Would you get romantically involved with someone 30 years younger (or older)?  

My partner is 10 years older than me. I think I like older people for the meeting of minds between us. I have a high IQ making people my own age are harder to have a stimulating conversation with... so I think I'm naturally drawn to someone older.

I was once involved with someone 27 years older but don't think I could do it again as she passed away and left me with a huge ache in my heart.

But I agree that age is no barrier to love. Whether it is advisable is another matter altogether.

Well, I couldn't handle someone younger, see my comment above. But 10 years older, most definitely.

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Don't worry, I wasn't having a go at you. I'm actually agreeing with you, but for me I prefer the age difference to go the other way. :)

Yes, that can be a real concern. I always felt kind of sorry for my ex brother in law. Poor guy was doing a comb over in his early 20's because the top of his head was completely bald, so he looked way older than he was (the premature baldness was inherited from his maternal grandfather). Once he was out with his wife and someone commented that it was so nice to see a father and daughter so close. LOL

It was funny, but at the same time very sad for him. His poor wife was outraged.

I think that would be rather sad. I'm not into the bald look (been there done that). It's bad enough when it happens to a guy, but for me it would be an unwelcome reminder of my own chemotherapy which caused me to lose my hair. Mine did come back, but I don't know that I could feel comfortable around someone who was bald, even if it was natural.

I think one of the hardest things in these relationships is for the younger one to see the increasing infirmity of their partner since their partner is further down the road and frequently their body is beginning to let them down. Heck, I'm only 42 and already the aches and pains of aging are starting to hit me since I have arthritis in my knees and several knuckles.

I guess the opposite is true for the older one... they feel they are letting their partner down with the reduction in their energy and physical capability. So it would be hard for them too.

My partner is 10 years older than me and suffers many health ailments. Sometimes she gets scared that I'll run off with someone younger because she is unable to do certain things for me anymore. (we've been together almost 9 years)

Can I ask why it would be awkward to have a partner the age of your parents?

I understand some people would be concerned how it would look but it's not important to me whether I have the approval of society... heck, as a lesbian I often don't anyway LOL. In the process of 'coming out' I had to learn not to rely on other people's approval for my own self worth.

All that really matters is what you want... who you want to love.

My day has been great. Enjoying mylot... thanks for asking :)

It's true that love knows no boundaries. I've always had a preference for relationships with people older than myself. Often facing fierce opposition from family and friends. I'm glad I didn't allow that to sway me since my life has generally been richer for those relationships.

It's true that love knows no boundaries

Of the four serious relationships I've had, three of them have been with people at least ten years my senior. The largest age gap in those relationships was 27 years and I would have to say that was the most heartbreaking relationship. She was suddenly hospitalised on my 33rd birthday with pneumonia. Unfortunately she contracted a rare and virulent form of septicaemia in hospital. Though she had been extremely fit before that it started attacking her vital organs. First her kidneys (they almost failed) then her heart and lungs. She died within nine weeks. Had she been younger she would have had a much better chance of survival. She died 11 days after her 60th birthday.

You can see my memorial to her at http://www.members.tripod.com/~BabeFemme/pat.htm

So I'm not really sure about getting involved with someone that age now because the situation hurt so much with her dying so unexpectedly... and the older we get the more likely that is to happen.

Being with someone the age of my parents really wouldn't worry me in itself. It's the side issues of health and physical capabilities that that I believe can cause a problem. Perhaps not so important when you are young but at 42 going out with someone who is 72 doesn't bode well for a long term relationship. And I'm not a person who enjoys frivolous relationships. I much prefer a committed, long term relationship.

Heya Jo :)

Hardly a senseless post. You're young yet... and have plenty of time for experience. Like you say, love is love. Who knows what form it will take?

I don't think its naive a all, I entirely agree. Both that it depends on the individuals and the motives

These relatioships can certainly last a long time too.

Thanks for your input... never put yourself down like that.