Is sorry enough?

Sometimes, people are really insensitive when they say sorry. They just say it as a norm, not as something out of their hearts. But there are also cases where a person says sorry and really means it, but due to some reason or the other, they are unable to change themselves for the better. They simply can't let go of their old habits. You said that you "want to think" that he actually doesn't love you. Why force yourself to such a conclusion before searching out other avenues? Sit for a few moments with him. Ask him if he feels some sort of insecurity within himself, or if some sort of troubles are ailing his mind. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him. I suppose that you don't speak very kindly to him when he commits the mistakes. That itself may be making him nervous when the moment comes and he's making the same mistakes over and over again. Be friendly to him. Ask him what his problems are. Be a good and patient listener and let him open up to you. Perhaps you may find that his actions weren't after all, driven by hared towards you. But of course, all said and done, if he's still unresponsive and refuses to cough up any excuses for his behaviour, then there are two ways: either you decide upon a break-up with him, or, the safer option, I should say, take him to a consultant. He'll be able to diagnose if your partner has developed some sort of mental instability or not and can suggest ways and means to cure him.

I think that the saying that "actions speak louder than words" really holds true here. Yes, if you commit a mistake, you would expect your partner to say that he is sorry, but you would also expect to see some sort of remorse from your partner as well such as in his actions. Have you talked openly to him about this and your thoughts and feelings about this? He may not even realize what you have observed and thinks that saying sorry is enough. My opinion is that you should communicate with him exactly what you have written here and then maybe you two will have a better understanding of each other to better enhance your relationship. Good luck!

I hate to tell you, you might be right, if someone loves you they would do the hurtful things that they do. Your husband is sending you a sign catch it, ask him does he want out of the marriage, and see what he says.

hi
atleast he says sorry to u. my husband never says sorry to me, even he is wrong. i think he is shy to say sorry or his ego stops him. and iit hurts me very much.any way he seldom repeats the mistakes again that i am complaining about.
in your case, u have to discuss with him what's the meaning of ur 'sorry'.

My husband use to do the same thing. It gets to the point where it starts getting old. if he continues to do the same things over and over, he obviously is not sorry at all. Make him make a choice. I did not want to get a divorce over something so small so he had to make a choice to change or not. I am not sure what your issues are but try to work trough them. I had to leave for a day to get my point across. good luck!!

you can tell him about how you feel. you both should talk about it. well other people think saying sorry is enough, even without meaning the word. if your guy is really sorry, the he should not do it again, make sure he doesnt hurt you for the same reason, or that would only mean he doesnt mean that he is indeed sorry about it. well i only say sorry when i really am sorry. and after i say the word, i make sure that i wont do the same mistake or fault that had offended the other person.

hi friend,
reading your post,i feel your partner is actually not feeling sorry for his mistakes...because he is comminting it again and again..
its time you should make him realise that his so called "mistakes" are hurting you.

If even then,after knowing that you are getting hurt..he is not ready to change his behaviour..then you'll have to actually think that where your relationship is going..and where will it land...

I feel exactly the same way with my Boyfriend. He says sorry over and over but doesn't change. I tell him all the time that sorry means nothing until you actually prove your sorry but like most guys, it goes in one ear and out the other. I feel the same way as well, like sometimes he doesn't love me, but I know he does. I pin it on a guy thing. No offence to them but most of them aren't all that smart when it comes to things like this.

That is a nice discussion . Yes Often this things happen in Street, Train and bus . Somebody step in your Foot and say Sorry .It seems to be very Dramatical . The point that you had Mentioned about your Partner is also a real Case like this . I feel same as you .By saying Sorry is not Enough you must change yourself if you really LOVE that Person . It is said if you can´t change the habit saying SORRY will not Change your Habit .In my Openion try to judge more about your Parnter is he doing that Conciously or Unconciously . If that is happening by his Conciousness then it is totally his Fault . It is some kind of disrespect . Speak with him directly and give him a Fear that you can Leave this relation or Leave him . By that see what is his reaction? If he really Loves you then he will genuinely try to rectify him. If not then you can take it that he don´t Loves you at all . Only doing some pretention before you and disrespecting you . Try this tricks to judge properly.

Hi, there. I think it really depends on what kind of mistakes that he commit. Human beings make mistakes and when they sorry it's just the word that they utter so natually when someone else is mad at them. So you need to talk with him first, and be cool, without getting angry. Then watch him, his expressions from which you can judge if he is really sorry or just try to gain your forgiveness.
You must have a reason to choose him as your partner at the beginning. Just recall his strong points and the shining parts. Maybe it's just some kinda little bad habit that everybodys holds.
Watch for a longer period and then decide. Personally I also very afraid of hearing the word sorry because it definitely means that they have done something wrong to me...and i hope you can figure this out soon.