Fertilizer or Dust in the Wind?  

Both me and my husband want to be creamated when when we die.. We both agree that it's pointless to have all those people come and mourn over you and for the kids or whoever is paying for it to spend all that money. We both want our ashes spread in a place that holds passion for us.. And not just in some ground.

if I had time to plan for my death? I would want to be cremated and then my ashes put in a hollow heart to be worn by my daughter on her wedding day. If at all that were to happen it would be the one thing to settle me in my after life.


Other than that I could care less where or what happened to my body. If my daughter had to pay for this? I already told her not to dare go spending money on a over price box. Potters field is fine with me. It's where my soul goes that I care about.

You are something else.:)
It doesn't concern me what will happen to my body after I'm gone. My soul will be saved in God's own safe deposit box.
And I will be back, soon or later.:)

I agree with you, to be put in a coffen is really not necassary. I would rather like to be burned and then I dnt know yet lol...
But I definately dont want a coffen...

Cremation! One thing my hubby and I agree upon. I do not want to be put into the ground - I want to be scattered upon it. It's something every family needs to get straight - a very important topic. You know, my bf's brother died Christmas night, I know, so sad, and he was cremated. Now, Robin (bf) and her family have been gamblers from way back. She wants to be able to carry some of her brothers ashes with her when she goes gambling but didn't quite know how to do this - I mean, what's going to fit into her purse? Well, I did some looking on e-bay and found a perfect little sterling silver snuff box. I wrote the seller to ask about it being used for this purpose and wasn't surprised to hear back that they didn't think it was appropriate for those purposes, but I thought, screw it. So I bought the box. Robin loves silver and it'll be perfect for her. I told her about it and she's so excited about getting it. I figure if it doesn't close tightly enough, we'll simply super-glue it shut after we put the ashes in it. Great idea, huh? Kind of weird to some, I guess, but to her, it's something that will give a boost, and I'm hoping she really kicks some butt at the blackjack tables. After all, I think that attitude is half the battle when gambling. Cool that I can help out in this regard - does my heart good, frankly. Takes all kinds to make a world, doesn't it?

For myself I want to be cremated at an alternative funeral centre, since cremation costs the same as burial with tradition funeral homes(I know this when I buried my dad). I want a quick graveside gathering with family and then everyone go and have a few drinks to celebrate my life. I don't want my family to throw away money on my dying when it can be used for living...if that makes sense.I'm also not one for these long funerals and wakes...it is exhausting....I also don't care for all the people who feel they have to go to the funeral....my thing is if you can't come see me when I'm living don't bother when I'm gone, it doesn't much matter then,lol.

Cyn,

You can really have your ashes compressed into lab created gemstones? That is an awesome idea. I guess I must be one of those morbid people because I think it would be amazing to have something like that done. Not that I would expect my daughter to wear it everyday, but just to have something that she could hold in her hand that would always remind her that I am by her side no matter what happens to me.

No that you gave me that idea, if it is true that sounds like something that I would like to have done. I totally agree with you on being burried. I do not want to put in the ground because quite frankly I am scared of the dark and it is just way to dark for me to be undergound by myself. And besides it would scare the daylights out of me when that mole started pounding into my casket. Sorry.... that was just wrong.

Anyways, I think that eventually the world is going to run out of places to bury people anyways, so one day you are not going to have a choice.

I'd rather have an old Norse funeral. Put my body on a raft full of firewood , set it adrift & ablaze, then get all my friends good & drunk. What's the point of an expensive box in the ground on a plot of land that's now useless? Hopefully my family won't need a stone to remember me.

I think the cemetery here are a bit more clogged compared to your country, so I prefer to be cremated. We also have a tradition here where family members would pay tribute to their departed loved ones every November 1st, as they go to cemeteries and make some time in remembering the life that was shared with them.

Though it's cheaper, I don't really go for the cost of it. I'm considering the valuable time they'd bother going on these days, together with lots of people bustling around. If ever I'd die, then they don't have to worry going to the cemetery as my presence is with them inside the urn!;)

I'm donating my body. They can take anything that might be of use to somebody and use the rest for research.

And I don't think your idea is morbid at all, I think it's beautiful.