I've got a lot on my mind.

Amber, If I was there I would give you a big hug. I am sick, but you can still spill out your guts. I divide my problems in departments and deal with them one by one. It depends on what it is. You also have to deal with what is most important first. Why don't you start conversations on here about each problem, and let us help you? You will make money and get great advice at the same time.

You just got to calm down, take a deep breath, have a cup of tea, and then sit down and organise yourself. More speed, less haste. It sounds like you do have a lot going on in your head and if you can't share it with anyone have you thought about writing a letter to your best friend explaining everything. You don't have to give it to anyone but sometimes just explaining it all can really help you out and I am so sure that in a few weeks you will look back at it and wonder what all the fuss was about..... I hope lol.

I am sorry you have so much going on Sweet and I certainly know how that feels I have been there most of my Life and only recently again I used to panic and like you did not know where to start but then I learned you deal with the major ones first concentrate on it, stay strong and once they are sorted you go to minor ones And what I mean by that as to you they will all seem major you have to deal with one at a time and keep a clear Head, then you deal with hte next and you will find it will slowly fall into place I hope you will get it all sorted Pam and if you need to talk or if I can help PM me Hugs

I gave found the same situation when those whom I talked to about my problems had worse of their own and so my problems would escalate because I did not feel it right to talk to someone who was losing their home, had a horrible disease, a mentally retarded child, a child with a physical disability or something like that. I then realized that because they had these things in their life, God did not give them more than they could stand or by telling them what I had trouble with they were able to give a solution because to them the solution of my problem was so easy. I did not deal with my stuff at once, I talked to my best friends, not all at once, but one person whom I was sure would understand and of course I wrote on myLot, talked to my Elders in Church, and got solutions at way. You just have to divide your problems into little bits.

I think that I am in the same boat that you are right now. There is oh so much going on around me and I feel totally overwhelmed. My life is going pretty good, but the people around me are suffering so much that it's hard for me to enjoy myself. Everytime I turn around someone else is falling gravely ill that is close to me. I need to find a way to get out from under it and live my own life and enjoy the blessings they God has given me. I can't allow myself to be buried with everyone else, yet I feel I am needed.

Sometimes I rant here, as you know and most of the time, mylotters help me sort out through what I am dealing with. Then there are somethings that I have not said to anyone, but those kind I take to G♥d and leave it there. The situation still pops up in my mind, but I just give it back, because it is something out of my hands anyways.. I also have a good friend I can call and talk to, and she also helps me sort out my thoughts on things.. So I guess I gave you three ways I deal with it.I either take my problems to, 1. G♥d, 2. my best friend, and 3. mylot..:) I hope this helps..:)

I do not formally have a plan partner. My hubby and I do this for each other, mostly. I also have a friend or two who are good to talk through things with. I often make the mistake of not breaking situations down into manageable bites, but trying to swallow the whole thing at one time. I lose sleep or have disturbed sleep, and am exhausted, and still the problem sorts itself out one piece at a time anyway, and I find that I could have saved myself some worry. So do you have a plan partner who can help you out?

I think you are right if you take rest, gather some energy to fight back the problems. the problem with me that i can rest when i am in problem,. I find quick way to change the situation and try to fight as early as I can do.

For a long time I had no one to talk to so I learned to deal with one problem at a time, I usually tackle the ones that need attention first, as well I always ask myself how important is this in the scheme of things, in other words will my world end if I do not attend to this right now. most of the time it is other people putting pressure on us to do something about a problem, and we have no answers, just remember you can not, and in fact should not solve other peoples problems they need to learn to deal with their own problems so don't take them on deal with only what affects you here and now.

I feel bad for you, having so many problems and worries . That can't be good for your health. I wish I could send you a ticket to someplace where you could pet pink flamingos. I've been overwhelmed myself lately, not so much with my problems but by other peoples problems that affect me. Sometimes I just feel like hiding where no one can find me. I can only deal with things when I'm ready to, unless there's some sort of emergency that I have to take care of something right away. I've been trying to rest up, just in case, and make sure I eat healthy. I sincerely hope that everything will get better for you.

