Mom proposes Wife disproposes

Oh gosh good luck with that. see don't you wish they came with directions now. lol No but really try this you do what your mother said. Don't tell your wife just do it. Get a book on parenting and read it. Take what you need use it. And also use what your Mother said plus your wife's mother. change them a little to make it your own and goodluck. I'm a woman and we can be just a pain when it comes to my mom know's better. I took advise from my mother in-law when I was married as I lived close to her and she was great and I took advice from my mom as well, mixed it all up and got it.

it is natural fact in many families. generally many new wifes never approve the idea of mother in law, they think their own mother is only correct. it also creates ego problem. you can't do much to it. but play a positive role

The best thing you can do for your marriage is to go with what your wife says. It is all trial and error with first moms and they are much more eager to get information and counseling from their mom than their mother in law.

in this case you have to chek and give idea to you famil y and other members and avoid the misguidance and misunderstand

This is a battle that will rage for all time. On one hand you have your mother who has experience and wisdom. On the other hand you have your wife, who feels her decisions are best. I would recommend that you find a balance between the two. Your mother may have some great advice, however the decision will most likely be dependent on your wife.

I can understand your situation and to an extent also your wife's situation. It is very common for any girl to be more comfortable listening to her mom as she knows that her mom has raised her and so would be right in guiding her. But she fails to understand that your mom has also raised you so even your mom is right in what she says. The point here is that while both the moms have their own experiences one might be more correct than the other in each occassion. I guess your wife is confused at times because she must be getting different views from both the moms. And any suggestion that she gets from your mom would be verified through her mom and if her mom doesn't approve of it then I don't think there is a chance she would do what your mom proposes. But it would never be the other way around. I guess as much as your wife loves and cares for the baby its not always true that she and her mom knows the best. You must as a father of the child and child of your mom intervene and make your views clear to her. You should be more actively involved in the decisions regarding your kid. whenever your mom advises or her mom advises about anything try and find out if those advises are really beneficial and if they are contradicting then which one is correct. Since you have access to internet it would not be that difficult to find out. And whatever your little research results in should be what you follow. And when your mom is right make sure your wife does what your mom says. If you don't do that I guess it won't be too long before your wife would lose all respect for your mom. and later on when she doesn't approve of anything that you do even that would be put on your mom's wrong upbringing of you. Just my view. But you surely have to be more proactive about the decisions on your kid. My husband is.