Approval? Approval is stupid. Why do you care if others approve or not?  | | | | Just answer the question. One word answers like 'because' will not be tolerated. If you write a novel I wish I could publish it for you. I keep seeing people return to this subject. Why won't he/she approve of me, why don't your parents/friends/dog/car (etc) approve of me, I don't see why you don't approve of my decision to delay college/get a job/move out/ leave the country/ be a singer/ hide under a rock. Why do we give OTHER PEOPLE and THINGS this power of 'approval' over us? Why can't we just DO WHAT WE WANT and not care about this approval thing? For me it's acceptance. I really prefer that people just accept things. Accepting doesn't mean APPROVING. Accepting doesn't mean you agree. It simply means that it is what it is and you aren't going to change my mind or get in my way and that's the end of it. I AM in favor of that. I feel that is how people need to interact in order to get along. I am still stuck on this approval thing though. It's petty. It doesn't matter. It changes nothing except for making a situation or life EASIER. Didn't anybody warn you life wasn't easy? Bottom line, if you allow the fact that someone doesn't approve of you or something you do to CHANGE who you are or WHAT YOU DO, what does that say about you? That you're willing to cave in to pressure from others? That you aren't actually proud of who you are? That you think others are right and you're wrong? What a sad thing to believe about yourself. BTW if you don't approve of my right to complain about this, I don't care. I do hope that you accept it needs to be said though. | | | | | | | | | | Instant Approval Cards Credit card offers that match your credit profile. Instant approval. CreditCards.com/Instant
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| 1. AngryKittyMSV (1913)
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3 years ago
| | Although you do not require my approval, I thoroughly approve of your essay here. When you plan your life based on what others may think, you have given away your power to control your own life, you have handed your destiny over to the winds of opinion, you have squandered the freewill that you were given by the Creator. Your mind is a gift - USE IT! The people I let into my life are accepted by me for who they are, even if they do things that I would not choose for myself, it is their business. If what they do is completely unacceptable to me, I may try to advise them if I think it is harmful, but ultimately I'd have to let them go because I can't be surrounded with people who do things I find abhorrent. I don't need anyone's approval, it's nice to have it, but I don't need it. I don't need acceptance from anyone but my loved ones, and if people can't accept who I am then they are welcome to kiss my asss and walk away. | | | | | | | mommyboo (4303)
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3 years ago
| | Have I told you how much I love you lately, MSV? I hope that the rest of the crew shows up here... you know... Stormy, Dana, rottenlittledog, myklj, etc... I don't know why I got so vent-heavy about this subject, probably because I happened upon something like FOUR threads within 20 minutes all with references towards people approving or not approving and the original poster's (or someone else's) subsequent choice to CHANGE something due to it. It just made me angry. Who gives AWAY their power? That goes against the code of our human society. If I believed that then I'd believe people ASK to be abused, to be neglected, to be assaulted, to be a doormat. People don't ask for things like that. | | | | AngryKittyMSV (1913)
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3 years ago
| | Who gives away their power? People who think so little of themselves that they base their entire self worth on the opinions of others. And yes, some of them are kind of asking for abuse, they certainly do nothing to prevent it and give no indications that abuse won't be tolerated, because they feel they are not worth the effort. | | | | | | | | | | | Instant Approval Cards Credit card offers that match your credit profile. Instant approval. CreditCards.com/Instant | add comment | | | |
| 2. thelastwolf113 (2987)
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3 years ago
| | I don't care. Never did and never will. I live my life for me, MY approval is all I need. | | | | | | | | | | | | Credit Cards & Rewards Compare Top Credit Card Reward Offers & Cash Back Cards www.comparecardsnow.com | add comment | | | |
| | | mommyboo (4303)
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3 years ago
| | I like this! I was just chatting with a friend the other day about perfection - why do we all seek it? It's an illusion and once you have it, it doesn't matter any more lol. I don't have anything when I have approval. My LIFE is easier probably but what is the tradeoff? Not being true to myself is usually the likely result. That makes the approval worth nothing to me. | | | | | | | Best Credit Cards See the Top Rated Credit Cards in the USA listed in a sortable chart. www.banktruth.org/creditcards/ | add comment | | | |
| 4. book1962 (16793)
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3 years ago
| | hi mommyboo thats what I have asked myself many many times in my life. I was raised in a very strict way, by my mom, aunt and Grandma, after my parents divorced when I still was very small. From the time I could well understand and use the word NO I was denied approval in my life. Mind you I never did any of these shocking things like skipping school, having to repeat a class, shocking bad grades, smoking underage, drugs, boys, alcohol and the like. Yet only cause I am just not the family type who will rip herself apart for the Clans Sake and always nod an approving yes to every expectation, I was and am the black sheep. The major decisions in my life where I really went against my mothers wishes were to leave the Catholic Church and become a Baptist with 25 ( returned to th Catholics later when I felt my time at these free churches was over and done with for several reasons) then moving out with the glorious age of 30 when the job I had was stable enough to do so And in 2005 getting married to someone who is disabled and so cant just go and earn money for the family. Marrying down the social ladder which made my mother mad at first and on top of all this go and relocate 3,5 hours drive by car or train though my mother is old now. Simply as I think I have the right to my own life. Relocating does not mean neglecting my mom. I phone her several times a week and visit her for her special days like Mothers Day, Birthday, Saints Day and Christmas of course. My family also has to accept what I do and how I live. Whether they approve of it or not. There is a saying, your freedom ends where my freedom begins. And I think you are right as long as one considers this saying in her or his life and is a little bit compassionate to others as well theres nothing wrong to just do what you think is right regardless of approval. | | | | | | | | | | Credit Card Comparison Compare Credit Card Terms & Save! Compare all Credit Card Offers Today! CompareCC.com/CreditCards | add comment | | | |
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