Feeling unappreciated?

I completely understand what you are talking about!!! I can clean the house top to bottom (this rarely gets done completely). I mean vacuum, sweep, mop, dust, wash, polish, everything that can possibly be done. I work my tail off, break a sweat and all that good stuff. I make sure I'm just getting done when hubbers walks in so he can even see me working. What do I get in return? Hey Babe, You missed a spot. UGH That irritates me so much! We have two little boys under the age of 5. I guess he doesn't understand how messy they are just doing their everyday stuff. It takes literally all day to clean properly so I don't do it as often as I should. I have noticed that If I need that little " Oh the house looks good" I have to ask for it. Some people are just too busy to notice the little things sometimes I guess. Yes we are all Awesome!!

I think we have all experienced something like this. Its always good to do good wether its appreciated or not. Sometimes when people try to take advantage of a kind nature you just have to stand up for yourself. You can do it in a nice way and still be helpful to others.
I have a friend who asked for many favors. The problem is when you needed a favor she did not consider yours as important as hers. Some people only see what they want to see. Acts of kindness are like instant karma, what goes arround will come arround.

Hi Foxyfire, For starters from some of the stories re your MIL se seems to sort of person who would notice the one inch piece of shelve out of twenty spotlessly clean shelves that was missed so in her case I don't think you would ever feel appreciated, just my opinion as a total outsider looking in. For me the last time I felt unappreciated was Christmas Eve when I cokked a lovely meal for my son to fall asleep and not eat, one of my daughters having a row with her boyfriend so she lost her appetite and my other daughter ot feeling that hungry and I shouted at them that next year it would be egg and chips or cook it themselves. I was tired with all the preparations but for some reason that day I just thought 'why do I bother?' Ellie:D

HI foxyfire,

Wow! that is very disappointing! I am wondering if she is used to a messy environment and will appreciate it better?
Anyway, I have not tried that...My Parents are very sensitive about little things and they will always comment that it's look good that way and you did a great job for arranging this and that!
And for my husband even simple arrangement of the closet, he will always appreciate it!
I do know if my in-laws since they are not visiting here, we are the one who visits them since FIL had a bad knees already!

I can understand how you feel. We all probably feel unappreciated from time to time. It does sound like you did quite a lot in your house and didn't get the appreciation you feel that you deserved.
I am a married woman and a housewife. Sometimes I feel unappreciated by my husband because I feel like I do a lot for him like cook, clean and do his laundry. But on the other hand, he does work for a living and he is trying the best that he can and that is all I can ask for. We should probably try to appreciate what each other does as husbands and wives a little more often.

As you know my husband and I have been having issues. We are trying to get the house ready to sell. (by the way things are getting better between us now that we have made the decision to move) Anyway - I have been working on each room after work every day.
Every day I come home and clean the kitchen first as its the first room you walk into and always the messiest. Plus I have to clean to cook.

So for the past couple days I have been working exclusivly on my daughters room. Getting all her old clothes together and folded for the yard sale. Toys she doesn't play with any more and all the other what nots. Every thing done. Her room looks better then the day we first finished it. Do you think I got one word from him?!?!? Helll no!

Well now for your praise! You did a great job - don't worry about your mother in law once your gone she will realize how much you did for her and be sorry she wasn't more thankful.

Ha, sounds like your MIL is my mother! I grew up with that cr*p and now she wonders why I get defensive everytime she opens her mouth to spout out some more venom. It's like Pavlov's dog, I am conditioned to defend myself. Funny thing is that I don't do it with anyone else. hhmmmmm...... LOL!

Now my man, he will notice pretty quick and comment on the house looking nice or some such and thank me for it! Ain't he grand?

You should be lucky you don't work where I work.
I do such things for this company and now I hear there will be no bonus at the end of this year.
In this company money is the bottom, middle and top lines and you can break your back each and every day it makes no difference.
On top of everything they lie to you constantly.
This is the world we live in.

HiYa Foxy, I feel unappreciated almost everyday.
I know we cannot be expected to be thanked for every little thing we do,
But it would be darn nice if once in awhile we were shown some appreciation.

As for MIL I would have picked up the african violet and thrown it at her.

sometimes, i feel unappreciated at work... i work so hard and put my best there... but my managers seem not to notice it... but other workers who work lightly and not as hard as me get the recognitions more from my managers... i learn to just keep quiet and accept it... at the same time, i drop my speed in my workplace as well... take care and have a nice day...