Girlfriends and an EX

No. Definitely not, there is no reason other than speaking with them about the child. If he was abusive, she is probably just still scared of him and that is why she still talks to him.

Well when matters that relate to their child I think it is necessary to inform the other party especially if the other party id also concerned with the welfare of the child. But anything beyond that I think there's no need to have that kind of private discussions unless you are with her or you know what they will be talking about. Did she tell you what the agenda of their meeting was? I think youhave the right to know.

Definitely not! I think they should still be friends at least or casual to each other when talking about their child. They can also catch up on each other's life once in a while but talking about them and their relationship is already out of the boundaries.

rbailey if that ex treated her badly and was abusive I think the less she has to do with him the better , I know he may have'rights to see the child but he has no rights anymore' over her in any way. So he should not expect to hold any conversations with her that are not connected to the child. I would hope that he would understand that and not be pushing into other aspects of her life. If I were the girl in question I would out right tell him no conversations unless its about the child.

heck no! I don't see why she would want to talk to her ex other than problems about the child. Especially after what he has done to her. My mom was in this same situation and when my younger sister was in the hospital having her baby my mom and her dad which use to beat the crap out of her mended broken hearts and got back together!