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myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother1 year ago

I am a soon-to-be-Mommy. Yes, I am broadcasting that to the world. Even if others have mocked me and have called me immoral over and over. I will never hide my baby, he is mine and I'm his mother.

My friends who know about my story understands me, but others who don't, oh well, I don't expect them to. I was married 5 years ago and got separated 4 years ago. So this isn't my ex-hubby's baby and I know I should be ashame of that. I am a single Mom, the baby's dad abandoned us. When my relatives and friends knew about it, they've abandoned me and my baby too.

Something inside me is telling me not to broadcast my baby's life for the world to see. I know I should protect him from all the judgmental people out there. But I kept on thinking why should I hide him? Why should I act like I'm not a proud Mommy? Why should I deprive him of the real world?

So I published his very own blog. It's title is "My Little Nicholas" and the site's URL is http://littlenicholas.com. . Tell me, am I a bad mother for doing this?

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 92/100. gracetreyes (288)   ranked 135 out of 6,615 in mother   1 year ago

hi maple_kisses, you have such a nice blog.Can you help me make a nice site like that.It's so colorful and beautiful. It really is a good site to see. And what's wrong with being a single Mom? You are doing great. You are right not to deprive you son with real world. And I guess when He gets a bit older and understand all the things in you sites, He would be very proud of you. Keep it up.Hope to help me do such a beautiful site...thanks


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Hi Grace, thanks for the compliment. That's sweet of you. I just purchased that domain yesterday from my officemate who hosts sites and sell domains. I then and then accessed my Admin account and have chosen wordpress as my Editor, then I googled for a great baby layout and luckily found one. I installed it to my blog. I don't really know web programming, HTML, PHP and more. Good thing that I was once a Software Programmer though I only code VB and C, still I have an idea and I love to expand my knowledge. So I explored the site, twitched some codes and presto! I then published 5 posts yesterday and 5 posts today. I would be glad to help you get one, I wonder how though, hehehe. Wish you live closer:)


myLot reputation of 92/100. gracetreyes (288)   ranked 135 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

I bookmarked your site. I haven't read all the pages yet. It is really so nice. I am still in the process of making blog. I do have one but you know it doesn't look good that much.An I am in the process of discovering things. Can you PM me you YM or email add., we lived in the same country, only that I'm from the province, just a bit closer to your site. If you won't mind to share some knowledge? thanks and hope to hear from you real soon... happy


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Hi Gracey, thanks for bookmarking my site, I paid your site a visit too and you have great posts! Keep writing! I sent you a PM already, really hope we can correspond through YM... See ya!

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2. myLot reputation of 95/100. phillygirl606 (846)   ranked 1,453 out of 6,615 in mother   1 year ago

Keep your head up, everything will be fine. Be proud of your son. I had a similar situation. I was never married though. My son father abandoned us and he never looked back. My little man is almost 7 years old now and I have no regrets. He's the best thing that ever happened to me, as your son is to you. Your doing the right thing. Don't hide him show him off with pride


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Wow, it's great to find accomplished single Mom here. I admire your strength in rearing your child alone, now if only I can do that too... Well, I'm starting it off by showing off my Little Nicholas with great pride! Thanks for dropping by!

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3. myLot reputation of 78/100. spoiledbrat802 (3590)   ranked 1,523 out of 6,615 in mother   1 year ago

You should be proud of yourself for doing it alone even when your relatives and friends have deserted you. There are worse things in life than carrying an illegitimate child. And if your family and friends who've abandoned you call themselves religious, then they are hypocrites as well. Because all babies are precious and are blessings from the Lord. The sins of the father (and/or the mother) should never be visited upon the child. Good luck on your baby and hope he comes out perfectly healthy. happy


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Thanks spoiledbrat802, for that wonderful encouragement. I know my little Nicholas is a precious gift from God, he's a great blessing in my life. It's really unfair for him to be treated bad for the sins he didn't do that's why I am showering him all the love I can give. Thanks for the message and happy mylotting!

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4. myLot reputation of 93/100. red_amethyst (1647)   ranked 951 out of 6,615 in mother   1 year ago

hi maple_kisses

you are not a bad mother you are just proud. why hide your baby. he's a blessing. whatever happened you should be proud. take care and just always pray.


