How can someone be so selfish? Only think of themselves and not care about other
By ayumitakashi
@ayumitakashi (4462)
United States
May 9, 2008 3:15pm CST
Well I am pretty pissed off at my sister right now. I mean how can someone be so selfish. She doesn't even think about anyone else but herself. So today my mother had to go outside to pick up a travel ticket that she bought for a friend. She couldn't find an umbrella and my sister had one. So they went outside and my mother told my sister to get in closer so that the umbrella would cover both of them. My sister said no because it was too small for both of them and left my mother to wet herself. And on top of that my mother is kind of sick so getting wet even for a few minutes made her get even sicker.
My mother had to buy a new umbrella so that it would cover. This is only one of the things that she has done that show just how selfish she is. I mean if you talk to her and ask her to do something she won't do it. But then when she needs help with something or needs something she would suck up to that person so that she gets it. I may be ranting and some of you may think that I am crazy but I am really pissed.
When it comes to me I am always thinking of other people when I do something so that I won't hurt anyone's feelings and because I care about other people. Maybe it's because I'm stressed that I am babbling so much but what do you guys think?
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11 responses
@twilight_67 (52)
• China
14 May 08
she will mature, just wait and see,you just give her some time, you talk to her and let her realize the things she should not do, if she accept her mistakes good and if not wiat for the time that shes in the good mood and discuss again.
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
14 May 08
Yeah I know but sometimes it's just so hard. Like I can stand her most of the time but then there are times when I'm like are you serious? She just does this to annoy people. I mean yesterday she got in trouble for getting her attitude with a teacher. And now they are going to suspend her. The vice principal is scared that my sister might hit her or something. This isn't the first time it's happened. She's also got her attitude with the principal. I think that they were right to suspend her because she has not respect for anyone at all. It might seem harsh but you should see the way she acts towards her teacers and even her principal! Thanks for the response and right now my mother is just beside herself because they are going to the school to see what is going to happen.
@prettyangeltani (1)
• United States
7 Jul 09
my sister is like that if its not for her shell get mad and take what ever she wants.my mom said we have to share but to her sharing is ALL MINE AND NO ONE ELSES. i just got a paint set to work on my art and my sister wants it and is a horible artist. every thing i have she wants..i hate that!!!!!!!
@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
i assume she's a teenager? we all go through that phase sometime in our life and you just have to wait it out. she will outgrow it (i hope). you just have to be patient in dealing with her and always be there to remind her that selfishness is not a trait people like about other people. this answer is one year late and i hope that by now she has changed, even just a little bit. 
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
10 Aug 09
Truthfully she hasn't changed. And we are actually going through some problems with her right now. But when she grows up and is already a grown up and has kids she will know what it's like and will remember the things she said and did. Have a great day.
@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
20 May 08
It's sad that your sister doesn't realize how to treat other people, especially her own mother. Hopefully she will wise up as she matures.
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
20 May 08
I hope so too because right now she is not getting any better or taking the time to undertand herself and the others around her. I am hoping that this summer it will be different because she doesn't have school and she doesn't have her little friends to influence her. Even though I'm a broke college student I am going to take them out to a park where I used to volunteer so they (my sister and brother) could have some fun and just hang out. And take them some other places. I hope that she will see that not everything is about her. Thanks and have a nice day.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Things won't get better. My brother stopped at my Mom's house the other day for lunch. She had about 8 inches of snow on the walkway and driveway, he ate, stayed for a few hours, complained that her driveway had snow on it and left. My sister had to come by with her kids later that day to shovel.
Mom has a snowblower which my brother has borrowed, my sister will not use it (fear) so her and the kids spend 2-3 hours shoveling.
Some people are just born selfish.
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
29 Jan 09
Your right. Some people are just born like that and I guess I'm just going to have to not pay so much attention so that I don't make myself sick worrying about her so much. I think what your brother did was really rotten. Have a nice day.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
9 Jun 08
i think its just right to be pissed at something like that. after all, you are both your mother's daughters and you both should take care of her. your sister should be a little more sensitive to your mother's needs. she could have lent the umbrella to your mother. a little sacrifice won't hurt her. and besides, your mother is old and your sister is young. she would be able to tolerate a little rain more than your mother can. you're just right to be pissed at her. you should have given her a piece of your mind.
