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 I would like to trust all of my family, But We had Money missing today. My husband thinks my Grandson took, it, I don't want to believe it. he is 16 1/2, but what I can't understand is why would someone just take some of the Money? a thief would take the whole thing. My jusband jid the rent money under the Bed. and when he came home he was raising hell about it sayin someone to 3 100 dollar bills, I just son't want to belive he did it. It was part Our rent Money. I notice someone had climbed through my bedroom window, and the window was not lock. someone took a can to stand on to get in window. they put the double lock on the back door, which we never do. We made a Police report. I will be so hurt if I find our that it was him. I mean really hurt, I love My Grandson and would anything for him. How can I find out if he really did it? It xould of been someone else too? I don't know? There were guys workinf next door in thus empty house too, then this other guy who works wirh My husband? he didn't work with him today, His Mother lives mext door to me and I heard he had been over there in her back yard a few times un the Garage, so I don't know I really don't trust him. What do you think about this situation?
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1.  cherriemae (2212) | 3 years ago |  as a general, of course, i trust my family..specially with my parents..for me, family first before anything else because family is always there to comfort you, they always there if you whenever you need them and whatever your problem..you can count on them..
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 marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | That is very true, who can you trust if not your family, I am very hurt that it can be My Grandson, I am not for sure though. he came over yesterday, my husband and my grandson have been feuding, so he doesn't come around when my Husband is home, My Husband is his step Granfather but he has know him since he was 4 yrs, old. | |
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2.  craftcatcher (2277) | 3 years ago |  We've had money stolen from us, it's a horrible feeling when you know there's someone around you who you can't trust.
My brother stole money from me, though he denied it I know it was him, he was the only person in the house other than me and he's the only one who knew where it was.
My husband had money stolen out of his duffle bag at work, he also knows who it but couldn't prove it. So now he keeps his duffle locked in the car. Then he went around and warned everybody else in the building that there was a thief in the building and to lock up their duffles and purses.
If you have to keep cash in the house I would find a better hiding place, one that no one would think of to look.
Here's a site that sells window/door alarms pretty cheap. You might want to consider something like this if someone is coming thru the window. It won't stop them from opening the window but the alarm will usually scare an intruder away.
http://www.ownfirstalert.com/?tid=2230
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | The thing is I had forgot to check to make sure the window was locked, when I went to check out all the windows that is when I found out the window was unlocked and someone came through my bedroom window. the was this can right by the window, that is how they got in. | |
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| 3. ladysurvivor (3549) | 3 years ago |  What you can do is test your grandson on another situation involving a certain amount of money which would make him steal it if really he is the thief. The way is, show him that you have the money. Then make him know where you put the money and make sure nobody else knows about the hiding place except your husband and your grandson. Later, keep an eye on him even at night. Make sure you catch him stealing the money. I am sure a thief would never resist money. In time you will get to know who did it.
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| meljessxena (2050) | 3 years ago |  i would have to agree with ladysurvivor on this one, it would be the best way to find out if your grandson has stolen the money, but make sure you include your husband in this so he is there for proof and not your word against the grandson. but it hard when you think you cant even trust family, theres family of mine i have learnt from them stealing money off me that i couldnt trust them, i wasnt going to worry about saying anything its just my parents overheard me and my partner talking about it and my dad got angry and got up the family member who took the money so we now dont talk to that part of the family, and i just dont want you to make this mistake with your grandson, because as you said you would do anything for him
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | He has stole from my husband before but that was when he was younger age, that is why we think he might have did it. | |
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| 4. Rozie37 (7142) | 3 years ago |  I am sorry to say that you may be right about your grandson taking it. A thief would have took it all. Only someone who cares would leave some. I would think that if I am going to risk breaking into someone's house and possibly going to jail, I am taking it all.
How would anyone else know exactly where to go and look. Was anything else in the room disturbed? Did it look like the thief have to search for a while? Were you missing anything else valuable? Maybe some jewelry?
I think you know in your heart who really did it. I hope that it was not your grandson, because I know that it would break your heart. But, if it was him, just know that this is not a rare thing for teenagers to do. Along with whatever punishment you choose, he should also work to pay if off. I hope you are still able to pay your rent and I am very sorry that this has happened to you.
