him for an additional 3 weeks since I was moving out of the state and it was not a speedy process to pack for. It was horrible, we would not even talk, even though we stayed friends and were friendly to each other, it was still an uneasy situation to be around, at least he is nice to you, can you imagine what life would be like if you told him your secret??

Be well, my friend!

Well you are certainly better than me- I could not do it- I'm sure I would act differently and not be as nice- I wouldn't be there as much- I am sure my sig. other would know- I can't hide feelings- How sad is that for your housemate- No friends and even his family does not like him- Don't feel bad though- you need to be healthy and happy- Soon Wolfie- soon!

I have lived that lie before and so has every other person who has lived in an abusive relationship...the fake smiles and warm welcomes are enough to make you want to puke BUT if you do this...it gets worse then there is a fight...for hours usually so lie, my friend, do whatever you have to do to make it through things until te time is here to leave then RUN....RUN....and live happy life away rom his meanness and control....Life will be good....hold on....

Thinking of you always, my dearest friend.

No, wolfie, I have never been good at living a lie. Sooner or later reality will step up and slap me in the face-really hard, and I will then have to make my move. It's one heck of a situation to find oneself in. Your friend is sad now, but that's nothing compared to how sad he will be when the true reality hits him and he looks up to find you gone. I can only hope that he has someone to cushion his fall.

I don't think I'll feel bad abut your house mate since he done you wrong and only think of himself. It was nice of you yo get him a card even though you don't like him and it's sad that he didn't get anything from his family it must be his attitude that drives peole away so wolfie pay no attention to him as you are getting stronger each day and before you'll know it October will be here. So take care.

Living a lie sucks.
Been there, done that. Glad it's over.
You'll feel better when it's over for you too.

Just the fact that he's having a shtty birthday ought to tell him something.