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
14 Jun 08
Thanks and yeah I know it's really selfish. I mean my mothe was already sick but she still had to go buy something because it was important and she couldn't give her the umbrella. But yeah stuff like that gets me really pissed off. Right now I am trying to take it really slow and not get to mad so that my blood pressure won't get high or I faint or anything like that.
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
9 Jun 09
How can someone be so selfish?
Sounds like to me that you sister is a very selfish kind of person. I'm sure that this isn't news to your mom. But don't worry your sister will need help too some day and the help won't be available to her even if she try to suck up because what goes around comes around. You are right to be concerned for your mother. Just continue to do good and be nice and you will be rewarded for you goodness too. Peace out.
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Thanks so much and your right. What goes around comes around Have a great day.
@wayz12 (2059)
• United States
15 May 08
Well, first, I'm curious, how old is your sister?
It's actually amazing that people can be self-centered, but it does happens. Furthermore, if she was raised spoiled or pampered, that will only add to her idea that the world owes her. I used to have a cousin, that was like the favorite of his parents. And among all of the siblings, he is the most selfish. He will not help his mom or dad, but he expects to receive whatever he wants.
I'm sorry to hear that she treated your mother like that. For people who are not selfish, these actions will drive us nuts, but in their own self-centered world, they will think their actions are justified.
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
15 May 08
She's actually 13. And that's the thing my mother has given us what we need but we have not been spoiled. Yeah it drives me nuts and sometimes it makes me cry when people behave like this. Because they don't see how they are hurting other people. It doesn't take much to think about other people once in a while. You know? But it does drive me crazy. I'm afraid that when she grows up she will become like one of my cousins. He is 21, he never graduated high school, he doesn't work, and he still lives with his mother. His mother doesn't work and just gets assistance. And the thing is that he has a car and his mother has to pay everything for him. And when it's not his mother it's his girlfriend. I'm afraid that she will grow up like that and not be independent. I just don't want her to go some place and then people not like her because of the way that she acts towards other people. Thanks and have a nice day.
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
19 May 08
Yeah I know and that is what I am trying to tell her. You need to be considerate of other people because you never know when you may need a favor from someone. I think that the first step for her is to look at herself and see what she does and what kind of vibe she puts out when she is talking to people. Thanks.
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
16 May 08
I think you need to point out to her when she is being selfish and if that doesn't work the next time she needs somthing from you don't give it to her. I only have one brother but if he treated my mom that way we would have a problem. I don't undrstand people can treat thier parents or children that way. I guess I just think thier is a such thing as respect and you should give it to your parents.
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
16 May 08
Yeah I know. You should always respect your elders and she doesn't seem to get that through her head. So far I have been ignoring her when she wants something from me. Because she needs to undertstand that people outside in the real world are not going to give her whatever she wants. She needs to work to get things. I do try and point it out but she doesn't pay attention. If she keeps this up then she is going to have a lot of trouble out in the real world.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
15 May 08
That is so hateful...I'd be giving my Mom my whole umbrella and getting wet myself. Some ppl are just that self-centered and hateful. The only condolence I can give you is "What goes around, comes around".
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@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
15 May 08
Yeah I know and it sucks because she just got into trouble recently and then my mother is the one that has to answer for her in school. Even though she is her mother she ougth to give her some peace by not behaving bad at school since we're in a tough financial position and my mother isn't working right now. Thanks and have a nice day.
@jillhill (37353)
• United States
19 May 08
I hope she comes around and discovers that when you think of others most of the time it's returned three fold....but on the other hand some people just aren't thinking so they have a hard time doing for others...they are too self involved. So lets hope she finds her way to being more thoughtful.....even if it's just to family members.
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
19 May 08
Thanks and I hope the same thing because down the road that attitude that she has will come back to haunt her and people will not treat her right. If she treats other people like that then that is the same respect that she is going to get from other people.