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Hi red_amethyst, thanks for that, I am really proud that I'll become a mother soon. And yes, my little angel is a blessing and a source of my strength nowadays... You take care too... God bless!

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5. myLot reputation of 97/100. OceanTiara (3051)   ranked 59 out of 6,615 in mother   1 year ago

Hello Dear Maple
Indeed you are not.
To the contrary you are to be admired for your devotion to your beloved child Nicholas.
Many Mothers, single or whatever their status, do not deserve to be a Mommy, but it is clear by this action that you have shared with us, that your love for your child can reach no bounds..
Now what can be wrong with that?
A child that is wanted and loved even before birth will grow up to be a strong loving man and also love his Mother unconditionally and be able to pass that same strong love on to his own children if there be any.
You see that love is a bond.
xooxoxoxo Hugswubhappythumbup


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Hi dear Tiara, you're soooo nice to me, mwah! I'm so overwhelmed with happiness knowing that many mylotters think I would be a good mother, especially you my dear friend. I do love my baby, he's the best thing that ever happened to me despite all the consequences of having him. The sad part could never weight down the happy and beautiful part of being a mother! I wanted him sooooooo much! Thanks for the sweet words dear... Shucks! I'm having trouble with my proxy again, it's not allowing me to send PMs, darn! I'm ever so excited of your news! This proxy is really bad...


myLot reputation of 97/100. OceanTiara (3051)   ranked 59 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Hi again Mapes!
Oh yes, I have bookmarked you too Maple Honey!
My news is good news cross your fingers for me Dear Friend! xoxoxo Kiss and hug and love to you always. happywubthumbup

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6. myLot reputation of 91/100. LisaHW (1509)   ranked 1,108 out of 6,615 in mother   1 year ago

Your blog is very nice, and I don't think there's anything wrong with having a blog about your baby's arrival. (The only thing I think you should be careful about is mentioning any reason to be "ashamed". Your baby and being ashamed don't belong in the same conversation, and there's no reason to associate him with "shame". Be a proud mother, enjoy your new baby, and don't let other people's opinions opinions (or mention of them) be a part of your life, or your blog.

I have a few blogs, and one is an adoption blog (because I have one grown, adopted, son). I have another one about women, and I've included writing about being a mother/having my kids. I do use a pen name to keep from embarrassing anybody, but I've sometimes wondered if it's kind of "exploiting" people in my life just to write online. I don't think so, though, because my kids (even though they're grown) are such a big part of my life, how can I have blogs or write and not include references to them? I've always just kind of been proud of how much I love them, and there's a part of me that thinks too few mothers feel free to talk about what's good about being a mother and what's good about their children.

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athenaliang (1)   ranked 6,413 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

hi.your blog is very nice.You are a great mother .


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Thanks Lisa, you're so kind. You're right. I should be careful about putting on too much emotion on the blog. I am not ashamed of my little angel though, there are just people who are pulling me down and are telling me I should be ashamed. But I don't care about them, I'm proud of my little darling.

I paid your blog a visit too, and it's beautiful. Simple yet very inspiring. I'm so happy to find a proud Mommy blogger in mylot too. I can feel your enormous pride through the words on your blog. You are a great Mom too!

Keep posting dear... the world should know people like you and your kids... God bless!


myLot reputation of 91/100. LisaHW (1509)   ranked 1,108 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Thanks, both, for your nice words.

"Maple..", anyone who would suggest shame when it comes to a brand new baby that's coming into the world is just misguided. Ignore them. Don't let anyone else muddy up what is one of the biggest and nicest events in your life.

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7. myLot reputation of 87/100. hildas (2128)   ranked 872 out of 6,615 in mother   1 year ago

No, I do not think you are a bad mother for doing this. It is what you think that matters.

Will your baby appreciate it when he is grown up, when he is an adult? I hope he does. It would be nice if I could look back to my childhood on the everday things I done. I will check out your blog.


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Hi hildas, thanks for the kind words and for checking my blog. I was thinking of that too that my Little Nicholas might find it good to read about his life when he grows up. I do hope he'll be proud of me too as much as I am proud of him.

