The best of intentions

Close to the same thing happened to me. I had two friends I was emailing back and forth with who live in Australia. One of them I keep in contact with often but I've lost touch with the other one and I feel bad about that.

Thats what forwards are for. I received an e-mail once about this very thing. When you are very busy, but still want to keep in touch, guess what you do? You forward. When you have nothing to say, but still want to keep contact, you forward. When you have something to say, but don't know what, and don't know how, you forward. Also to let you know that you are still remembered, you are still important, you are still loved, you are still cared for, guess what you get? A forward. So, next time if you get a forward, don't think that you've been sent just another forward, but that you've been thought of today and your friend on the other end of your computer wanted to send you a smile. ~ Your welcome

friends will stay as friends even though you have not gotten in touch for so long and that is how friends are. you might never know that she might be thinking of the same thing. i would suggest that you do not let this opportunity pass you by, send your friend a note just to let your friend know that you are still there.do not feel guilty not honoring the committment, if your friend doesn't like you anymore just because you did not honor it then your friend is not a friend at all. and why hasn't your friend got in touch with you?

I consider friendship so important, kbourgerie, that I enter into each one with the goal of really working to maintain it. It might be different with an online friendship. I have not had that much experience with them. I honestly feel, though, that an online friendship has the ability to become a close relationship if it is nurtured. I hate the idea of losing a friendship-online or in real life.

I have never really met people online until coming here, the other social networking sites that I went on were not really good for making new friends. I am pretty steadfast in that if I get what I think is a good friend then I keep in touch with them. Usually it would be the other person that would break contact first.

Yes a good example of that was all my coworkers atthe library where I worked for twenty odd years. everyone said goodby and even had farewell party for me on my forced retirement .all said well we will keep in touch. yeah right. I called a number of times and various ones were glad to hear but as the years waned I called fewer and fewer times and so did they. I know that they all have their own families and circles of friends so do not fault them for it at all.I just feel sad at times that our little library family just broke up yet whenever I met one of the crew in the shopping center they are really glad to see me and we always have to chat for awhile. so now I just remain devoted to my best friend and let it go.

It has gone both ways for me, coming from the psychological perspective is what binds friendships is a common interest, when the interest is long there like a shared website the chances for maintaining a friendship becomes next too impossible.

its true. taht in the journey of life we make many commitments. at that time it seems very easy to maintain. afte that in the course we forget most of those. i still try to adhere to most that I can.

With the best will and all good intentions in the world, sometimes we lose touch with friends. To be honest, I have lost touch with a fair few people over the years, either through moving away or simply just though lack of contact. It is sometimes sad when I think of the people I used to call friend but then again they also could have remained in contact too.

At times I have. Like you said even though we have exchanged emails, if I am not active in that site anymore I tend to lose contact with them and eventually our friendship fades. It's hard to keep it up if the other party doesn't either.

Friendships and relationships are shared by two or a group of people. With this, the parties involved should work together to enhance and develop such bond. And the communication lines between them is very important. It serves as a bridge for them to update each other of the life they're living apart.

It always happens to many people as time passes and our priorities do change inspite of our good intention to honour our commitments or friends as well. I lost a few friends of mine for the same reason and so can understand and feel the pain.

Oh,I agree with you.If we haven't got in touch with our friends too long we will feel very strange with them.So sometimes is really a little difficult to get better again,So I think we should pay sometime to communicate with them as much as possible.

I got similar experience, I met friends whom I had develop wonderful friendships with, though we didnt delete our account there, at least by time to time we had communication. The good part of it is I am pretty assured that we will be friends forever. Actually theres no clear commitment made but as I can see it we could stay as good friends even if we will leave all the sites that connect us.

i don't think it is not about honoring a commitment. I think everyone comes into your life for a reason. when they time is up then they go away. not that they were not good friends, or they didn't mean anything to us, they just hav served their purpose and now together we move on to meet other people to learn and laugh with. The only commitment I make is to know when relationships are over. and every relationship doesn't have to end mad. they should all end with love

I have not made any real friendship on the internet... despite being on it for 14 years. My idea of friendship goes a lot further than the friendship people talk about on myLot. To me... friendship is almost like a relationship. Small talk does not interest me. Perhaps that is the difference with me and the rest. I like to help people and I like them to help me. That is what I base friendship on. If you are only friend with people for the sake of being able to say "I have a friend"... I don't need that kind of friendship.

The nature of life is change. People come and go as we pass through time. I had a friend for over ten years. We were like sisters. I lost my real sister when she was only thirty. I'll never replace her, but my friend knew me as well as my sister. We were so close, I knew when she was in turmoil without having to call her. When we talked, she verified my feelings about her. That's a special friend. Before I moved away, the friendship was coming to a natural closure_ mostly because I had changed and outgrown the relationship. We e-mailed and talked on the phone a few times, but our time as friends passed. Today, even though we don't communicate verbally, she lives within my heart. Because I loved her as my friend, I never let her go. When I think about her, she is still part of my life. I think she remembers me as well. So, in a cosmic way, we never parted. Lighter friendships, like on-line relationships, don't have much chance to continue once internet interests differ. I don't think there's anything unusal or un-natural when friends come and go in our life experiences. We're always blessed and enriched by any relationship, but on-line friends are different. It's okay to let go without guilt. The other person is probably thinking the same thing as you. So, you enjoyed your time chatting and you both moved on.