I know how stressful it is to know that you have put something somewhere and then find that it is gone.
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | I checked to make sure nothing else was stolen, my check-books were still there, all was touched was my husbands money the 3 100 bills. | |
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| 5. jothis (290) | 3 years ago |  Defenitly i trust may family. In my view you have to take this problem very seriously. If it was a issue concerned and connected with outside matters its ok. But this is your family problem. Family is one of the greatest strenght of humanbeing. So try to find out actual theft first. If that person is inside your family try to keep this issue in your family itself. And now onwards kep the cash in a safe place. This will be nice.
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | My Husband stuck the Money under the Matress and didn't even tell me what he was doing, if he had of told me he put the money there I would of move it to a safer place, I don't care if my house if locked up, I will not put money under My Matress, that is the first place a person looks. If he had of told me what he was doing we would still have the Money because I would of put it in a much safer place. | |
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| 6. eyewitness (1143) | 3 years ago |  In a lot of cases children steel money from their parents and grandparents.Even if they get caught.There's a reason why they do it.Once you caught the person,maybe your grandson just ask him why he stole it and why didn't he asked for it.
I have this problem with my sister and i told her i'd rather spend money on her than that she would lie to me and steel money from me.
Still when something is missing we always look at her,because she still steels sometimes.
In this case i would not use police for this matter because it could be a relative.
But since it's not sure i think you're doing the right thing.
I understand you don't trust him and it's logical.
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| Darkwing (7519) | 3 years ago |  Eyewitness... I have to say something here... please forgive me intruding. Whether it's a family member or not, I think these people were right to make a police report. I don't know about anywhere else, but in the UK, we are given the choice to press charges or not to press charges if we find a family member has committed a crime against us.
If the grandson did take the money, then he has to know that they're not taking the matter lightly, and he has to suffer the fear of being found out, or his tendency to take money, and possibly other things of value, will continue, or indeed grow.
Brightest Blessings.
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | That is right, I still think he didn't do it, I talked to him about in hour ago, but everyone thinks he did it. | |
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| Rozie37 (7142) | 3 years ago | I don't know about that Darkwing, I don't think that I could send a family member to jail for stealing my money. To me, that is a little bit too harsh. | |
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| Darkwing (7519) | 3 years ago | Rozie, you misunderstood me completely. I didn't suggest that she send her Grandson to jail at all. I suggested that if it DID turn out to be him who took the money, she would have the choice not to prosecute. She has to involve the police for it might not be her Grandson who is guilty and she will never know who is hanging around her home.
Please read my response properly before attacking me for something I didn't say.
Brightest Blessings to you. | |
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| Darkwing (7519) | 3 years ago | As I mentioned before, Marcia, there's something not quite right here. I don't really think your Grandson would have broken into your house, at a time when you might have been in there, and looked under the mattress for money you didn't even know was there... let alone him. It just doesn't ring true. I think somebody saw you leave the house. But then, I'm not the law, and I may be completely wrong, but whoever did it, you need to know, for your own peace of mind, because you'll be in constant fear of it happening again, and your life and sleep will be disrupted. Nobody wants that do they... I do feel for you, my friend. x | |
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | Well thank you very Much, I just talked to the lady next door, she said she seen someone with while on that came out of the house, now those men next door had white on because they are painters, so I don't know, those people didn't come to work there the next day. so I a,m suspicious of that. | |
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| Darkwing (7519) | 3 years ago | Wow... somehow, I just KNEW it! It didn't ring true that it was your Grandson. For one thing, why would he break into the house when he'd been having disagreements with your hubby, and risk being yelled at again. How would he know where the money was, and why wouldn't he just ask, instead of risk more problems. Whereas, general thieves would look under the mattress before looking anywhere else, to my mind.
