How do you define true friendship?

I can't tell you about how the true friendship was, because I fought with my best friends not so long time ago. I believe it must be something in us, or them that would never match, because we are human beings and human beings are unique. I don't really care about a friend using me, because it is on my decision. If I don't want to go with them, so it is my choice as well as if I want to go with them. If they don't want to go with me, it's their choice, because everybody has their own privacy, even friends.
I believe true friendship would know how to handle their friends. Like, you would know when they would be busy so you wouldn't ask them to go with you at that time and you can refuse their invitation if you're busy. I think the true friendship is in the bond of feeling not on the going out frequency

Hi there!
For me its being at your friends back all the time

I feel the same way. It has caused me to really distance myself from the majority of the people that I thought were friends. My family is no different though, they only call me when they need something from me.

As to how do I define true friendship... true friendship is when you know that if you needed that person they would drop everything to be there for you, and you would do the same for them. You don't have to talk everyday or get together often... actually you can go along time without seeing or talking, and when you do see each other it is like no time has passed.

well,i am facing this problem always all the time.Of course i feel upset over it.But what i need to do is just ignore them when they call me again in future.I think i no need this type of friends who just get advantage of me.For me,true friend is somebody who care to share happiness and sorrow and always be by my side whenever i need them.A friend in need is a friend indeed.

friendship means understand someone without him actually speak..It has to be mutual understanding without any greed or selfishness..
thanks
happy mylotting

Here is the thing friendship is a two way street and sometimes it isn't. There are times when friends depend on their friends more for a period of time and other times when they don't.

Let me ask you a question Has the people that you're surrounded by that right now, giving you the feeling of being used, Have the only ever used you or have they been there for you?

What I'm trying to get at is that you can be friends with someone for years and years and not have them really need you need you.. Remember what is important to you(ex. values and thoughts) may be different to them .. Something you might see trivial might be major to them. As a friend sometimes we fall on hard times and look to our friends for help in that period of time. Be there for your friends but by no means make yourself a revovling door or a matt for them to wipe their feet on.

I have had a couple that I was friends with and for years and years the only time they ever had the time to bother with me and my other half which they were friends with first was when they needed money, food, a ride, or help. It was always a one way street and then one day I had enough. I was done. I helped them and treated them as family but I was done being a door mat it took me years til I made the decision. But it wasn't a decision made lightly. If the only thing these friends have done for you is take take take and use use use and they never ever once treated you as a friend and did friend like things such as talk, go out, get together, then maybe you need to reflect on the friendship.. But before you go and do anything rash the first thing a friend does is talk to the other friend or friends about how they feel and address the problems in the friendship to see if they can be resolved.

A true friendship is emotionally supportive. It helps you get through the tough times and you shouldn't feel used but feel better about yourself being in that friendship. I haven't faced such situation in my present friendships as we treat each other equally and i'm glad about that. How would i resolve such a thing? when i get asked out again i'll reject the invitation with a decent reason. If you're ignored because you're not much help anymore then it's definitely not a true friendship and it's time to end it. Easier said than done but you don't want to be used forever and be stuck in this friendship.

I think that the first thing that you need to do is tell your friends how you feel. They may not even know that they are doing it and might try to make things better. If you do that and they still don't seem to change, it might be time to find some different friends. I have very little patience for anything aside from my family. I used to have a lot of friends but as the years passed I started to notice the same things as you. They only called when they needed something, they never had time to go out or come to my place and finally I just gave up. I have 2 very close friends now, I have known both of them for well over 12 years and they have never changed. My best friend moved to another city, despite that fact, she still calls me everyday and whenever she comes to our city to visit family, she always leaves a day that she can come to visit me and my family. If these people are really your friends they should treat you with respect and it doesn't seem like you are feeling respected. I hope that my response has given you something to think about.

i define friendship as a person you do not have to be in touch with constantly to maintain the bonds of friendship but one that you can just pick up where you left off. everyone has busy lives and problems and just because someone is not in touch all of the time it does not mean they are no longer your friend. it just means there are other things going on in their lives. a true friend will understand that and not question it. true friends are there for you when you need them no matter what.

hi.
its true that its really hard to find real friend.. a friend that you can count on when you are down. not just there when you are in your ups.. true friendship for me is understanding each other.. care for each other... there are times that we cannot give enough time for the people we care because of our own situations but we can offer prayers for them especially if they are in needs.. we share what we can share.
but others are so demanding. they are asking more than what we can offer.. assume things that we cannot do.. there are people who only think for their own good.. sad to say they are not being a real friend..