Why do we have to always negate with strong words?

It is perhaps like two sides of a coin. The great Scientists Newton framed a law, which says - "There is always equal and opposite reaction to an 'action'". Therefore, good and bad and pro and anti are two sides of a coin. There cannot be pro-people to a line of thought, if there are no ante-people to a line of thought. Both are complementary to each other. How can you enjoy a 'white', if there is no 'black', how can you appreciate a 'good; response, if there is not any 'average' response. Moreover, how can you enjoy a 'sweet' chocolate, if there is any 'salty' snack. I think the above examples will make the picture clearer.

Yes it MUST be all that CHOCOLATE! You even have me eating it. I have a rule that a lot of people just don't understand called "Repair the Harm" and the way it goes is that if someone says a negative thing, they have to say 3 positive things, at least one of which is directly to the point of reversing the effect of the negative thing. This is a bit the opposite of what you are saying, but it calls to mind an English professor who taught his classes to never say, "You did a good job, but..." You see, the but is as you suggest a rebuttal and it takes away the compliment. Example is a child makes a beautiful kid drawing and someone says, "Your sky is beautiful but don't you think you need a butterfly in it?" That is such a putdown and the kid decides, forget it I'm not doing art any more. The person could have said, "Your sky is so beautiful that if I were a butterfly I would want to fly around and around in that sky!" or "I'll bet a lot of butterflies will come and fill up that sky because it is so pretty." There are so many nuances in language and it can be used to help people or hurt them. The choice is ours.

Mimpi, It's a very good and relevant question though less thought about by many and has a lot to do with pyscholgy and the art of communication. The usage of these words have a lot to do with our comprehension of the situation ,frame of minds and our inability express ourselves properly in those moments. The lack of appropriate words at those times may also be responsible. The usage of these strong negative words especially in dealing with people and in relationships wheter it be family,friends or work can be be taken as critisicm and contempt giving rise to unpleantness and can destroy relationships. The use of these words have to be selective depending upon the circumstances and the message to be got across. They may be ok in general usage when describing particular situations or event. Usage of the easier or less strong words bring about various positive reactions of feeling good, motivation.... and certainly not negatives ones.For sure they can avoid conflicts and arguments. There are other examples in addittion that i can cite like, not so tall for short, slim instead of skinny, could improve instead of poor or bad, and so on.... If this is a result of chocolate mania , i need to have a lot of chocolates too.

I could not agree more with alok's comments actually. The less complex words can be far less threatening for sure and maybe many people tend to use the more complex ones to BE more threatening on purpose? There are also many people that will focus on a stronger vocabulary to purposely try to show superiority over another, especially if they know that the person on the receiving end's vocabulary is not as strong as their own. In the reverse aspect, we then have the area of political correctness as well. The focus by society on this in many cultures have turned words like "retarded" into "mentally challenged" and so forth. It is just a constant evolution of human communciation and language I guess. You only have to look at the continiuing influx of new terms and words into mainstream dictionaries each year for validation of the changing vocabulary landscape!

Hi mimpi dear.....I will make it easy for your in the language of chocolates....will you like to eat same kind of chocolate all the time, even if they are sweet, you will definitely want to change the flavour and try other things....and when you will try other flavours for some time, you will miss the original flavour again........so you see, some bitterness in life is necessary to understand the wroth of sweetness.......besides such opposite reactions keep life going on like a TV serial. After all life is a drama that starts when you are born till you live your last moment....I hope you understand what I am writing, because I really don't know what I am writing

Hi Mou u must be doing well Well, we have to negate with strongers to show that how offended we are or how much we dis like ant event, U must be aware that moderate or gentle words are mostly taken as granted, In simple if u r angry with some one, and u want to convey it, u have to frown and shout and if u try to convey with smile on ur face and sparkle in ur eyes, regardless the words u r using the other will think u r friendly rather than Angry What u think of it

Every Action has an Equal and Opposite Reaction. A question has to be countered with an answer.A day has to be countered with night.It is the most obvious thing. You feel so desolate and lost if these things don't happen. As the color of our hair start to turn into white from black these kind of awakenings dawn on us without the help of the chocolates..Especially me.

may be it is the way we want to perceive the things. I have seen that many words are like that the way we love to listen it or frame it. may be these are evolved like that. it is the way that by negating it, we get pleasures.

I think the bigger and scarier a word seems to be, the more intimidating it is for people. This would then mean they get the message loud and clear. Me, I try to avoid using the harsh sounding words. There is too much anger etc in the world already, and taking a more assertive tone is better. Assertiveness gets the point across without being rude or intimidating, it shows more respect.

Hi Mimipi, I guess it is all about balance and without the bad times we wouldn't appreciate the good eh. Have another bar of choclate that should solve this one LOL. Huggles. Ellie :D

hi mimpi I think you have a point there . a soft answer turneth away wrath. Life could be better if we turned the heat of words down a few notches and thought first before' just blurting out the hot words we had stored up. Kinder gentler words might turne all our irritations away and would that not be really nice.

Simple answer is the nature. The world is a balanced thing. There are people falls into all three categories. The two ends and the middle.