Being down...

I can relate myself to what you've been through, right now I feel so down and I don't know how to start my life again. I'm just holding on because of the help of my parents and friends. They always tell me that life has to continue but right now I can't think of the happiest day of my life maybe after I pass this trials that I'm going through and I'm really longing for that day to come.

im still on that very process of trying to arrange my life and see the positive aspects in it, we are all in the process and im glad for you that you finally found the meaning of life for you by the birth of your son, i honesty could not think about one life changing moment in my life yet, but all i know is im on the right track.

I certainly know what it is like to be very down. I suffered from major depression back in 92 and had to go for outpatient and impatient therapy. I was just so depressed and miserable. Once I started feeling better, I went through some new training so that I could find a better and less stressful job. Fortunately enough I found a job that I like very much and have not been down since late 92. The job that I am at now turned my life around, though I would like more money.:-)

Hi Joey.. I have lived most of my life feeling down and depressed. Just recently I decided to take my life back. I refuse, absolutely refuse to let my family (mom, dad, sister) get me down anymore. I don't let anyone I work with bother me. I don't let anything in life get me down anymore. I am a better mother, wife and friend because of it. I still have self esteem issues and probably always will. But my life is a whole heck of a lot better now, and dwelling on the negative just doesn't cut it for me anymore.

There are many happy moments if you are just prepared to look for them. Yes, life can be depressing but dwelling on things will only make it worse. At the moment I am going through a very tough financial phase and I could sit around and mope about it or worry myself into physical illness about it but it really is just one of those things. I know it is only temporary and when it is sorted out I will be able to appreciate having money again.
The best thing anyone can do is try to find something to be happy about every day. With a little effort we can find a positive slant to anything.

I really don't want to think back to see if I have had a happiest moment. That is because then I would be comparing all the coming moments to that and then get down because they were not as happy. Anyway, we can only live moment to moment, so for me I want to see each moment as being happy. I have a hard time understanding different levels of being happy. I want to think that being happy is just that...being happy and there are no comparisons to be made. I think everyone has the choice to feel happy or sad or to change from one feeling to the other.

Hi Joey. from your post I have noticed on thing, you have learned a very valuable lesson. because it is our thinking that leads us up or down.and we have more control over our thinking than you may believe. if you need proof think of all the people that are in denial, and you know that it is just their thinking that is holding them there. and another way to clear up your thinking is asking your self, if the emotion that is putting you down is controlled by past actions. For instance self talk "I never will be able to do this" just because you were not able to accomplish something is no reason to stall out . You just learn one more way how not to do something. I used to have a saying I know 27 way of how not to tie up my shoes. and I know 1 right way that works for me. So this way your solution is your doing. Our self talk can crash us or it can work with us, and we definitely have the control over out thoughts.

Hello joey!(",)

How are you? Hope you are not depressed anymore. By the way, I would like to congratulate you and your wife for the birth of your son. Now, you have an additional bundle of joy in the family.

I'm always a happy person maybe because I always look at things on the brighter side. I'm always optimistic and I often believe that if one door closes, other opportunities open up for you so, there is no need to worry and be depressed for a long period. It is but normal to feel down when you fail but one should move on and go on with life smiling knowing that beautiful things are ahead of his/her journey through life.

Great day!(",)

I know what you mean. i had a long fight with depression! mine was over my x-wife. but as soon as i got ride of the problem. the depression was gone. i think if you fall into depression there is a reason and once you figure it out and want to change you will see a diffrence.

I do agree with you that being down is a psychological mood. It affects and influences one's perception. With a child, I guess that takes away the negative focus and transforms it into positive energy as there is someone you need to be responsible for.

This sense of responsibililty, I feel is more important than just being happy. The happiest moment I had, was when I renewed a nearly lost friendship. Our friendship
gone sour after a series of misunderstanding and we all had a hard time coming to terms. Now we are still best of friends.