Is it ever the right time to have kids???
By ebsharer
@ebsharer (5515)
United States
July 14, 2008 11:12am CST
In April of 2006 I just knew I was pregnant. I hadn’t taken a test yet, but I knew. I waited 3 weeks to take the test. It was an evening and my husband was home so got up the courage and took the test. I was upstairs and seen that second line come up. I yelled to my husband to COME UP STARIS!!! I said LOOK!! I was right I’m pregnant!
We had been married for almost 2 years at that point. We really wanted to wait to have kids, but things happen. I was scared thinking – wow I’m not ready for this, we aren’t ready for this, financially how are we going to do this? I didn’t even know if I wanted kids! I really didn’t think it was the right time.
Well we talked about it and agreed that “we said when it happens it happens it must be meant to be”.
On December 5th 2006 we had our beautiful daughter Luann. She was perfect from the beginning. She is now 19 months old and I don’t remember life with out her. Although I didn’t think it was the right time to have her I now don’t think the timing could have been better.
So what are your thoughts? Is there ever a ‘right’ time to have kids? Are you ever really ready?
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
14 Jul 08
I think everyone should have their lives together by being able to afford a child, if this becomes possible in a reasonable amount of time. My advice to my daughter in-law was for them to be togehter for at least 5 years before having a child. This way they had plenty of time together without a child. Also they would have most of what they needed by then.
She/they waited for almost 6 years to have their first child. This son being several years old they decided to have another. They wanted a girl but had a boy. They decided this no matter what would be all they have because of wanting to be able to care for the 2 with more that they need.
I think people need time to themselves, which you had 2 years. And be able to get what a child needs. Be more stable in what you have and need before having a child. It happens that they sometimes come before you think they are ready. But you will fall into your role as a loving parent with no problem. As you said now you can not imagine your life without your darling baby.
Things happen that will, when they will. We know how to deal with them as they come.
ongrats on your beautiful baby and do all you can to enjoy her while she is young. They grow up too quickly.
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@moondancer (7431)
• United States
19 Jul 08
Thank you for chssoing my response as best.
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@penny64 (1106)
• Australia
20 Jul 08
I think even if it isn't the ideal time, you make it right, just as you have done with your gorgeous daughter. Having a baby changes your life so much anyway, planning it too much would just be frustrating! It is such a beautiful gift, I think it best just to go with the flow.
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@FitCoachJess (278)
• United States
15 Jul 08
I just knew I was pregnant both times. I was with my oldest's father only once (mon was right, it only takes once), and the first time with my second daughter's father. They were both unplanned and it couldn't have happened in a better way. Today, I am 44 years old, and the way I am, if i had been planing to have kids, I would still be planning, and I wouldn't have my 2 beautiful daughters and my lovely grandbaby, Lily today. Things happened the way they were supposed to and I am grateful.
@redkathy (3374)
• United States
19 Jul 08
Yes I guess a couple could plan, save, and try at the appropriate time in their lives. for me, I got pregnant, and had my kids just like you. Had all those what if thoughts, made my mistakes along the way but I wouldn't have changed a thing! I love my kids and know that they were a gift from God, even when the make me feel like screaming!
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