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myLot reputation of 98/100. ronnyb (3489)   ranked 12 out of 19,197 in relationships 4 years ago

So often I have heard it ,it has become cliche ,"women are better listeners" ,"men dont listen "," men dont like to talk " and often from the lips of women who beleive that they there is a communication problem with their men.Why is this so ,is it that men are too busy to talk ? or do they see talking with their women as a waste of time ?.Could the communication channels be more opened if the women spoke about thing that interested the man such as sports ?.Should women have the responsibility to find out about sports and more male-centered interest so she can improve her relationship with her man ?.What about the reciprocal of that ?- should men do likewise ? .Is it possible too that in getting a man talking about sports he will be more willing to open up and talk about his feelings ,which is what women are always complaining about ?.Do you think most men see talking about their feelings as a feminine activity ?
With all of the talk about talking and listening ,and even more important question needs to be answered and that is who makes changes when the other person suggests it.Since it is a widely held view that most men dont listen ,then it follows that there are unlikely to hear about the change in the first place and wont know to make them.However ,could it also be that women just like to talk and listen but slow to make changes .What if a man asked his woman to watch football with him ,she would hear but would she act accordinly ?.Similarly if the woman asked her man to watch Lifetime with her would he do it ? but how can he when he is not a good listener - maybe he just didnt hear lol.So who is to blame for the cliche ?
What is your experience in this hotly debated issue ?.

 

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1. myLot reputation of 94/100. learn2earn (16936)   ranked 296 out of 19,197 in relationships   4 years ago

I think that this is not a general conclusion based on a scientific research. Not all men doesn't want to talk or to listen. I am a man and I prefer to do the talking in our home. And when I'm done, I do the listening and weighing those words in my heart. From there, I make decisions on which is the right thing to do. I think that the topic is not a much debated issue because it is settled in the home as long as the couples humble themselves to each other. Good day to you and I read your post and listened.lol


myLot reputation of 96/100. katrhina23 (1097)   ranked 5,737 out of 19,197 in relationships  4 years ago

I completely agree with you here.

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2. myLot reputation of 97/100. rosdimy (2814)   ranked 24 out of 19,197 in relationships   4 years ago

I do not think this to be strictly true. Maybe it also depends on culture, religion, and upbringing.

Women are better listeners? Hmm...my spouse rarely listen to what I have to say and this occurs once in a few years. When I tried to say something she would cut me off. She rarely waited for me to finish off what I had to say before speaking. When I explained about something she would not listen, asking me about the same thing a few minutes or hours later. She wanted everything to be done according to her wishes. After meeting someone else she went into phases of giving monosyllabic answers and the above behaviour.

So now I tend to keep quiet.

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3. myLot reputation of 60/100. Indrajit_25 (554)   4 years ago

Women are neither good listeners nor good talkers.
they talk nothing that i interesting. That is the reason man gets fed up and walks away from them.
They are also not good listeners. If you talk something which might be of benefit to them, they might listen. Otherwise, not.


myLot reputation of 94/100. sharra1 (3429)   ranked 510 out of 19,197 in relationships  4 years ago

I think that is terrible to generalise like that. Women make very good counsellors because they are so good at listening. You generalise about half the population based on the few you know.


myLot reputation of 83/100. soumyasundar555 (882)  4 years ago

no Indrajit ... that's not fare.... you know that they are.... you have to go with the %..... women are better organizer( listener& planer )than men...

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4. yagi7uda (85)   ranked 3,516 out of 19,197 in relationships   4 years ago

most of the time women is better talkers. but in single time women is the best listener why? even they dont have the solution they give you comfort so that in your own you can solve your problem

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5. myLot reputation of 62/100. redhotpogo (2272)   ranked 1,790 out of 19,197 in relationships   4 years ago

talkers. (now i will run and hide)

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6. myLot reputation of 77/100. chipatil (291)   ranked 12,750 out of 19,197 in relationships   4 years ago

WOMEN ARE NOT GOOD LISTENERS.
they can just go on talking,.....i prev thought tht this idea is wrong but really i hav witnessed this....all girl in my class just go on gossiping with out ne reason...just for tp
this may look harmless but creates many probs !!!
[no offense to ne one :) ]

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7. myLot reputation of 94/100. sharra1 (3429)   ranked 510 out of 19,197 in relationships   4 years ago

Some women are good at listening and some talk far too much. Everyone is an individual. Very few men listen to women but they listen to other men. Men and women often have different interests but not always. Some women like sports and some do not. I have tried to develop an interest in sports since I met my partner and I now watch AFL, rugby union, rugby league and cricket.

Women are considered good listeners because they are more likely to listen to people's problems and that is what makes them good counsellors. Mothers listen to their children and help them through the bad times. This is where the phrase comes from.

Some men talk about their feelings, some think it is a sign of weakness to even admit they have any. We are all different and this is definitely not something you can generalise about.

Relationships require good communication from both partners. Both men and women need to be able to talk to each other about their problems, their desires and their fears. In patriarchal societies you will find some men who will not even want to talk to a woman unless it is to get her into bed.

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8. myLot reputation of 93/100. srganesh (4754)   ranked 1,020 out of 19,197 in relationships   4 years ago

If it comes for their family well being ,then they are good listeners.And if it is loose talk,then they cant be outbeaten as a good/great talkers.Where they get that stamina,I really wonder!

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9. sunshine4ever (11)   4 years ago

According to me Women are better Talkers. When will they listen to others? I am confident that Women are More, more, more of Talkers, even anyone is not interested in listening. Women is born to talk and we are born to listen! At least we(Men) will listen to some, but women will never. No prejudiced statement from me. Everything is my hard experience!

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10. myLot reputation of 95/100. sweetyethot (1118)   ranked 1,043 out of 19,197 in relationships   4 years ago

it's hard to tell.i can only tell you that as a female,i am better at listening than talking.and i consider myself a good listener rather than a good speaker.

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