Preventing Drops In Stars and Ratings---Rate...Rate...Rate!

Well we all have to do what works. I my view we should ideally be able to express our views with honesty and integrity...whether friends agree or not. To me it is healthy to be able to disagree..if and when we do..as long as it is done within a respectful tone.

I agree with you about the 4 lines...but I have had some great one-liners that really hit the point home. So I rate them with a plus if they have lived up to the idea that 'brevity can be the greatest part of eloquence!'

Thanks for adding...
Raia

The plus aspect is something that I strive for...and absolutely agree with your 'saying something nice or nothing at all approach.' Hopefully we all have enough emotional maturity to accept differing opinions as long as we do so respectfully. It would be nice to find a way to keep the checks in balances with measure of integrity though...so valued members not only feel like a ten...but have it as well when warranted.

Good input again...much appreciated!

Thank you immensely!!! Wow...what a wonderful clear..articulate and powerful assessment of things here..I respect your view and you also have a big plus rating. Some seem to be intimidated when being asking to rise to the occasion and get over themselves. You certainly are no shrinking violet...and I love people like you. Those who can stand in the resonance of their own power...and walk their talk can make people resort to under handed tactics and that is too bad.

Anyway..I do not think you are wrong...in any of what you said. Although I try to stay away from labeling things write/wrong/black/white etc. Give me the 'middle/neutral' perspective...where I can choose to agree or disagree rather than pointing fingers. Anyway..I will say that I agree with you..and thanks a heap for a passionate, eloquent dissertation. No macabre/ogre mode from how I see it...Mega + for you too!

Cheers!

Hi again RozAnn...I posted a comment in that section to offer you a little love and hope. Also I will certainly be sending energetic prayer support to you and your son.

Thank you for your comments and support of the idea. We are all part of a great community here and need to look out for each others interests. Hopefully if we can go down the list and just click...plus, plus, plus...then there won't be any 'gaps' for those who are trying to create dissatisfaction to have an 'in.' I love Mylot and most everyone on it...so yes lets keep the love and light shining so bright there will be little room left for the shadows to encroach on our enjoyment here.

Thank you for you love, peace and faith...may the good you do for others be multiplied back to you.

Wishing you and your son light filled blessings and greater abundance.
Raia

Thank you Raia and I will be much more focused hopefully when this storm of worrying regarding my son's welfare and my family's misfortune subdues somewhat, But during all of our cumulative concerns here on myLot, I am sure we will all have no trouble 'sticking together'*smiling* hugs xo
RozAnn...TheHairDresser

Once again RozAnn we are on the same wave length. I am a big believer in giving members kudos...even when I may not see things the same way. They made an effort to comment and unless it is abusive I give them a plus. So like you I rate, rate, rate.

Now I am more aware of the fact that some use it against members for their own ends when ratings are left unmarked it is more important than ever to tighten our ranks and prevent them for doing it.

I sincerely hope you and your son obtain support for the challenges you have been facing. There are many service organizations our there and it is my sincere wish that you find some to assist you.

Sending you warm, bright blessings...good to hear from you again.
Raia

Thank you so sincerely Raia and a most happy blessed Sunday to you and your family there my good kind friend.
Regards and Peace to you
RozAnn..TheHairDresser

Happy Sunday to you too...hey we're in better shape this week than last. You have the right day...and I haven't flubbed to badly. Except that I accidentally hit deny instead of accept on a new friend request. Thankfully my hubby came to the rescue and helped me find her. I quickly asked her to be a friend and posted a note on her site. At least this time it isn't so much brain fog as it is a 'blame it on the cat' thing. Just as I went to respond 'accept' the cat jumped up and I missed it just enough to click the wrong one.

Oh well other than that we my hubby and our animals are sitting together watching home shows as I work on the laptop and respond to all the great comments you and others are leaving here. So I hope you have a good day and take some nurture time. In the midst of tough times everyone needs to recharge their inner batteries so as not to run on empty.

