My daughter is dating a black guy and I don't mind

It sounds like you responded so well! I wouldn't have been offended either but I'm not old and race really doesn't matter to me. My parents are both racist when it comes to the dating thing, they hate expressed it when my brother and myself have dated outside of our race. If I remember correctly I think I seen a post you made to a discussion about your son, getting married, you sound like a great parent and your children are so lucky to have you.

I'm white and myfriend is black but we have a lot of trouble here even after 20 years together

I think you handled it perfectly! Some people might have been more upset at Grandma, but you nailed it when you said that what she experienced during her lifetime was much different, and made allowances for that.

We need more people like you around. Bravo ...

The grandmother is only reacting to the time she lived in where colour was a big issue. It is what she use to. She may feel uncomfortable with the new way of life. She is thinking of herself and her life and not thinking about her grandson.

really what is most important is how the kids feel about each other. It is their lives. I would say to the kids, go for it and don't let any one get in your way. Not even family. All you do is tell them that you love them but this is not the older times. It is the newer times where colour is not an issue.

I am black, and it makes me sick when black people makes comments like Curtis' grandmother made. If Curtis is 13, then the grandmother can not be that old that she has not adjusted to the way things are today in 2008. This is why there is so much tension between the races because of silly remarks made by people who should know better. Let your daughter know that all black people do not think like the grandmother and that she should be able to date anyone she pleases.
My husband was married to a white lady, and her mother told him she would pay him if he did not marry her daughter. You are correct, if your daughter wants to continue seeing Curtis she should, there is nothing wrong with it.
God bless you and your family, and God may forgive the grandmother, because we were all put on this earth to love one another.

I just would be speechless. I wouldn't know what to say to a 13 year old in that circumstance. It's good you can see things from the grandmother's side and not let it effect your friendship with the mother.

My granddaughter is married to a black man. Her other grandmother wouldn't even come to her wedding. I say as long as they treat each other with respect that is what counts. Some people just don't give up the old ways easily. I hope everything smooths out soon.

I feel so sad for your 13 year-old daughter. Now she will be self-conscious every time she is around the grandmother. I would have reacted the same way you did. There is no sense being offended, because it won't change anything. I think you should just try to explain to your daughter sometimes people feel the way her boyfriend's grandmother does, and that she can't really worry about them. You have already taught her that people are not defined by their race, and that we are all valuable beings. Now she just needs to realize that she can hold her head high in whatever relationship she chooses to be in, and she can ignore those who don't approve of relationships between people of mixed race. You are right, she is very young, and this will likely not be her last relationship, but she should never have to worry about "sticking to her own kind." That is an archaic notion. I would also caution my daughter to be kind and respectful to the grandmother, always. Who knows, she may win her over eventually.

About 18 years ago I worked with a girl of a different race. We talked and joked around a lot on breaks and got to be pretty good friends. Well, one day I took the plunge and asked her for a date. She said "I can't go out with you". I thought to myself she must have a boyfriend I didn't know about. Turns out most of her family is against inter-racial relationships, and as she lived at home it would have caused major problems for her. I hadn't thought of her in years 'til I raed this...in another town, so long ago...I wonder how she is now?

There are a lot in the older generations that feel that way. My adopted mom is black and she isn't crazy about me being with a black guy. I have a friend.. black .. we never dated but we talked about it. My "mom" said since I couldn't have babies, she wasn't too upset about it, but didn't like the idea of the mixing of the races. I think everyone mixed or not are beautiful. I think we are all beautiful inside and out no matter who we are.

i think u should be cool about it. u are not responsible for what others feel about race. they are still people who set in their ways when it comes this issue. the only one u can change is yourself. u should explain to her there are people who have different views when it to race. the important thing is that it doesn't matter about people interacting of different races, the thing that counts the most is the respect.