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I agree with you ...

I agree primarily because that 9 year old child with a fever of 103 should never be left alone. As to the 3 year old I think she wasn't ready for an adoption of a special needs child and I don't believe she was tricked because adoption agencies normally require the adoptive parent to get to know the child and spend some time bonding and I find the adoption agency was neglective in not observing her lack of attachment to the child based on her comments to you. In my opinion she don't need children.

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yeah i totally agree, she is a mother and should be more responsable, even if she hadnt bonded she should have the sense to stay with them or seek medical help

I agree with you karen. I think this woman is definitely resentful and I think she is probably right and the agency has foistered this baby onto her under false pretences. I would be devastated if that happened to me and I think I would become rather unstable around my kids as a result. Now I'm not excusing her but I think this is what has happened...I think this person is terribly upset and depressed and has possibly lost some of her reasoning. She is a teacher too so there should be nothing to prevent her having time off to tend to her unwell children...who normally looks after the little one I wonder while this person is at work?

Personally, I think the children AND the mother are in serious trouble and definitely need help. One would need to be careful when reporting to the authorities because I don't think this woman is to be blamed. She has ended up with a child she not only does not want but one for whom she feels no love or affection. I think this is terribly sad.

It is very sad!

Ms.Tickle....
If she (the mother) believes that the adoption agency has done this horrible thing to her, given her a defective child, instead of a healthy one. Um, I know this sounds crude, but is there a warranty? I mean, she must have signed a contract for adoption, right? And, um, do you think she was guaranteed a child free of known health defects? If so, she can sue them and get a replacement. From a purely legal point of view.

But if she was not guaranteed this, in writing, then what would have happened if she had a child of her own and it developed these health problems? I mean, what would she do then? Try to kill it, like she is this one? If she was incapable of dealing with the problems, she would give it up for adoption.

If you have been given a miracle of life, you should accept and love them as they are, or give it away to someone else who can give it the love and acceptance that you cannot. It's that simple. You don't try to kill it with neglect. That is just atrocious.

You don't have to love a child to care for it properly. Give it basic fundamental needs, you know?

So, it would actually be best if Childrens Services did get involved. They would provide counselling, and likely have the child placed with someone that won't neglect it, until they can find it a permanent home that will love it. Or work with the mother to resolve the issues. They usually do everything they can to keep the family unit intact, first and foremost. Their last resort is removing the child permanently.

If this lady has an issue with the adoption, she should either take it up with them directly, or give the child up for adoption herself, since it is obvious she doesn't want it.

So, what about the 8 yr old. How is it okay for her to leave him alone, and even when he needs extra care because he is sick.

Sorry, but I still feel she is UNFIT and she IS TO BLAME, 100%. She is the adult responsible for their care and is subject to the laws governing her area to ensure the safety of BOTH of those children. JMO.

Well said Annie!

Sorry my friend, please compare her previous post against this one before you declare blatantly.

Ref:
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1910862.aspx

It is totally warped and misguiding. Furthermore, the account is quite tainted. No offense here, ronaldinu. I believe truth must be told.

skysuccess, what do you mean? I am confused.

I am confused as well. I seem to be missing the point that you are trying to make.

Skysuccess...
You have only posted a link the the first discussion that stated that the children were left alone. This one asks if you would report the mother for it.

So, where do you get;
- tainted?
- misguiding?
- warped?

I think the words that you used may very well apply to you, not ronaldinu.

You have not posted any other 'truth'. We are all interested in the truth, of course. If you want to refute ronaldinu's claims, prove it!