I stood up for my friend, would you have done the same?

@snoopy04 (718)
United States
December 5, 2007 3:48pm CST
My friend and I were at the park the other day letting our kids enjoy the nice weather before it turned cold again and my friend had brought some plastic toy swords with her so my sons could play with them. Her little boy is into pirates and she had recently bought him a Pirates of the Carribeane playset for his birthday. She had also brought a plastic treasure chest and the kids were pretending to look for buried treasure. The playground wasnt really crowded so the kids were having a really good time. Well about three moms showed up with their kids and for a little while werent causing any problems. Well about a hour and a half later my friends son came over to us crying and all upset because one of the moms yelled at him and took his swords away from him. My sons asked the mom if his friend could have his swords back because they didnt belong to her. She said no and thats when my friends son came over to us. Well my friend went over there and took the swords away from the mom and told her that was totally uncalled for. Our kids werent bothering them and there was no reason to yell at him and make him cry. So needless to say we were getting ready to leave when the mom came over to my friend and told her that our kids playing with a violet toy and they were acting like they were stabbing each other. She didnt allow her kids to play with these types of toys and that our kids wouldnt stop playing with the swords when she asked them. She actually said our kids tried to attack her kids and thats why she took the sword away. Well thats when I stepped in and told her what a lying you know what she was. Our kids werent even playing close to her kids and yes they were waving the swords around but they were waving them in the air and jumping up and down and yelling we found the treasure. They had buried their chest in the sand and had just dug it up when the lady said our kids attacked her kids. Zachary told me that her older kids came over and tried to take their toys and Zac sttod up for his friend and got the toys back from the older kids. So I have a feeling the lady really took the swords away from our kids to give them to hers. I asked Zac what happend in front of her and that is what he told him. So then I really gave her a piece of mind and of course she didnt have any thing to say after that. I did tell her it was one thing for a child to be a bully toward another child but when a parent acts like a bully toward another a child that is really pathetic. My friend was shocked but I think what the mom did was inexcusable. I am normally a very passive person but when a adult bullys other kids then passive goes out the window. We couldnt belive what the mom did but she was so glad I just happend to be with her that day. Now she has named me Supermom lol. But wouldnt you have done the same thing?
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@mandy_27 (67)
• Australia
6 Dec 07
I think you did the right thing, What that other mum did was wrong. I think I would have done the same thing in that situation. It really upsets me when adults think they can bully other children, it is so wrong, no wonder the children end up like that.
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• United States
5 Dec 07
I'm not a mother to human children and will never be, but what that other mother did was inexcusable. It's not her child. It's your friend's child. If you and your friend have no problems with your children playing with plastic swords, fine. Let them play. And if what you said is true about that woman taking the toys away from the two kids that belonged to you and your friend, someone needs to bit*h slap her hard for what she did. Does that give me the right to walk up to her and take her kid because I think he's cute? No. Just like it does not give her the right to take the toys away from kids that don't belong to her. You and your friend are the parents. Not that woman.
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
7 Dec 07
I don't blame you, I would of done the same thing. I just hope that you didn't curse her out in front of all those kids! :-) I would of been very angry and I probably would of done the same thing you did. And I probably would of been one to smack her upside the head with the swords, lol. I'm hot tempered! No, I wouldn't of hit her, I don't like jail, ha! But I definitely would of did what you did and gave her a peice of my mind! Good Job! Bye Supermom! Have a great day :-)
• Philippines
6 Dec 07
Even if I'm not married, nor do I have kids, I will do the same! You did the right thing! Based on your story, you would think that the mother would have a better sense and be more mature than the kids. Not unless something bad happened or someone got injured because of the toy, the kids should have not been treated that way. It's no wonder that that lady's son 'wanted' to take it away because it's an example the kids learn from the parent. Being a 'bully' mom speaks up for how your kid 'may' turn into. In times like these, being calm and rational of the situation together with stating the facts to the kind of people you dealt with 'hopefully' would put some senses and they 'should' feel shame on how they show examples to their own kids! It's right to speak up whenever needed!
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@dianne17k (587)
• Philippines
6 Dec 07
I'm too much of an introvert and passive as well so I doubt I could do what you've done. But I think what you did was admirable. You're right, getting bullied by another child is upsetting enough but for a parent to do the bullying for his or her child is greatly unacceptable. It's good that you stood up for your friend; letting that thing pass would have only tolerated that mother's actions. Kudos!
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Sep 08
hi snoopy yes you did what I wou ld have done, no strange mom would have bullied my kid like that either. What she and her kids did in play was fine for them, but to try to teach your kids what they should and should do in playing was none of her business and her kids should have been stopped from trying to take your kids toys from them. Some moms think God put them here to teach s trangers kids what they think is right and wrong..that is none of their business at all.