I love my mother but she is driving me crazy

You have to tell her that you are not interested in these stories[this does not speak poorly of your love or duty for her but says that you do have a right to express your displeasure with certain things.]If she acts hurt then you would have to explain to her once how she would feel if you go on boring about something thta is of absolutely no interest to her. Believe me, sometimes if you say things firmly your mother would listen.On the other hand, when you just let things go beyond control , one day, you will say it firmer than it really called for at that particular point of time[you see it would be like the last straw breaking the camel's back] and then she is going to be terribly upset about it an d she is not going to realise htat she has irritated you and brought you to this level. Old peopel w ould tend to get very righteous.Even if she does not throw tantrums you would feel all the more miserable on having said it.Bette call a halt sooner than later to save relationships.

hmm.... i think your mom is way way better than the mom that one of my friends have...she's sooo controlling.. and he's 30 years old... he's still living at home with his parents because his mom has depression.. and so dad has to be home to look after her... and he's the only one working.... when he goes out with friends... she starts calling at 8pm.. asking where he is.. and when he's getting home...... when he tells her that he will be late.. she starts screaming telling him to come home...... and whole day she grumbles grumbles grumbles... when they were back home... she used to even lock him and her husband in the house... so that they wouldnt go out...

i'm so sorry that you have to experience such a bad time with your mum... i have experience this with my mum in the past as well... what i did was i told her honestly that i am annoyed with her actions and asked her politely to stop them... and if she wouldn't, then i will just ignore her... anyway, i had given her a warning and if she choose to ignore me, then i will ignore her as well... take care and have a nice day...

I cant really help you on how to stop this coz I used to suffer from the same problem. about two years back, I was working as the receptionist and telephone operator of a company and she would call me up at all time of the day and expect me to hold on and listen attentively to her every word (which were as much important as your mom’s)…I was of course on the verge of losing my job by being on the telephone practically all the time. And any time I complained that I could not really chat up to her in the office, she would caustically remind me of those days when as a child, I would spend the days alone at home during the vacations and call her up at her office! Can you imagine…comparing a lonely child to a bored lady of 60…I guess some people never really mature….they don’t see the world in the entire context, only in their own context. Its not that they are selfish or don’t care, but they just don’t understand how they are inconveniencing somebody else. And we being the daughters, we of course have no right to feel inconvenienced, right! You may of course try the ‘I’m just a bit busy right now…the milk’s boiling over…somebody’s at the door….I’ve just got to go and pee’ and similar tactics but I don’t they would really work.

I think you could change your roles.If possible you could send a humours message to your mother,insist on it and see what will happen to your mother.And a deep conversation between you must help.

maybe you need a conversation with her

Simply tell her it annoys you and just give you stuff that may interest you. plain and simple.Then let her know that her husband is pain in the butt and call it a day. Tell her you love her and if she want to be blind to it fine, but just let you know what is relevant is only accepted on your text. If that don't get her, tell her the recession hit you and you can't take text messages.