Should I be suspicious or am I overthinking things here?

I think you are overthinking and it's quite unlikely of a panda spanker. Are you OK James? You are making it easier for BH. (Seriously)May be he has done his bit of research work and found you to be very interesting, which in any case you are. What you can do is to keep him on hold for some time and watch his interactions over a period of time and accordingly ADD r DELETE. I guess, that would help. Hope you are having a nice sleep dreaming about the illusive stalker...

I'm with you on this, James. If I can't read some posts to see where the person's head is, I'm not going to accept them. I know they say that the more friends you have the more money you can make, but I'm here for intelligent conversation and a bit of Panda Spanking, and I don't need 150 friends whose posts I need to check out each day in the hope of finding something interesting. If a quick glance at their activity suggests they're not interesting, no acceptance, and no posts at all is dull. Lash

The advice should be there in your head when you wake up. I remember starting a discussion saying "when in doubt" and i would say the most apt answer here would be "don't". In other words keep it pending for a while, see the activity after a few days and you will know what to do. BTW: The long weekend getting you to you or what ?

It's probably nothing sinister as you think. Two reasons I can think of are : 1. They are new (obviously) and probably trying to make friends randomly. 2. They want to be your friend so that they can send you messages about quick money making schemes (had someone like that in my friend list once)

I don't have time to read all the responses right now... So has anything developed since you last started this? When I was a newbie, I was very happy when myLotters that I enjoyed accepted my friends' request. Some of them made me wait for a few days or so and sometimes the wait was a bit off-putting. I always made a point to interact with them before giving that request but there were also few cases where I just freely requested. And whenever someone asked to be my "friend", I always accept them. But that was the first two months for me. Funny how things change a little bit when you're now on the other side. I think when you're a more seasoned myLotter, you tend to be aware and become more picky (as well as paranoid) with the friends you accept. You know there are trolls or whatever it is you call them and such. I tend to have a few on pending and wait until I check their profiles and activities before I accept their requests. Sometimes I wait until they reply to my discussion or reply to my response to their discussion.

well i dont think that you have anything to worry about to be honest, what proberly happend is that the person hasnt posted but has seen a post where you have contributed to and thought that he/she might aswell add you due to the amount of posts you got etc. Anyway thats what i think, dont be worried. Good night :)

James, you are right, a person without any post or discussion can better be avoided to be our friend. I think if a member sends a request, his/her profile must be checked, which gives us a thorough idea about him/her. Basically, we are here for sharing our views and opinions and if we do not participate in discussions, we cannot make new friends or what else we will interact with them. I have rejected few requests, where I found that the user had no post at all or very less number of posts.

yeah I got around 3 to 5 requests from newbies with less than 100 posts I used to deny them but I would also check their responses and see if I like them I would accept I never accept in a hurry though. I'll give it a month or more. I don't remember getting request from a newbie with no post at all but if I did I would deny it It's your friendship that they requested. If you don't want to be their friend then you won't be. just like that. if they have a problem with that, let them post here and you will respond. at least that way they will post :)

I don't know, don't see what kind of harm it could do but if they are really new you might end up with a bit of spam in your private message inbox. The mods should catch that pretty quick though and they will delete it for you I would think, so nothing really to worry about. Maybe I am missing something here though, I never did think much about who I accept as friends. Basically I send very few requests, maybe 10 or so in my entire lifetime here at mylot (a few months now), but I get one or two every once in a while. I just hit accept without even looking at their profiles, although maybe when I started I was more discriminating. So far I have never got a message that wasn't a response in my PM, so I hardly interact with my friends at all except to respond to an occasional interesting discussion.

Hi James, first I would like to say thanks for accepting my request. I have those request as well and I wonder if persons give those who they are referring to the names of persons who he/she should request as friend. It is a puzzle to me. I accept all friends request until I see that they are not really active or not contributing to my discussions I delete them.

Well, I remember back then(not here in my lot)I was browsing this thing and I saw a someone who's name is whatever, I just got curious an dopened his site and nothing there, no information, no friends, nothing! But I guess, it's overcuriosity I requested to be a friend, and after a time of no answer, I withdraw my request. So, about your case, I don't think it's something to worry about, if you don't trust the person,then don't approve it.

There are only three choices, accept or deny. Yes the third choice is to do nothing and leave it pending. I usually look at someone's posts before I accept, I am not sure if I would until they have posts to show what they are like.

I don't think it's anything to worry about. Random people do that on all sites like Myspace and Facebook etc.

i would send it anyway just to see if you get a response. if you do , then start worrying

You are being collected. You are no better than a seashell on the beach. These mass friend requests annoy the crap out of me. You probably had a discussion on one of the top discussions lists. These friend collectors search the top discussions because they have been told that by adding friends they can make more money. I used to delete them all, only to be requested again a few days later. I have since, taken to leaving them pending. Every once in a while I will check to see if they post a discussion that I can relate to. If they do, I will accept the request. I presently have 20 in limbo. I'm surprised this is your first of this nature. How does it feel to be a seashell?

I have one like that, too, today. Prolly the same person. I'm leaving it in pending. My suspicion is that they are just out to send referral links to another site. I have no interest in that stuff.

Just wait for some days and see whether that newbie starts posting or not.. Maybe it was your discussion he saw first and added you as friend because he would have found some similarities with you or share similar thoughts like you. Whatever it is my advice is to wait for some day and see how hw mylots.....

Hey James, oh that's nothing new to me. I've gotten several of those just in the last 24 hours, neither 4 had any post yet, maybe a friend or two, but they had just joined recently, so I just gave them a chance just wait and see what happens. I was new at one time and was rarely active for a while, so who am I to judge right away. I'm not perfect, I wanted people to give me a chance, and they did.

Did you try to see how long that person became a member on mylot? Maybe that was just his first time to join and tried to figure out what he can do in mylot to make friends and would do and improve his profile later. I would not be suspicious but would not accept his request straight away, I will wait till he can improve his profile first so that he won't be a strange member.

stay with your friend the most important is tolerance and humility , because he is your friend you know , there are few real good friends in our life so , treasure that , treasure you own , treasure now you will have a good day `