"Be careful what you wish for".....has this ever happened to you?

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My ex dumped me after a 5 year relationship because he "needed his space"...lol. Believe me I gave him a lot more than most men have! After being apart for 2 years and my wanting him back desperately he did come back because he was having heart surgery and needed someone to take care of him. Of course I was right there. To make a long story short he was staying with me for 3 months and finally went back to work and we went back to our old "relationship" of him working 5 days a week...nights...staying at his apartment and coming back here Sunday night, leaving Tuesday afternoon when he went back to work and the whole time he was here all he did was sleep or watch tv. We never did/do anything or go anywhere. Of course his circumstances have changed a lot in the fact that he has gone through all of his savings and doesn't have a car any more. But then there are quite a few places near my apartment that we could go to on a Friday or Saturday night just to get out but we never do. Now...there's a guy who lives in my apartment building who I've had a little crush on for years but it seemed like he never even noticed me so I never pursued him. This summer we have been sort of hanging out on our front porch with other tenants because since I"m not smoking in my apartment because of my ex's heart surgery and his quitting smoking so I go outside. Anyway...the other guy and I have become good friends and found that we have a lot in common and are very much attracted to each other. He asked me about my situation with my ex and I basically told him that there's no real relationship there and that's the honest truth. I thought I wanted him back and when I got him back I saw a lot of things in him that I didn't while we were together those 5 years. Not to mention I feel like I've lost the love I thought I had for him. He isn't lovable, romantic or very caring at all and never was. Now I wonder what attracted me to him in the first place. The new guy asked me to go out with him and I accepted!!! I know that when I tell the ex I'm seeing someone else he will wish me luck and be on his way. Everyone from my therapist to my kids have told me that I could do a lot better than him and I'm starting to agree with them. Have you ever wished for something and when you got it you were sorry? What did you do in that situation?