having kids - important or not?
By glitzypurple
@glitzypurple (1477)
Philippines
33 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
17 Dec 07
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!
Chioldbearing is a CHOICE, not a requirement or an obligation. It is not universally "important" to have children. If you want them, then maybe it's a big deal to you. But to say, in general, that "it is important to have children" is hugely false. No one "needs" children. Parenthood is a lifestyle option and is not for everyone, so no one should be forced to do it.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
17 Dec 07
Yes, but what I'm saying is that when most people say "having children is important" what they mean is "everyone needs a child to 'complete' their life". Which is completely false.
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@glitzypurple (1477)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
Some people dont want to have children of their own but enjoy playing/seeing other children.. Maybe they're just not ready or they don't see the importance really. Their option.
Thanks for the reply.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
18 Dec 07
Important for who? In general? I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this question.
Having kids is important for the people that feel having kids is important.
It each individual couple that should find out how important having kids is for them and the answer will be different for each couple.
IT can be extremely important for some, or not at all for others.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
20 Dec 07
Well. I can talk for myself :)
I wasn't too sure of how important was having kids for me. I was actually a bit scared. I was afraid that maybe I wouldn't work as a parent and would decided to give my kids for adoption as my parents did.
As time passed I felt I wanted kids, but I was still afraid.
I"m glad I ended up deciding that it was really important to me. Having my own kids allowed me to see that not everyone is the same and that I wasn't going to give them away no matter what. I also helped me to understand my birth parents a bit more. I understood that although they were really nice people, they just were better as a couple than as parents. ANd that it probably was much better that we were adopted.
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@glitzypurple (1477)
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
Yes this is not an objective question :) Just wanted opinions of other people on this topic.
I guess it realy depends.
THANKS
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
17 Dec 07
I don't think it is important for everyone to have kids. Some people do not want them or would make unsuitable parents. I would like another kid, but if we don't have one I won't be crushed.
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@glitzypurple (1477)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
I really think it's a personal choice too
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
17 Dec 07
Having kids is IMO ONLY important if a couple or a person WANTS kids...If one doesnt want kids then no its not important at all...Take my sister for example..she's no desire to have children..she use to say that teaching almost 30 kids 5 days a week plus tutoring was plenty child time for her..now shes either a vice principal or a principal (not sure which but we dont speak) so she has 100s of kids to give her that child fix LOL...She doesnt want any so to her its not important..I on the otherhand always wanted lots of children..so to ME it was important..
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@glitzypurple (1477)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
cool! i myself have been a teacher and tutor way back. It's fun, it's like having your own children to watch over and take care of. Thanks for the repLy
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@aidenofthetower (1814)
• United States
17 Dec 07
When my husband and I got married we thought having kids was very important. We talked about having a whole bundle. Now that we have a son, we are okay with only having one and we probably would have been okay with none. We love our son a lot, but children do change the lifestyle dramatically.
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@ironicsolace (37)
• United States
17 Dec 07
This is a really good question. Having kids is not important to me at all. I often wonder why it's so important to others.
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@glitzypurple (1477)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
Just see the other replies to my post. They have answers to why it's so important to them. THANKS
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Dec 07
Hi glitzypurple,
I think, it really depends on the mind set of the person concerned. Some would be surprised to know that kids are not important while for some others it's not an important issue atall. So, its how we think and no one has control over it.
However, I feel, preparing oneself to have a kid is a big thing but when you have one yourself you are going to love it no matter what. It's a lovely experience to see them born, grow and subsequently love you like no one!
smiles...
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@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
18 Dec 07
"have one yourself you are going to love it no matter what"
No, actually I wouldn't. There'd be no way I'd love a child that came out of my body. I'd resent it too much for ruining my life.
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@mermaid911 (798)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
Aside from the fact that it is our nature to multiply, kids are important for companionship, for accomplishment, for help when we grow old. There are lots of reasons but each of us have different perceptions so that would really depend on how you perceive things. There is no one answer for all of us. just search within yourselves to find the answer.
@SixPaulEleven (552)
• United States
16 Jan 08
"for help when we grow old"
No child is required to take care of their parents in old age. My mother in law has 5 children, only one of whom (my husband), actually takes the time to check on her, go to the store for her, pick up and dispense her meds and make sure she has what she needs. My husband's younger brother lives about 20 miles from her, while we live over 1 hour away. She lives in Dallas and we live in Stephenville. It's almost an hour away from where she is.
