Can your spouse’s obsession with someone famous go too far ?
By ronnyb
@ronnyb (6113)
Jamaica
February 23, 2009 12:40pm CST
She speaks about him all the time when you are together and even when she s with her friends . She speaks about his well developed abdomen and big muscular arms with such longing and desire. And then right after that looks at you and says that you need to do something about your big round potbelly. She might even have a big poster of her hero in your bedroom and you often catch her staring at him and occasionally when she passes she brushes a light kiss to his lips and rub his abdomen slightly
Do you think the behavior I have just described going too far or would jealousy in such a situation be petty ? What if she actually met the person in real life and in a romantic situation, don’t you think that she would be cheat? Or is that one too many maybe’s for you and you should just write this off as petty jealousy and remember where she sleeps every night ?
Worse if she doesn’t respond to you the way she does this person .
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7 responses
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
23 Feb 09
I think any obsession can go too far. Even if there is no chance your spouse would ever meet this person the fact that she would compare you to him could be hurtful. Famous people have many more opportunities to make themselves 'perfect' than us average people. They have the financial means that many of us don't have and they have the personal connections. Just because the guy may look perfect doesn't necessarily mean he has a great attitude either.
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@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
23 Feb 09
Yes you are right (Fatal attraction right lol).Yes it is more that your ego could be hurt by the comparison.I think it is always difficult for ordinary persons to compare with people who are famous by virue of fame and financial prowessas you say.I believe however ,if you care about someone you should try not to make them feel bad and even though you may consider your obsession trivial it could be hurtful to someone else
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
17 Mar 09
Everyone is a fan of some stars. But telling you to get rid of your pot belly. Keepinfg a huge poster of him in Your bedroom, tha's going too far. Maybe I am too senstive but if my guy had a full size poster of his favorite movie star,in the gedroom, he would be sleeping in that room alone. I would move out so he and his truie love could be alone.He doesn't Really weant me, he wAnts her. If I love him, then I would leave.because I want him to be happy and obviously I M NOT WHAT HE rEALLY WANTS.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
24 Feb 09
I would be concerned about such an obsession not necessarily because of the cheating factor but the fact that it shows a disturbed personality who cannot distinguish between reality and fantasy; after all any well balanced individual would recognize the futility of worshipping someone you will probably never meet. I think that part of the attraction is the fantasy and if she ever met the person he would probably lose his appeal. 
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
24 Feb 09
I definately think it can go too far. In my pinion, if an obsession with a celebrity gets to the point where you are actually comparing your partner with that celebrity and wanting them to dress and act and look more like the celbrity, there is a problem. If it is a healthy things, you may mention it once in a while, but you do not compare your partner to that person.
For example, I know that my husband thinks that Mariah Carey is a beautiful woman with a beutiful voice. I agree with him. He knows that I love watching movies with Tom Cruise and Patrick Swayze, especially their older movies. He thinks I am silly for it. We may tease each other about those celebrities, but he would never tell me that he wished I were taller or that I dressed like her, and I would never tell him that I want him to change a thing about himself to resemble the celebrity men I think are good looking and talented.
I could not sleep in the same bed as my husband if I felt that he was so obsesse with a celebrity that he compared me to her all the time. I would not sleep in the same room asd him if he had oinups all over the walls!
As I said before, if an obsession with a celebrity gets to the point where you try to change your partner or you make them feel inferior, it has gone too far.
@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
24 Feb 09
It could, if the person is an obsessive. She might be thinking she could do better, and there's that guy on the wall she might meet and he might fall in love with her....
We all have our little fantasies. I know I went through some while in mid-life. I seriously considered an affair. It was the hormones talking. Even though I knew it was, it was HARD to stop thinking about cheating. I'm a very ethical person, and I couldn't quit!! It was awful, it really was. I am so very glad those nasty things are under control now, and that I never gave in. (I wrote stories about it, to get it out of my system and try to control it)
Be glad you're a guy. At least, I hope guys don't go through these hormone things. They make you nuts.
By the way, in case you're wondering. My hubby has a pot belly, and a beard. He's still the most wonderful man in the entire world. He put up with my weirdness during those hormonal things, so he's pretty close to a saint in my book!! (With just enough orneriness to make him comfortable to live with)
@ibanag22 (35)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
dont be afraid she's just having this annual crush. Are u just married for a few yrs?? then maybe she hadnt adjusted yet to her new life/ situation. And maybe she's just making u jealous tht u'd pay more attention to her. If ur worried just ask her after all ur her husband. ---austin---
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
23 Feb 09
yes, i think people get carried away. u can't live in a dream life u have to face reality & i think that's hard for some people.