Blessings RozAnn. Did you have a change to check your comment section..just a little way of cheering you on.
Your gal-pal
Raia

Oh yes I did finally Raia LOL..I thought you meant you left a comment on my webpage listed in my profile, my homewebpage LOL, and when I couldn't find it, I thought it was just me. As for me, I am sitting here typing like the dickens and worrying to death about my son, I can't stop and won't but it is eased so very much by your presence in my life and all the fine myLotters! Thank you indeed for the little lovely comment and did I love the colours or what? I hope you get a chance in your business to see some of my writngs that are listed on my webpage TheHairDresser (proper) and tell me what you think, only when you would have time of course! If you have troube getting there let me know! Grand that you are having a peaceful day there with hubby and the animals. I am so very upset about my son's cat..I loved that animal..but not to fret, because I know the cat is in heaven. Please know that I am thinking of you all and just am trying so hard to keep still in the place I am at the moment.
Love Light Peace and Abiding Friendship to you Raia
Your Friend
RozAnn...TheHairDresser

Oh RozAnn...I wish we lived closer. I would come over and give you a really big, warm, gal-pal hug. So even though I am not able to do that could you stop for a moment and envision a 5 foot 21/2 inch woman with kind of wild brown/auburn hair wrapping her spiritual arms around you and offering my light and love to you. Energy travels beyond the parameters of our physicality and I know you are intuitive and can feel it coming your way. Just as the prayers are from me and others within your Mylot community.

I was not aware of what happened to your son's cat...my goodness what a lot of sadness and loss you are experiencing right now. At times like this I always wish there was more I could do. Just know my hand is extended to you and yours through energetic prayer support and wishes that things will begin to improve soon.

From other discussions on your site it appears that you do not have a lot of family and friends where you are living now? Have you thought about going to social services and applying for assistance until you and your son get back into a better place? Some people feel a sense of pride and do not want to go that route...but we all pay into the system to help others when they are at a place of last resort.

It is always easier to work through emotional upsets when our material world is feeling a little safer.
Just a thought. Please keep us updated and I will check your site too. It will be a pleasure to check out what you have written. I think I understand where you said it is..if not I'll ask for clarification.

Glad to hear you found the comment I was talking about. Keep checking I will add more when I find the right ones. It is always sweet so receive warm comments from anyone...and right now you need lots of those. So dear friend, you are a strong person and I know you will keep the faith. Everything in life has a beginning, middle and end...and I hope the end to your concerns is not too far away...and that you will have a fresh beginning soon.

Some of the topics on my Blog offer perspectives on how when we change our beliefs...we change our lives. Maybe something there could assist you in believing you deserve a happy, healthy abundant life. I'd love to hear that you have that!

In the meantime we'll keep chatting...and I trust you will draw support from those of us who truly care about you and your son.

Warm and loving regards,
Raia

Hello again Raia
Well, needless to say, your caring here is truly exceptional and your words of kindness, understanding, and compassion is overwhelming but so very welcomed by me. Raia, my son is 3000 miles away from me which is why this is so distressing. I, am not in the best of well areas, to say the least and it is the distance among other factors that is killing me and me with nothing to help him or even get to him. I can go on forever regarding this circumstance, but to cut it short, I just wanted you to know that he is that far away and for this to happen and me not to be able to get to him, or even see him is grueling to my spirit. At least he managed to keep his cell phone however and that is something. He is paying out the nose for a motel across from his work, because he has no one to go to or help. The Red Cross gave him a few nights paid at a motel miles away from his work and that was it until he told them it was too far away and got this other one. He is living hand to mouth and no car, so lucky he is close to his night stocking job at WalMart in Lakewood, CO. No savings, no nothing. I am ashamed that I, who was always able to help my family, now have no means to do so, given this situation here. Enough of my ramblings but this is only scratching the surface and I want you to know how very much and deeply do I wish you all the best and blessings for your noticing of me Raia.
Yes, we will keep chatting! Of course..:)*
Hugs to you and thank you for your warm hug which I felt from so very far away..funny I just wrote a journal entry on my Wisdomology page about that this very morning..if you click from my http://TheHairDresser.spruz.net,, you will see it...It is under the words of Our Wise Sailing Friends at the addy I just gave you. A wonderful site too.
Love and Light to you and yours in your homeland
Your Friend
RozAnn..TheHairDresser

Have not been on line much today. It is beautiful fall day and I wanted to lie in the hammock after going for a walk with my hubby. Thought I'd do a quick check in before settling in for the night. Thank you for your wonderful words of appreciation. I am glad you can feel my love and support reaching out to you..it is from the heart. When I read the many challenges some Mylotters face it is important to let each other know we care. I have said it often that knowing that people like you and members I have made a deeper connection with it does make the world feel like a warmer place.