@season0907 (671)
• India
17 Dec 07
Hi glitzypurple,
As far as I am concerned it is very important that everyone should have kids.I know there are couples who have some health problems don't have kids and there are couples who are not blessed with kids even if every thing with them is alright.These two different type of couples should also have kids by way of adopting.
The great responsibilty and challenge in life is how well you bringup your child and with out this responsibility and challenge, I think life will not be interested.
@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
18 Dec 07
" is very important that everyone should have kids.I"
It'll never be imporant to me.
@foxygirle (376)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
I think its important. It changes the way you look at life, makes you a responsible person, and teaches you many things that only people with kids can do. Though sometimes the thought of raising a child is a real challenge, at the end of the day, when you see their face sleeping and they are doing fine and sleeping like an angel, there's a silent voice that tells you its all worth it.
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@glitzypurple (1477)
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
Yes raising children is a big challenge.
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@ganga472007 (624)
• India
18 Dec 07
A life can be considered as Full, only with kids. The meaning of life is kids.So It is inevitable to have kids.
@glitzypurple (1477)
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
Well, I think one's life can be full also even if without a child. You're the one responsible to make your life full so I guess it wouldn't depend on children and other people.
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@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
18 Dec 07
"A life can be considered as Full, only with kids"
Where do you people get off on this type of crap? My life is full. My life has meaning. My life is perfect and I do not ever nor will I ever have kids. The meaning of life to you might be to have kids, but to me, it'll never be to have kids.
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@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
18 Dec 07
It's important if you want them. To those of us who don't, we don't think it's important at all.
It is important to continue the species, but the way I see it, there are plenty of other people in the world to procreate, so why do I need to be one?
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@glitzypurple (1477)
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
Nice thoughts. I sure hope everyone doesn't think like you, or else maybe no one would procreate. just kidding :)
thanks
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@calicot (256)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
We would want to have kids at some point in our life. Weve been trying for a long time, now we're considering adopting a child or children. But hopefully we can have our own before we get really old. See them reach a happy and healthy adulthood.
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I believe children are the result of your deep love for one another. I am pro-life and so I say..yes ..children are important..If everyone stopped having children..eventually the human race would die..don't you think;)
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
20 Dec 07
With over 6 billion people in the world, there is no chance that absolutely everyone would just up and decide they won't have kids. Childbearing is a *choice* not an obligation. Sorry.
And what would be so bad about the human race dying out, anyway? Other species have done it, we're not that special.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
20 Dec 07
I think it totally depends on the people having kids. But one thing I'd say for sure...no one who doesn't want a kid should be forced to have one (for whatever the reason).
As far as my case goes, I've always wanted to have children and if I had my way...I would have had a dozen...lol But that is not to be. And that doesn't mean that people who do not want to have kids are making the wrong choice. It's the right one for them. It's wrong when a person who doesn't want to have children are talked into having one...then it's very difficult for the parent and the child.
I feel a person (or actually partners) should think well about if they need to have children or not.
@UnselfishShellfish (1306)
• United States
18 Dec 07
Children are not required to look out after their parents when the parents get old. My husband's younger brother lives 10 minutes away from their mother and yet my husband and I who live over 2 hours away are the ones looking in on her from week to week. I'm the one that arranges her meds, he takes her to her doctor's appts. Yet his little brother, 10 minutes away, doesn't give two shytes about her anymore.
@Commonsense0 (516)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I have a complicated answer on this one...
I think reproduction is important, in general, because it keep the human race going. That is kind of obvious, that people HAVE to have babies. But, not everyone has to have a baby. I, personally, don't want to have a child. I don't think I want to be married either, but I'm not sure. Anyway, it is important for people to have kids, but some people just aren't meant to have kids.
Hope that made sense...
Have a great day
@Sillychick (3275)
• United States
17 Dec 07
For me, it was important to have a child. It is what I wanted more than anything out of life. But it is certainly not important for everyone. There are people who would rather not have children, and they feel just as strongly about that as I do about having a child. It depends on the person. Not everyone has it in them to be a parent. Not everyone wants that responsibility. Each person needs to make the decision for him or herself, and not rely on the opinions of others.
@asawanialvin0611 (1877)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
yes,having kids is important.It makes you whole,they you make strong,they make you smile
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
17 Dec 07
"yes,having kids is important.It makes you whole..."
wow I totally disagree with that one! The fact that I have children DOES NOT or rather IS NOT what makes me a whole person...The fact that I know myself and accept me on all levels is what makes me whole....Your statement too I must add is also implying that ppl who CAN'T HAVE children are incomplete ppl and thats just wrong and insulting as far as I'm concerned..
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