Whew... what relief! I'm so glad to hear your neighbour saw something, and yes, very strange that they didn't return the next day... probably bogus workers anyway! I had a feeling they must have been closeby, watching you leave the house! I sure hope the police can track them down, because you still don't need the uncertainty and breaks in sleep. But, I can't tell you how happy I am that you found it wasn't your Grandson, after all. Call me Darkwing Sherlock! ha ha ha
This is the best news I've had all day, my friend. I'm so happy for you! x
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | I am happy too, Now I can have peace, because I was so hurt, to think that it was him. You have a good Eveing! | |
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7.  reddevil1 (1132) | 3 years ago |  how can i trust my family mebers when some of them do behave badly than my enemies,extended family mebers attimes do behave funny and they want to see every favour you asked from them as being too demanding,i really dont talk to some of them
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | Yes some Family mMembers could be a trip! | |
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8. Darkwing (7519)  | 3 years ago | The first thing to do here is to make yourself a calming drink, like herbal tea, sit down and think logically about this. When you left the house to go out, was your grandson around to see you leave? Ok, they didn't take all the money, possibly because they thought that if they only took a part of it, you wouldn't notice, or if they were seen leaving the house with the tin, then they would have been more conspicuous... in other words, putting a few bills in their pocket would be much easier and they would be more likely to get away with the theft, without your even noticing there had been a theft.
The one thing I can't understand is why they would have left the can under the window, instead of moving it at least to the next house, which is empty. Sure, it could have been any of the people you mentioned but as you say, it's difficult to reason why it would have been any particular one. I think you have to let the police handle the situation. They may be able to find fingerprints on the window or the tin, or something, although you've all touched the tin since, so I would doubt that would be a lot of help.
Thinking along the lines of your grandson... if he needed as much as three hundred dollars, would he not ask if you could give or lend him that amount? Would he get himself into bother with somebody that he needed it illicitly? Has he suddenly acquired something new, which you know he couldn't normally afford? I really do doubt that a lad of that age could think he would get away with stealing from you. I know it would give me a terrible sense of guilt stealing from anybody, let alone my own family, who would be sure to know if I'd suddenly acquired a large amount of money. I would think the thing to do here is ask his parents to sit down with him and you for a chat, so that you can either illiminate him from your suspicions or find out why he did that to you. If he did take the money, then his parents have to pay it back, or make him pay it back, from his allowance, or it might well happen again at some point. If guilty, he mustn't be allowed to get away with it. You need to find out, for his sake, as well as your own.
I hope you find out who did this. It's not nice when you have neighbours you can't trust either... even the workmen next door, but I would doubt they would be in a trusted job like they are, if they were thieves.
I wish you all the luck in the World for getting to the bottom of this, and indeed, finding out that it wasn't your Grandson who took the money. I know it's still a horrible feeling to know that somebody would steal from you, but when it's family that you love and trust so dearly, it's heartbreaking. Brightest Blessings. x
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | Thank you for your support I couldn't even sleep last night, this is really bothering me! | |
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| Darkwing (7519) | 3 years ago | Yes, I can imagine it would prevent you from sleeping when you don't know who's been in your house. It would make me very uptight too.
You know, I've been thinking a lot about this since my response, and really, I know it would upset you to find out that your Grandson stole from you, but if you could find out the truth from him somehow, it might help you to settle more. Ok, it would hurt, but at least you'd know that it wasn't an outsider in your house, and I feel it would help your Grandson too, for the truth to be known, were it him. I can't get my head round how, if you didn't know the money was there, that he would know, though. Something doesn't quite ring true, here.
Brightest Blessings, and take care. I hope everything is resolved real soon. x | |
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| sid556 (10585) | 3 years ago |  yes..that bothered me too...how did he know the $ was there. Now I don't want to add more to this but I have to say it. My ex did not get along with my daughter(his step.) One thing he did a few times and I caught him doing was to hide things and then try to convince me that she had taken them or was being careless with them to justify his dislike of her to me for I was always defending her. Im sorry...you said he was his step grandfather and that he did not like him and that they were arguing and this all just came to mind. i hope i'm wrong.
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| Darkwing (7519) | 3 years ago | Wow... I hadn't noticed that response, but surely not. I hope you're wrong anyway, but it does seem a bit odd that hubby checked his money straight away on reaching home, now you come to mention it?