I value your candid sharing of what you are going through and how you feel about it. Sometimes it helps to be able to get the feelings out rather than keeping them inside. I mentioned before about social assistance..it can sometimes be applied for as a subsidiary income for people in need. Maybe your son could contact the government and find out what they might be able to do to help him find a low rental place. I sincerely hope local churches and the Red Cross will continue to provide additional support until he can find a safe harbor. Would coming back home to where you are be an alternative for him and you? I hear your anguish about not being able to do more. You sound like a great mom...and I would feel safe in saying that your love for him must be a beacon in the darkness.

So my friend...my thoughts and prayers will continue for you. It is a little late this evening to check out your other site..but I sure will tomorrow and get back to you.

Hope you sleep well...and keep the faith. Warm and loving regards,
Raia

Raia
Thank you from my heart.
I am here and I hope you have a very good night there and peaceful.
Love
RozAnn..TheHairDresser

Hi Happy Monday

Hope you had a restful sleep. Just checked in for a few moments before heading outside to enjoy some beautiful Fall weather.
I hope your day is going well...thoughts and well wishes continue to come your way. Hopefully some way will open up for you and you son...keep me posted.

Warm and caring regards,
Raia

I will ty Raia...Enjoy your day

Hi...Hope things are OK with you today. Haven't had time to be here until now...and will be on for a couple of hours before signing off again. I have work and personal commitments that continue to effect the amount of time I will be spending here. However, I will always make time for special people like you that I have developed a stronger connection with.

Spoke to Lakota today in person..she seems mentally and emotionally prepared for her operation on Wednesday. If we all keep our prayer support going for her I am sure she'll come through this..she is one very strong gal.

Anyway...keep the faith RozAnn...and big hugs and warm and loving regards coming your way..
Raia

I appreciate your objective approach to the ratings idea. The way things go up and down and can be affected by the whims of disgruntled or disinterested Mylotters is part of a larger problem.

Most members who have a regular circle of friends know the quality of their input and pay little attention to how others see it. So in that way we 'rate' each other. I value the fact that we are not backward about 'rewarding' each other in verbal expressions of appreciation. That means far more to me than any number on a star.

So yes, I am aligned to your perspective that focusing on creating interesting, thoughtful discussions and comments is a more significant contribution than ratings alone. However, I still think we can reduce the negative impact by not leaving a gap in the rating whenever possible.

Your participation and input to this topic is greatly appreciated. When I look at the number of posts you have made...you are one of the most experienced members I have seen. Thank you.

I hope topics like your should appear now and then so that some mylotians will learn how to rate the responses/discussions/comments.

thanks for the tribute paid to my seniority.

Thank you too...and you deserve the acknowledgment about having seniority here...you deserve it. Also from what I have seen from you topics and the way you respond to others you have wonderful integrity and I respect that. I am glad we have become on-line friends as well.

Best regards,
Raia

I can appreciate the importance of making abuses known. I think your approach is reasonable and fair. What I am hoping is that the problems we are discussing can be reduced with as many members as possible rating pluses. That way it narrows the open gaps so those with other agendas do not have an chance to cause trouble.

Thanks for dropping by and adding your experiences to the forum.

You are right, we should always give a + rating where it is deserved. It is a great way to stop unfair drops in our ratings.

I appreciate confirmation of that..hopefully if we all become more diligent in doing it on every site we can maintain a high standard of excellence. Hopefully within the like attracts like law of attraction eventually the ones who do not want to play fairly will decide to go elsewhere.

Thanks for your views on this...and that the awareness of this problem will improve after we start 'plus-ing away.'
Cheers,
Raia

Well you are obviously doing something right to have a blue star. I am not one to fret or stress about things I have no control over. However I do like to exercise my right to choose and offer support to others who are having a problem. I continually ask myself I am part of the solution...or part of the problem. In my work my hubby and I assist others in constructive problem solving...and that was the idea behind having this topic.

So if we all commit to making sure there are no 'gaps' in the ratings those with less honorable intentions will hopefully be kept out of the loop.

Thanks for your input and upbeat approach....and I sincerely wish you a happy Sunday too!

The ratings on the side of each discussion are easy for me...plus, plus plus unless the member is abusive. I agree with you that assigning best responses can be challenging at times. There are often so many good ones to choose from. However I do eventually make a decision out of respect for those who have made the effort to participate.

The idea behind us tightening up on the unmarked ratings so those who want to cause trouble will have less opportunity to do so.