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8. myLot reputation of 94/100. ANTIQUELADY (12021)   ranked 728 out of 6,615 in mother   1 year ago

no ma'am i will not tell u, you re a bad mother. i think u are gingto be a wonderful mother. i think nico's father is a jerk for doing that but if he is that kind of person yu don't need him anyway,.i have been where you are & know what you are going through but it will all work out & the people that are standing by u now family or friends are the ones u need to be with. the rest of them can go to the devil & probably will.take care of yourself & little nico.


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

He's more than just a jerk, I think Mr. Webster hasn't coined a word for him yet. But well, it's his loss, he'll be missing his baby. Thanks dear for being sweet to me and for "protecting" me against those who are messing up with me. You take care too ok? Little Nico's excited for his Bobo...


myLot reputation of 94/100. ANTIQUELADY (12021)   ranked 728 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

u tell nico his bobo can't wait till he gets here. do u mind me asking u where u live? if u don't want to say that's fine. i live in tennessee.


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

That's so sweet of you dear, my little angel's so lucky... No I don't mind you asking at all. We live miles apart though. I am in Philippines, in Cagayan de Oro City to be specific... Wish little Nico will see his bobo someday...


myLot reputation of 94/100. ANTIQUELADY (12021)   ranked 728 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

that's a long way. bobo is going to have a hard time seeing her new grandson. i will see pictures tho but he must know about his anericam bobo. take care.

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9. myLot reputation of 78/100. quarvalsharess (586)   ranked 2,127 out of 6,615 in mother   1 year ago

Being a single mom is not wrong!! STOP thinking like that. I think that there's nothing wrong with it. It's your choice, you are a strong woman to do that.:) Well, who cares what people think, as long as you think it's the right thing to do? Would they rather you kill an innocent life? Have they actually thought about it? have they thought about what you want? For me, it's always up to you. Never regret things. As long as you thought about it and you're happy with the choice you make, you will not regret it. Because every decision has a concequence. As long as you're able to handle it, what is the issue?
As for me.. OMg.. I like your idea for your blog, you talk about how it is going through pregnancy.. which I think I'll do that the next time and also read through your blog and the other blogs that advice you and helps you get through your pregnancy.. It's a great experience but a real scary one as well.. And it's not like there's so many people you can vent to about your feelings, and the best things to do when you want to vent is to write it down.:)
So for me, I like your blog, I think it's a really nice thing to do for pregnant moms, soon to be pregnant moms, and a really nice dairy for your child to read when grows up as well.:) I don't think you're a bad mother, I think you're a really smart one, and also really proud to be pregnant and ready to share everything with your child.
I wish you all the best! Take care!!


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Hi quarvalsharess, you're right, I should push that thought from my mind. Reading too many beautiful words from my mylotter friends outweighed the bad comments made by other people about me and having my baby. I guess these people would rather see me as a murderer than a happy Mom but no way! I'm not gonna give them their happiness in expense of mine. I don't regret this decision, though I admit there are times the consequences are seem heavy to bear but feeling my little angel's kicks made everything just worthwhile. I am scared but I know God will help me see through this, and I have my friends too, here in mylot and other places as well. I'm proud to be a Mommy and I'm proud of my baby! Thanks again for taking the time in replying and as well as visiting Little Nico's blog. God bless you always...

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10. myLot reputation of 92/100. misshoney (923)   ranked 2,162 out of 6,615 in mother   1 year ago

hello maple_kisses:-) wow congratulations on the new baby, it is great to have a blessing like that. you are asking if you are a bad mother? well my answer is of course not! in fact i think you will be an excellent mother and your boy will be a happy baby. i admire you for your strength because even if having this baby was not easy for yoi and your family abandoned you, you still chose to let the baby live. there is no reason for you to be ashamed of your baby, you should be a proud mommy!


myLot reputation of 90/100. maple_kisses (1053)   ranked 45 out of 6,615 in mother  1 year ago

Thanks misshoney:) For telling me I'll be an excellent Mom and that my baby will be very happy. I admit the situation's hard but all for my baby, I'm willing to give even my life... I love him so much. Thanks for dropping by.. Take care.

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