learning something shocking about your own father

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I was wondering what others would do if while pursuing a genealogy search of your parents and grandparents and so on. you found some rather upsetting information about one of your own parents? Would this color the way you felt about him or her or would you put it aside as something that happened a long time ago and best to be forgotten? I found out that my dad had been married not twice as I knew about. but three times my mom being his third wife. that was not what was upsetting. what really hurt was that my dad a very strict person had had two daughters out of wedlock by a young woman living with him and his second wife at the time. this young woman married my fathers son. my half brother later and the two of them adopted the two girls my father had sired. this really blew mymind because my father had always been a bit self righteous and now I though how dare he be so strict and unforgiving when he did all this? then my son said thats all past history let it die. so perhaps I have and perhaps we all expect our own parents to be perfect and that just doesnt often happen. Everyone makes mistakles what do you think ? I had admired my dad before all this.He had been long gone as I am now in my eighties. But that revelation just really floored me.