Hope you and your family are having a happy, relaxing Sunday and building up your inner reserves for you big day on Wednesday.

You know my thoughts and prayers are always with you my friend.

Warm and loving regards and biggie hugs!
Raia

Lakota the "only one" choice is for best response. You can rate every response and comment on your own and on another person discussion.

From my understanding we can rate anyone where there is a rating open to do so. I have rated others with a plus on anyone's site who does not appear to be doing so. I have seen what happened when they are open for 'attack' ratings when we do not.

So that is why I posted the rate, rate, rate battle call. Let's keep looking after and supporting all who deserve it!

awwwwwwww ok I get it you 2 .
I do beleive I have got it lol
and now We are back to the house am haveing a relaxing day . we ended up having to take daughter in law to the base today for food usually it is on Sat but she hadnt said anything this week so we ended up going today!

Glad to hear you had a nice day...it was so warm and lovely...I hope we get more of this. Our winters are long and cold..so the longer they stay away the better we like it!

Signing off soon...sent you an e-mail...take care, sleep well and we'll chat more tomorrow.
Blessings..
Raia

Got the eamil sent one back.
I can keep winter away for ever but then we only get a couple of months here and if it ever snaows it is gone by noon.
y'll sleep well and love ya and see ya tomorrow for this is the last one I am doing tonight going to bed and sleep with his arms aropund me hugs and blessings

Happy Monday Lakota..
Just here for a little bit before going outside to enjoy more lovely weather.

I slept very well..hope you did too. Hubby says hi to you...we are with you as you prepare for your healing experience. That is how we look at it...Blessings to you and your lovele family.

Love and many hugs,
Raia

oh I did and will again tonight hugs to you and David
blessigngs to both of you too Thats

Sleep well...rest up...and go into that surgery with your 'warrior woman determination'...and I know you'll come through this like the Champ you are.

Blessings...use those wings to fly back to us safe and sound..
Much love, light and many hugs..
Raia

Thanks for adding more understanding to the reduction in ratings when things are deleted. I was not clear on that and it could explain marginal drops for members who had no idea why.

My reason for opening this topic is for members to work together to assist Mylot in developing a way to correct abuses when a rating plummets. Surely Mylot admin could trace back and find out who did it and why and hold them accountable..then bring the other members rating back.

To me the ones that do it should have a special color coded star to alert other members that they have been doing. I am a big believer in holding people accountable for the choices they make. Maybe having an 'unfavorable' colored star that we all recognize would help them to develop a more honorable way of handling themselves here.

Just a thought. I agree with you the nebulous way they can operate behind the scenes and show up without Mylot finding a way to track and possibly eliminate them. From what others members have said even when they are banned they come back under another name and e-mail address. So it appears to be an on-going problem.

That is why I hope that tightening up on the ratings will put a little stopgap in place.

Your views are always well presented raijin...and I welcome your participation anytime.

Well we all hope for the best, people should be aware of what the importance of these features are all about. But we really don't know if what other's say is true, so it is then up to us to decided or choose where and to whom we should respond at..

Yes..choices and responsibilities. Something that we all need to consider. I hope discussions like these will help Newbies and all other members to tighten the ranks and prevent less honorable members from creating havoc. When people work together for a common goal positive outcomes can and do occur. It would be nice if what we are trying to do does make things better for the all.

Best regards raijin,
Raia

Hi...and thank you for your willingness to help resolve s problems some members are having. In my world view I constantly ask myself..am I part of the problem...or part of the solution? Just because some of us have not had a dramatic drop in our ratings should not be a reason to find a solution for those who have.

I love being an active participant within Mylot and when I first became a member I was told that rating others also works for us. So my reasons are to reward anyone on any site just for taking the time to add to a discussion. When I go on sites where someone has posted a discussion and they do not rate respondents I do it for them. Why not? It only takes a minute...and it reduces the chance for some mean-spirited person to 'neg' someone out of spite.

So it is great if you are willing to begin giving members a plus whenever you see an unmarked rating. Having said that I do avoid 'hissy-fit' discussions and refuse to add anything to those. I could not add a plus to that kind of energy with a clear conscience...and if I cannot add something positive...I choose not to do anything. So there are some exceptions...but I am rarely involved in those forums anyway.

So thanks for being willing to start...should be interesting to see if our community notices any
difference...there is always a ripple effect within the cause and effect of any choice we make.