Are good deeds always good deeds and welcome to people as the saying goesl
@Hatley (163772)
Garden Grove, California
April 23, 2008 3:55pm CST
Muses of Life in my daily paper gives different sayings each day.
Yesterday the saying was that good deeds were always good and welcome to people. Just wondering if that is always true?
I know I have done what I felt was a good deed for an acquaintance and instead of being pleased she was upset. " I do not need your help nor welcome it. good day."
I had taken the books that she had ordered from the library and delivered them to her apartment thinking that she would be happy as she was housebound with a broken ankle.I left feeling confused and upset. Was I being rude or unthoughtful? Should I have called her first? We were friends but not really close. She used to work in the libray where I was working. What do you think?
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@guss2000 (2232)
• United States
24 Apr 08
WOW if someone did that for me, I would be so grateful! She sounds so rude and just awful. Unappreciative!
I really cannot stand ungrateful people. I hate people that do not say thank you. When they don't thank me for something, I nicely point it out and tell them that it hurts my feelings.
Anyway, that was just WRONG of her. I would have been so mad that I think I would have taken the books back and said "FINE GET THEM YOURSELF!!"
I'm sorry she treated you like that.
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
24 Apr 08
I guess that is when we need to have a discerning spirit about us. Who knows what was going on in your friends mind. I would not call it rude, or her cold at this point. Something most certainly is bothering her no doubt. I bet it did make you feel like an inch tall Hatley. Have you ever called her back to tell her you did not mean to upset her, you only wanted to extend your hand in friendship? It was a very nice gesture on your part. Of that you can be sure.
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@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Bravo Hatley, that is why I was not to quick to want to judge her... some times we are just awful when we hare having a bad day. We do not mean to be but it happens.. I am so glad it resolved itself, I bet you feel so much better also.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Apr 08
later on she had heard that I was home with severe arthritis in my leg and she brought me a huge sack of fresh corn and other veggies from the farmers market as she figured I could not walk to the store and she left them on my doorstep with a note from Helen. so guess she was just out of sorts that other day.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
23 Apr 08
Sweetie I do hope that she never will need your help as one Day she might
I think she was very rude to you and if I where you I would leave her to it
If you are like me though I know when she does need help you will be the first to give it
But I have to say she was very rude
Don't be upset Sweet People like that don't deserve your help and kindness
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Apr 08
I had felt sorry for her as she seemed to be dyslexic and often put books back in the wrong place so I had given her seveal tips to use so she would not make that error again.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
24 Apr 08
One of my good deeds was a disaster. I opened a discussion on what happened.
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1458010.aspx
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Apr 08
whiteheather i am so sorry to be so late answering all these responses. I will read about your discussion now for sure.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
27 Apr 08
Hi Patsie,
Sometimes, good deeds become bad even though they were meant to be good. I don't think I need to give you examples because I am sure you can easily think of a few.
Having said that, I think you have to decide before encountering a situation whether you want to do good or not. If you want to, then just do the good you perceive when the time comes. Otherwise if you don't want to risk good becoming bad, then opt to do nothing when the time comes.
Cheers. 
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Apr 08
lordwarwizard you are so right and I think one should not expect much but just a feeling of doing the right thing. I am so late responding to all you people's responses.
@joyceshookery (2057)
• United States
24 Apr 08
Judge Judy says, "A good deed never goes unpunished." I've always thought that was a pretty cynical attitude, but the reaction from the woman you brought the books to kind of bears that out.
I think when we do something kind for someone we have to do it because we feel better, and let their reaction be none of your business...even though it's negative. It's easier said than done, Hat -- but you're not going to change the way you are just because of a few sour grapes.
Hugs,
Joyce
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
30 Apr 08
Joyce thats so very true and I will just keepon being me
as its all I can do.
