The loss of friends you didnt have.

Hush! You can tell me about you because I would really love to know you better. Some people are like that and I guess it is experiences in life, their goals and socialization allow them to become so cold and selfish. A erson who learns to love from the heart, to be herself/himself, has no problems in getting to know anyone. First they have to be comfortable and at peace with htmeselves before they can give of themselves. As I have said before I am here and Merry christmas!

There are many people who love to talk about themselves. There are some who also talk before they think. Then there is another group of people who don't talk and sit like a bump on a log. I like to share different aspects of my family life such as our kids or grandkids but don't dominate a conversation and bore people with my life or cute stories. There is a time to listen and a time to talk but unfortunately some people don't listen. Makes it very frustrating to the person who is trying to tell or share a story. Merry Christmas, carolbee

People like blowing their own trampets-consider that a human problem-I agree with you such peope do not make good friends-i used to have one such friend at University, the man would talk about nothing else but what he did, and how well he did it-there was completely nothing he seemed to have failed to do! He used to piss me off with such self glorifications and there came a time when I wanted him out of my life and out very fast!

It is sad, but in reality, more and more people out there are becoming like this. I feel that unless they realize who they are, and what they are doing to others, they will only continue to do this, and then one day be the only one who will want to be around them, and then they will be quite unhappy at best. I feel this is not time to give up. Maybe you need to just reevaluate your interests, and desires and search for people who will want to be there for you thru the long run, and just not there for themselves as well.

Hi kiobug, Even I feel the same way. Today ppl are getting so increasing busy to famous and make money and material they hardly have time to stop by and say hello. They are getting commitment phobic and empathy is thw word missing in their dictionary. Most do not have afamily and some who have hardly cater to being a family person. Having said this, the competition, the struggle and the fight for existence have become so severe that we are indeed living onthe edge and ppl have no choice but to be self centred and poseur. And some like us, who flow against the tide are outdated and obsolete. Thanks.

it is not you.it is the way people are nowadays.they are self oriented and selfish and they wouldnt mind stepping over others to get recognition and fame.it is a crazy world out there people and things and relationships are all a scene of the past.it is difficult to find people you can confide in nowadays.

ohh that is a sad observation..maybe you have experienced or whatever for you to say that..yes i think some people are we are unique and possess different personality..it happens that people that sorrounds you are like that...be optimistic you can still find friends that are friendly and very much concerned..

LOL maybe they have so much going in their lives that they would rather share with you just to let it all out haha! OR maybe your just a great listener kiobug! Ok Im here to listen, so let me have it haha!

Unfortunately I think you're right; so many people are self-centered and too wrapped up in their own lives to pay any attention to anyone else. I think it's both that they're not curious about you (or anyone else) and they just like to talk about themselves. Sadly, they probably don't even realize they're doing it. Annie

yes, it's right.I feel in exactly same way! you know they even don't look at you.you will never let them notice your existence even you are talking to them.it make me crazy recently !especially some of my collegues!I even doubt if they know they need to show their respects when others talk to them! so you are not alone.this world is sick or we are sick?

Well KB, I think it has a lot to do with being in Ca. We're just not that hospitable here. You're up north, I'm down south and we experience the same cold shoulderness. We live in a fast paced society here. Everything now, everything for me! Just a couple of months ago, I had a neighbor that I've waved hello to as we cross paths across the street, come over and introduce herself and thank me for being so friendly. She said people around here just don't bother to even say hello. Funny thing about this is she and I have been neighbors for 3 1/2 years. So even the ones that are like you and me, ones who like exchanging hellos and truly asking/answering how are yous, have fallen into the general apathy that this state seems to breed. So just be yourself, don't get to clingy to most of whom you meet and don't miss a beat if someone is superficial with you. It's just the norm.

I'm so glad that it is not just me who has observed this. I was thinking I was going out of my mind and just wasn't tolerant of life anymore. Yes, people are wrapped up in themselves and really don't care about others much anymore. I've gotten to the point where I can't hold my tongue anymore. If someone cuts in front of me in line I say something. I used to just let it go, but I am just tired of getting run over. One example of selfishness was last week at the Post Office. I was getting my daughter into her car seat, so my car door was open. There is nothing I can do to stop from being in the next spot's space, but I hurry as quick as I can. This lady driving a BMW, obviously thinking she was more important than me, puts her car half in the space then starts creeping up. She almost ran over my toe! The funny thing is that there was an open parking spot two spaces down. It's just incredible. I did not say something to her but I did say something to my husband loud enough for her to hear. The lady just threw her hair over her shoulder and was not even concerned about almost running me over! I tell this story to illstrate that it is everywhere that people just don't care.

i have the same feeling,seems that everyone is not that closely to me,and sometimes i even hate them,why,why are they so selfish? then my doctor tells me that if you find soemthing wrong with some guy,who might be something wrong,but if you find everyone is wrong,you should think about yourself there might be someting wrong with you.