Are You Stuck In The "My Story" Syndrome?

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Hold on..one of my philosophical discussions here...LOL As a lot of my friends know, I tend to be of a more "metaphysical" kind of person and have read scores of books on this genre ever since I can remember. My "reawakening" to many principles and concepts especially of the Law of Attraction type principles was thanks due to the DVD and book The Secret, also Tolle's A New Earth, and so forth. I'm now re-reading Louise L. Hay's book You Can Heal Your Life...considered a classic by many, and was written in 1984 and she hits upon the ideas that go along with many of the LOA ideas...one of them, is the "My Story" principle and how too often we cling to "My Story."--This is something Tolle hits upon big time in his A New Earth book. Each and everyone of us has a "story"--we don't have to be famous to have an autobiography...we all have them. Throughout our lives we often tell "My Story", rattling facts about ourselves...I was born...I went to this school, that school, I studied this, I did that...we might rattle off what our childhood was like whether good or bad, what our parents were like whether they were the "ideal" family or completely dysfunctional. We tell "my story" of all the good things that have happened in our lives...our loves, our passions, our marriage(s), the promotions in jobs...we tell of the bad, our illnesses, our problems, job loss, betrayals, our marriage(s)--uh strange how marriage can be in both the good or bad category, no? But when is it that the "My Story" turns into and becomes a crutch? In the past, I've often related events in my life....for instance talking about the problems I've had with my own family, especially my mother, the situations I've had occur in my life, of the setbacks and detours I've had. Many will have noticed that I no longer start discussions about my "past" life...with good reason...it's in the past. Yes, I might bring up some point of my life in someone's else's discussion to elaborate the idea or thought, but I can now do it from a standpoint of distancing myself, as if I'm merely a reporter discussing the facts of a story...but, and here's the big but...without the former emotions involved that I used to have attached to what I'm saying. One of the reasons I dumped my therapist (yikes it's been a whole year since I've seen him), was that all he wanted me to do was to talk about my mother...it was like ENOUGH already...like hey, doc, let's move on and stop being stuck with the same crap and instead of yakking on my mother ad nauseum like a broken needle on a record, let's take that needle off and stop. One of the things people don't realize, that by constantly talking about the same thing, over and over again, especially the "bad" in their life, they are only attracting more of it....some people just probably will never get that concept. It could even be a simple thing like constantly talking about one's ill health. And some people not only can never see just how boring it is to listen to the same thing over and over again, but again goes with the principles of how whatever one is constantly talking (or thinking about) is only being attracted to them more whether good or bad, and since by nature many of us tend to be more negative we're usually attracting more of the bad. Let me give you a for instance. I'm the kind of person who when a person asks "How are you?" I say fine...even if in reality I'm croaking...LOL. I do that since there is nothing worse than asking a person "How are you?" and they give every malady since they were born...I actually did know a person like that..not only did she tell me all her illnesses, but how her mother was sick, mother-in-law, husband..yikes even her five cats would be sick. After awhile I just plain didn't ask unless I wanted to spend three hours hearing her illnesses. Of course now since I understand the Law of Attraction it was like no wonder everyone was sick in the family even her cats as that is all she talked about..so she was attracting more illnesses. But then for some reason I got sucked up in it as well....so when people started asking me how I was I was just as bad and started yakking away all that was wrong with me and how lousy I felt. Then one day as I'm rattling off my maladies to someone and suddenly it was like I was able to separate myself and hear what I was saying....inwardly I thought...yeesh how BORING...so I stopped... As I view it...there are a few main reasons for people constantly dwelling on the "My Story" concept...One of them is of course, fear of change. If there is something negative going on in life, for some, it is so much easier to rattle on the woe is me, how terrible life is to me concept, usually for sympathy, then to make a change in one's life...(my mother was good at this). Admittedly change is hard, but life IS all about change...to remain exactly where you are without change is being stagnant and often the person that stays that way remains miserable...but like why continue to be miserable? Is that living? To my mind it isn't. To be a growing, unfolding entity, one has to change...it's called being alive. Look and reflect back in your life and you'll realize how much change there has been (good or bad). Look back five, ten or more years ago. Would you really want to be that same person back then? I know I wouldn't as there were events and conditions in my life I wouldn't want to repeat even if you gave me a million dollars. I'm by no means perfect...I'm STILL growing, still learning about myself, still trying to get my "act" together, and I hope I'm still changing. So...are you stuck in the "My Story" syndrome? Do you cling to the past, especially the "bad" events in your life... the past hurts, resentments...do you use your "story" to get sympathy? Are you earnestly trying to change? Or do you like your "My Story" too much to give it up and move on?