Now, I'm praying for you Marcia. x | |
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | That last Comment you made, what are you saying? | |
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| Darkwing (7519) | 3 years ago | I'm not sure whether you meant my last comment, Marcia, or Sid's, but I was responding to her response. She kind of put a slant on it, which I didn't really believe but could just have been an outside possibility.
Nothing was meant by what I said... I was just agreeing that the possibility was there but surely that wasn't the case. I indeed hoped not. I'm just so happy that your Grandson wasn't involved because I know it would have broken your heart had he been, and I couldn't get my head round it being him anyway. Brightest Blessings. x | |
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | Ok, Sweet heart!! thanks!! | |
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| Darkwing (7519) | 3 years ago | You're quite welcome... take good care. x | |
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| 9. stella1989 (1430) | 3 years ago |  There is nothing unusual in this situation...!
Some times teeagers do get missleaded by others ..!
So there ARE possibilities of you grandson stealing money from you.So there is no harm in NOT trusting your own kid's kid just be cool and do keep a good watch on him to prevent further these kind of things from happening.
Because see loving someone does not mean that you go and allow him every thing and pamper him..!
And yes there are more chances of that guy who works with your husband to steal the money..!!
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | I just don't know, I cannot say. I will get to the bottom of this. I couldn't sleep all night. I will talk to the guys that were working on the house to see if they saw anything, like My grandson. | |
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| 10. stephcjh (22467) | 3 years ago |  I am so sorry to hear about this. I think someone had to know where the money was since it was hidden under the bed. I am really not sure who did this to you all but I really think someone had to know where the money was to begin with. I hope you find out who did it and you get the money back. I don't harldy trust anyone these days whether it is family or not. It is awful. I am so sorry for you.
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | Thanks Steph, I just talked to my Grandson and he told me he sweared on his father and his father is deceased. I know you might think I am crazy, but I am going to see a Spirit Adviser I just half to know, I believe in them. and they have told me a lot of things that was true. I won't be satisfied untill I do. | |
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| Rozie37 (7142) | 3 years ago | Marcia Scott, I don't know how I assumed that you were a Christian. I would never trust a "spirit adviser." Are these psychics? I would not trust them with something so serious. I would pray about this and put it in God's hands. | |
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| stephcjh (22467) | 3 years ago | Your welcome. I know I sure couldn't think or sleep until I knew the truth also. Sometimes children will swear that that didn't do something but knowingly lie to stay out of trouble also. In a way, I would hope it was the granson instead of some stranger in my home though. We have been robbed 3 times in the past and it is a very scary feeling. We moved out to the country and hoping it will stay a bit safer now. I hope you find out what happened so you can finally lay your body down and rest because I know this must have you stressed out. | |
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | Yes it is really stressing me out, I went to see Grandson, and told him Someone came in the house and took part of our Rent Money, I don't care what Rosie saids, I am kind of Pyshic myself, and I have been going to readers about 20 yrs, yes I believe in God but I also believe in the supernautral, maybe you don't and a lot of people don't but I do, and I know they will tell me someting. | |
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| stephcjh (22467) | 3 years ago | I understand and it is totally up to you as to what you want or have to do to find out what happened. I believe in the lord also but I don't see anything worng for asking for help from someone else to find out what happened also. I wish you the best and I hope you find what you need and I also hope you can retrieve your money back somehow also. | |
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | I do work, partime I told my hysband that with my check I will pay what I can to help. even if it is my whole check. we do have to keep a roof over our head. | |
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | Hi Steph, I just got to tell you this, I went online to www.kasamba.com and I ask one of the experts did my Grandson to it, they said it was a stranger, and I ask how they got in they said through the window, now I never even mention that to them. they told me point blank no your Grandson didnot do it, I was so thrilled when they told me that. Now I will have some peace in my mind that he didn't do it. | |
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| stephcjh (22467) | 3 years ago | Yes. I am so sorry. I know it hurts financially also. I am glad that the weight has gotten a little lighter for you about your grandson but I would still be so scared about that stranger being in my house. At least you can have peace now about your grandson though. | |
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| marciascott (11746) | 3 years ago | That is right Stepheny, because it was a hard pill to swallow. I am convince now. | |
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