I love how you wrote this post. You said nothing yet you said everything. I feel burdan and over whelmed as I relate to having way to much on my plate at one time. Not at the moment but in the later years. This to shall pass! Years back I kept my problems to myself and didn't talk to anyone about my troubles. I have found it is much better to share with someone. It is so true, a confident can clarify your thoughts and you wonder why you didn't have your wits about you to say it that way yourself. What ever your going through AmbiPam your gonna be just fine.

Actually this goes back to the stress discussion about having too much on your plate. I do the same thing here...I list the problem....and deal with them one at a time. Most of the time though when something comes up I tackle it right away and don't let it stew around...I'd rather get past it then have it still in front of me.

Hi Ambie,..I feel so bad for you. Believe me, there are alot of people here on myLot that are going through the same thing, too many problems and no solutions at present. This past year has been completely horrible for me and I'm hoping for a better one. The only thing I can tell you is prioritize. Take the most important one first, write a list if you have to, and deal with it. Do whatever has to be done and move on to the next. I know this sounds probably silly at the moment, but it does help, because once you write the list, you have cleared your mind a little. It's the confusion that's upsetting, and as you said, it's all swirling around and that's what has to stop. I really do understand what you're going through, honestly. I don't have a partner to talk to, just my two daughters and my sister, but they cannot solve the problems, I have to do that myself. It's really rough out there, especially when you're on your own, and you are the only one that actually knows what you're going through. Take one step at a time,.....otherewise, you'll drive yourself crazy. If we can help you in any way here on myLot, please don't hesitate to ask. Maybe you'll be surprised at the answers you'll get from all your friends.......take care and I hope it all works out for you.

The best advice I can give is just hang in there. Don't try to tackle all your problems all at once because it will do nothing but stress you out more and you won't get anywhere in solving them. When faced with a problem it is important to rest, try to calm your mind down. Then if you have someone to talk to (which thanks to MyLot you have plenty of people to talk to) then don't be afraid to ask for advice on the stuff you haven't quite figured out. Usually when problems start piling on me I try to figure them out on my own, only to realize it just brings me down faster. So now I try to turn to my fiancee to help guide me through the problems or the rest of my family and friends. They are always a big help. I hope you are able to figure out all these things going through your head and find peace of mind. I hope my words helped some, take care!

I try to deal with issues as soon as they popup if possible, sometimes they just need time to fade away. I talk to my wife, I try to be as open as possible although some things I do hide and I know she can see some of what's passing though. But anywho, I hope it clears soon for you ambiepam =) ~Joey

Hi Ambie. Although I am married and I do have knowledgeable and experienced close friends, doesn't mean I am free from problems. I don't know what exactly happening to you, but I know this feeling and I have had it time and time again in any field where I earn money. It seems that the more I earn the more I am subjected to problems and most of the time even cornered by them and absolutely no one can help me find solution I will have to find it myself. You have to believe that no one can push you around or make your life a living hell if you don't let them to, this includes yourself. If you let them, you will keep getting cornered and soon blinded. You will not be able to see the solution. It's a good thing to take a rest, talk to people you haven't talked to in ages, read old newspapers in the library, take the whole afternoon doing nothing but watch TV - once you are relaxed, you will be able to see the problems clearly and go from there. I hope the best for you, Ambie, whatever it is.

Hi,there,AmbiePam, I am sorry to hear that.. Honestly,I have ever experience so many difficulites at one time ..it seems as if all the things come to me without any prelude ... Actually these thigs can't avoid in our life and just these stuffs that make us more strong and brave... There is a saying goes" we learnd by burned fingers"(we may not learn by burned fingers but we can learn never to touch a hot stove again)..sometimes we may not realize that everything happen for a reason..no matter what we do is the process of learning;-) As for me I will handle the things by myself as I am deeply believe that "noboday can help me except for myself",Actually most of the time the things not often goes to the way we think of .when the things past and we go over to the things happened for us we will discover that "It is us that magnify the things happen to us " At the same time I will recommend u to use one medicine that is "time",u amy not know but the "time "sometimes is the best medicine in cure injures..... Good luck to u..... Molly;-)