I should be so lucky!

Hi there leatherandlatex

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter, it won't be easy but I am sure you will cope, you have done so far. It is difficult to live with a man like that, I did it for 10 years. I am now out of that situation and lead a very happy life with my kids. I agree with you when you say that we have to cope with the hand that is dealt to us and I guess some people cope better with certain situations than others or maybe they just think they can't cope!

Thanks for your response and great user name by the way!!

Gosh L, I'm so sorry to hear about your little girl. I just watched a doc on tv the other day about triplets that were all blind and deaf. I know how you must feel. You are a courageous woman and you have a wonderful perspective on your life despite the current circumstances. And at least your little angel has her health. That is really all that mattere. Every thing else can be handled and risen above because she is there making you stronger every day. I too went through a bit of time where hubby wasn't working and supporting us like he should have been and it was hard to get through. I can't imagine trying to do it in the circumstances of todays economy. But you have faith and have the drive to continue on in the most positive manner you can and that is the important thing. I said a little prayer for your baby. Have a good day!

Allisandra is still amazing and she still crawls around and laughs at everything she hears. You shouldn't pity me or her because there is a reason for everything and everyone. She doesn't know any different. She was born that way so that's how she learns. We're learning with her. Allisandra puts the color and the laughter in our world. She's great! Thank you for your prayer. I think we all need a little prayer time and again. God bless you.

I didn't mean to imply pity. I know it's not something that most people want. I respect you and admire you. That's all. It's about having respect for someone who is staying strong and positive despite a difficult situation. And I'm sure your daughter is very happy and otherwise unaffected. I didn't mean to offend. I'm sorry.

You didn't imply pity, but I usually have to say not to pity her because most people do. They say things like "Oh, poor baby". She doesn't know any different. Thank you for the respect, but i'm just living my life day to day like any other mother would. I have to keep faith because there is none with my husband. He's an athiest so he doesn't believe that God can cure. He doesn't believe that God can make anything happen if you pray and ask in his name. It makes it hard, but we're making it. I appreciate your comments. You did not offend at all. I was actually talking about the comment above yours.

Hi ya psspurgeon1

I am glad that you like my discussion. I too love the life I have right now and maybe I have my husband (not yet ex) to thank for that. Never thought I'd be saying that! He gave me my lovely kids and then pushed us away from the terrible life we had! I must admit that it did take courage but I found it from somewhere and now I am here!

Thanks for sharing your ups and downs and I wish you all the best for the furture.

Thanks psspurgeon

Hey dawny

I am sorry to hear that things aren't to great for you right now but life moves on quickly and I am sure you will be in a better place soon.

Take care dawn

Marriage counseling, giving it a year...
After that, things will be different and hopefully better.:-)

Hi ya ANTIQUELADY

I guess there is only so much a humanbeing can take before they have to get themselves out of a certain situation. My brother seems to be happy ish now even though he is hen pecked and I think has got to the stage where it is put up and shut up!!

Thanks ANTIQUE

Hi ya dmrone

Well I don't think I would be where I am today without having those downs as I am certainly having more than my fair share of ups right now. Sorry to everyone who is having more downs than ups!

Thanks for your response

Hi ya apples99

I think to a certain degree we do make our own luck but I think that sometimes it is fate. Maybe it was fate that has got me to the place I am now but it was certainly bad luck the way I went around getting there Hahahaha!! My husband did actually tell someone after I fled that I was only with him because I wanted children!! I did laugh so much because I told them that don't they think that if that was the case I would have found an easier way of doing that by marrying someone else!!! LOL

Thanks apples

Hi ya messageme

I have made some wrong decisions in life too but I always learn by them and that is important. I think that it is part of life and growing as a person. My mum turns 60 this year and I am sure she is still making the wrong choices but she has made some good ones too. I am in the middle of both of my brothers, one has made life look easy, the other makes a hard job of it and me, well I have had lots of good times and equally lots of bad. Good luck in the future

Thanks messageme

Hi there zhuuraan

I am glad to hear that you don't have a temper tantrum, that wouldn't be good. I know what you mean though, some people just can't cope with the difficulties in life even they aren't as worse off as a lot of people! I am so glad to hear that you have the support of a good man though, it is important to have at least one person in your life that you can trust and depend on.

Thank you so much for your response

Hi ya thebeaddoodler

There's always someone who wants to go one better!! LOL . Well it sounds like you have done a darn good job of bringing your kids up well adjusted despite the circumstances. My kids are still young and I have still quite some way to go with them yet but I am determined they will turn out to be good individuals. I agree with you totally when you say it does depend on how we view our problems as individuals.

Thanks a lot for your lovely response

Hey there toma0210 and welcome to myLot

That is great to know but what is normal? LOL

Thanks for your response and happy mylotting